I feel like such a failure

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<p>No its NOT racist at all...those were reasons given by many posters....using race themselves as an excuse for the expectionations of only the IVYS being good enough...I never brought up the race of the poster, others did...that was done by others and my point was this- either they are new immigrants who don't understand higher education(that was one reason given) or they are very educated people who do understand and that is why they only accept the Ivys- which is it and why is either acceptable?</p>

<p>As for outside the US- please I am very well traveled and lived in three other countries, imagine that</p>

<p>Also, I live in one of the most racialy diverse cities on the planet and have many friends from all over the place...and my h is an immigrant, so don't assume I haven't a clue</p>

<p>I just think that at some point, this love of ivy only, this expectation of only the top few schools is unreasonable pressure to put on any student, no student should feel like they have disappointed ANYONE if they didn't win the lottery, nor should they be embarrassed if they go to a different school</p>

<p>And there are MANY notions of other cultures I disagree with and would fight to get the ideas changed- for instance, denying girls schooling, etc- that is just wrong, no matter what the culture is</p>

<p>We had a few suicides last year because of unwarranted pressure to get into top schools. The kids felt they had shamed their families.</p>

<p>Is that what we want? Or should we try and get it across that there is no shame or failure in not getting into one of 8 schools, that is wonderful to get into NC or Fordham or USF or SFSTATE</p>

<p>It is our responsibility to show that there is more then just one path to success, that sometimes, no matter how hard you work, some doors to certain schools just don't open and that those other doors that do open are indeed wonderful opportunities and not to be degraded</p>

<p>Read other posts, they are racist indeed, saying that the narrow minded reasons for only accepting the Ivys are because of a persons race...hmmm</p>

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<p>Why u guys get worked up over troll posts?
"I had to drink a caramel Macchiato to make myself feel better". Nobody says that in real threads even they had been in caramel Machiato overload (:.</p>

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<p>This post only stregthens my belief that so many of these kids who get into my dream schools don't appreciate it.</p>

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<p>If I were Harvard, I'd rather have students who got to Harvard because they had a passion for learning and leadership, not because they had a passion to do the things that they felt that if they dutifully checked off would get them in Harvard.</p>

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<p>I agree, pizzagirl. Some applicants think it's their right to attend these schools and are pressured way too much by their families. </p>

<p>What they don't realize is how lucky they are, how much opportunity they have been handed and how competitive the admissions process is.</p>

<p>A girl at my school is "stressed" because she has to choose between Dartmouth, Rice, UCLA & a number of other great schools. Poor thing.</p>

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<p>I think you place way too much importance on ivy schools. In reality, the ivy league is an athletic conference, and the schools you got into are all fantastic. Try thinking about where you might enjoy studying and living for the next few years -- not what athletic conference a school is in! Congratulations.</p>

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<p>Booo, your life sucks, please kill yourself. you're an embrassment to your family.
seriously, think for yourself. stop being controlled by your parents. the OP is funny, but also a sad human at the same time.</p>

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Booo, your life sucks, please kill yourself. you're an embrassment to your family.
seriously, think for yourself. stop being controlled by your parents. the OP is funny, but also a sad human at the same time.

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<p>if you are gonna write this sort of posts here, please don't post. Not everyone takes college rejections at the same trauma level. Some, like the OP here, gets hit really hard by ivies rejections even if this may not be a logical thing for him to do, especially considering the fact that he got into some very good schools. I am sure as time goes by, he will move on and realize his potential and be satified at his college of choice. After all, this person has every right to be ticked off after all the sweat and tears he sowed in h.s. just to get into ivies, in addition to his parents' sacrifices. Be sensitive about what you post, since it may really do harm to those who got rejected and are really struggling.</p>

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I think you'll be surprised that the majority of doctors out there really didn't go to "fancy" undergrad schools.

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That's because there are more non-ivy schools than ivy schools.</p>

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<p>guys guys, hasn't anyone ever told you "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all"</p>

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<p>Maybe its best we just stop posting on this thread... I did not intend it to go on like this... </p>

<p>Thank you</p>

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<p>"I think you'll be surprised that the majority of doctors out there really didn't go to "fancy" undergrad schools." </p>

<p>"That's because there are more non-ivy schools than ivy schools."</p>

<p>So what does that tell you about the OP's "fear" that the Ivy students would have a leg up in admissions to med school?</p>

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<p>Hello OP. It's a bit ironic that you're complaining about not having gotten into an Ivy especially since you're talking about premed/med school.</p>

<p>Even if you've gotten into Brown, Cornell, UPenn, Columbia, Dartmouth...JHU would be an even better pick for premed than those "top" schools.</p>

<p>Really.</p>

<p>Maybe even HYP, but idk about the premed programs in those schools</p>

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<p>Why do you guys even bother trying to reason with the OP? Even if he is for real, it's clear that he's not reading any of this stuff. He's just a noob who created an account to vent since he can't stand up to his parents, or anyone else, in real life.</p>

<p>What still confuses me is the fact that a person would apply to JHU despite not caring about the place.</p>

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And there are MANY notions of other cultures I disagree with and would fight to get the ideas changed- for instance, denying girls schooling, etc- that is just wrong, no matter what the culture is

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<p>Whatever that culture is, they don't need other cultures imposing other ideas. Everyone culture does things for a reason.</p>

<p>PS: IMHO, they deny girl's schooling because they don't want a society where the children aren't taken care of at home. If girls go into the workforce, who's going to look after the children?</p>

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<p>"IMHO, they deny girl's schooling because they don't want a society where the children aren't taken care of at home. If girls go into the workforce, who's going to look after the children?"</p>

<p>I think you should read a lot more. The cultures that deny women schooling deny women ALL schooling basically because they think women are inferior. They kill girls who secretly go to school, and they kill the teachers who teach them.</p>

<p>In some of these places, women can only get medical attention from females, yet females aren't allowed to become educated or to work. Consequently, there aren't female medical practitioners and women can't get medical care. </p>

<p>And, "There are several factors that lead to poor pregnancy outcome in developing countries. These need to be studied extensively. Poor socio-economic status of the woman, low literacy and poor nutrition are all contributory to poor health, which are compounded by poor access to health care. These factors increase the pregnancy-related risks leading to high maternal mortality and neonatal death rates.12 Thus, we should emphasize the need for overall improvements in women's education and health as the foundation to better pregnancy outcome. "
A</a> Global View of Advancing Neonatal Health and Survival
Are these things oK with you?</p>

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<p>People why do you feel like such a failure, 1. rejected, 2. nervous about the admissions, 3.bad at school, 4. or just feel cause you are not good at anything.</p>

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<p>I understand that finishing High School makes you feel all kind of ways. I understand that many students feel this way because they havent accomplish all of their goals. What I can say towards this Forum is that you must take a step forward towards your dreams. This world gives you all kind of opportunities. I was tought at home that if i was newgative things were going to go bad. if I decided to think positive, hopefully my dreams would come true</p>