<p>That very well may be jazzymom. That would be a bitter pill for DadII to have to explain to brother.</p>
<p>I find it rather curious that, for someone with a need for merit aid, that no other public universities were put on the list--particularly for one living in the middle of the Big Ten schools. I think, in a semi-lucid moment, the in-state flagship was added as a financial safety (perhaps at the urging of a GC or boss) with the thought that D could not possibly end up there. Now, as the once unthinkable seems increasingly likely--DII even posted on the Ohio State thread once that it was D's second favorite on her list--DII is pulling out all the stops to ensure that what he views as a horrible mistake (allowing her to apply to even one public) doesn't end up costing him face with brother.</p>
<p>Disclaimer: I'm not a psychiatrist, but I did stay in a Holiday Inn Express last night.</p>
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<p>I think the brother's D is a Phd student from Stanford right? Engineering too? Well at this level, they pay you to go to college. It's harder at the undergraduate level.</p>
<p>My personal take is that pulling that plug was all about control. Pure and simple, he was furious that his daughter volunteered at the school that evening, although, it sounds as if she was finished by 8 pm. He was furious that she didn't work on her scholarship application on his time frame, so he made it impossible for her to finish. </p>
<p>DadII, in case you haven't gotten it yet, this action was cutting off your nose to spite your face. It served no useful purpose, other than allowing you to bully your daughter, cause her distress, and for you to throw another temper tantrum over her volunteer activities at school. </p>
<p>The girl is not out partying and running with the wrong crowd. She's at her school, staying involved, and having the type of senior year that we would all hope our kids enjoy. She's also winning awards and keeping up a phenomenal gpa.</p>
<p>You started thread out by saying you Feel bad, really really bad. Do you actually feel bad? I know I do...I feel really really bad for your daughter and son.</p>
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<p>Lol. Same here.</p>
<p>Actually, I don't find it surprising that someone going through the application process for the first time, first kid, would completely misinterpret the rules of the FA/MA game and not realize the mistakes and missed oportunities until the apps were already in. And the landscape has changed again, with the new more generous policies for defining "need" for the purposes of FA at HYP. </p>
<p>I wonder if Dad11 will find that the bully tactic worked and D, saddled with the do or die pressure of winning the big scholarship at Duke or elsewhere, will do as Dad wants and work on those apps night and day until the deadline. I hope she's successful, even if that means Dad will feel completely justified in his approach.</p>
<p>Check out Dad II's advice on the "too much stress" thread.</p>
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What is there to worry?
If your D has done her part with her best effort and all the documents are in. Then it is out of her hands and worrying does not help at all.
<p>I am not sure if Dad II actually unplugged the computer, he may be yanking our chains on this thread.</p>
<p>I just read one of his posts about taking his daughter to Ohio State's Maximum Scholarship competition. From what I gathered applicants are interviewed and applicants are asked to write an essay onsite. </p>