<p>I moved into school on Saturday, and I was so excited about it! My first weekend here was good, but now I'm just home sick and I feel so alone. I get along with my roommate, but we don't really hang out outside of our room or class. My roommate has friends here from her old high school, so she's always hanging out with them. I've met some people in class and at parties, but it hasn't gotten past introductions and small talk. I eat most of my meals alone, which totally bums me out. I miss my family, my boyfriend, and the group of friends I had back home so much, and I just feel upset most of the time. I don't know what to do to get over it though, and I feel like I'm never going to make friends at school! Any help with this would be more than welcomed!</p>
<p>Its totally normal to feel that way, the first few weeks of college are hard. I packed up and moved 2,000 miles away from my hometown. I did not know a single soul there. My roommate had done the summer program there so she had already made lots of friends. She invited me to hang out with them a few times, but I didn’t really click with all of her friends and I wanted to make some of my own. I remember the first few weeks were hard. I would go to the library and do my homework alone all the time.</p>
<p>I tried randomly sitting down and talking to people but my college was so small they weren’t really receptive to that and there were already a ton of cliques. So I would try to make friends with one or two people in my classes and ask them if they wanted to grab lunch. Its really easy if you have similar schedules. Also, as cheesy as they are, go to all of your RA meetings and those “getting to know you/freshman orientation” events. I didn’t go to those and regret not going. You meet a ton of people and even if you don’t become friends with all of them, they are people that you can go to lunch with. I made friends in my classes and that’s how I ended up making friends easiest.</p>
<p>Remember: All those freshman who know people and act like they know what they’re doing are just as lonely and homesick as you are. Chances are you’re bound to find people to hang out with. You just have to reach out.</p>
<p>ugh I feel the eeexact same way! I see everyone hanging out and I can’t help wondering how everyone else has ALREADY made so many friends, when we haven’t even been here that long. If I’m not alone eating or wandering around, I’m sitting in my dorm alone on my computer.</p>
<p>sorry i deleted because i felt self conscious but here i’ll post it again since you replied!</p>
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<p>It would be easier to go out and meet people if I had made one good friend so it’s not awkward, but for me it’s just more comfortable and less awkward to stay in my dorm since I don’t really know anyone well enough and cause I’m kind of shy. I hope that once classes pick up, everyone will become busier so I won’t feel like the only person eating alone and keeping to myself.</p>
<p>chachacharlee–My situation is almost exactly like yours! Only difference being I am a guy and I miss my girlfriend. Most people I talk to say that the best way to meet people is to join all kinds of clubs and weed out the ones that end up not interesting you, and once you find a club you like then the other club members should have similar interests. I hope everything works out for you.</p>
<p>We are absolutely like twins! When I go to parties with my roommate, I have no problem talking to people, but none of those friends ever stick, just like in class. I feel way to awkward when I’m alone outside of class to talk to anyone and make a couple good friends. I’m just hoping eventually something will click with someone in class or on my floor or something.</p>
<p>I feel the same as many of you. I have a roommate who I get along with but I really need more friends, I don’t want to have to rely on her to go get dinner with me. I have met a ton of people but for some reason I never get to the level after small talk. I don’t know what to do! I find myself constantly thinking of how lonely I am and have to fight back the tears.
I can do the small talk about how classes are and stuff, but I can’t make any bonds beyond that.I don’t understand how all the other freshmen are already surrounded with friends and I literally have none. Is there any one that can give some advice? A helpful hint?</p>
<p>Parent here. I totally feel for you. I remember the first or second day after I moved in to my dorm sitting on my bed and crying. I heard other students in the hallway laughing and having a good time. I felt like I would never make any friends. It gets better. Just give it some time.</p>
<p>I’m a freshman, and kinda the same as you. But just give it time, and hopefully things will work out. As they said, join clubs that interest you and try to talk to some people anywhere.</p>
<p>I am from out of state and my roommate had several friends from his high school here. I usually eat by myself also. My roommate and myself rarely eat together, as he have high school friends here and he’s in intramural soccer. I rarely see him outside of our dorm room and our polisci class.</p>
<p>But I am in two clubs in my school, so I don’t really feel too alone. I am also going to rush a fraternity in the spring…and if that goes well, I should be busy socially…</p>
<p>I actually didnt really feel like that at all first semester, but ill admit it kicked in at times second semester and even a little now. Its hard, but as my mother always says part of being an adult is learning to be alone at times, strange as that sounds. You have to be learn to be able to stand on your own. But of course we all need friends, so what I would suggest is to walk around the hall, keep your door open, or just smile and say hi to someone you see walking alone and strike up a random conversation. I met the girl i dated for a bit freshman year doing that exact thing leaving math class. I am 700 miles away from home so last year i talked to people on the FB page, and met people at orientation. Im still good friends with the people that i met at orientation two years later. You actually will meet a fair amount of people through class if you work at it, i always make it a point to talk to at least 2 people in every class. Youll be fine, Rome wasnt built in one day and you seem like a great person, just remember, relationships in college require a lot of effort, with both friendships and dating, in HS it just falls into your lap, here youve gotta be proactive…best advice i can give let me know if you want to talk.</p>