<p>GUG? Yeah, that’s usually for women though, except maybe if you go to Wesleyan.</p>
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<p>Gays might not pursue straight guys like they would a prospective gay dating partner but it’s a well-known fact that gay guys PREFER straight guys, and that alone can make things awkward already. In other words, just because gay guys don’t make advances (and believe me, some do) doesn’t mean the living situation won’t be uncomfortable for both parties. Roommate questionnaires should ask if they will be comfortable rooming with a gay guy. </p>
<p>There are better ways for gays and straights to interact, for example living across the hall or next door to each other.</p>
<p>“it’s a well-known fact that gay guys PREFER straight guys”</p>
<p>Wow, I need to get out more. I was never aware of this “well known fact.”</p>
<p>"“it’s a well-known fact that gay guys PREFER straight guys”</p>
<p>There’s no such well known fact just like there’s no well known fact that straight guys prefer lesbians.</p>
<p>"The gay roommate will just have to deal with it like plenty of straight guys do when they get rejected by girls. I’m gay and I had a straight roommate last year and will again this year… I didn’t make sexual advances on him if that makes you feel better, buttercup! "</p>
<p>The above could have been written by one of my many gay friends who have had straight roommates.</p>
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Well, since it is a well-known fact, I think you should make it your responsibility to tell gay men. I don’t think they got the memo.</p>
<p>zoosermom, LOL!</p>
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I wonder why so many straight guys seem to think that they are simply irresistible to every gay guy. As a man, are you attracted to every single woman you encounter in your daily life? Are you incapable of being in the presence of each and every woman without your mind turning it into something sexual?</p>
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I’ve always wondered that myself.</p>
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Inquiring minds want to know. (But I suspect I already know the answer)</p>
<p>“Are you incapable of being in the presence of each and every woman without your mind turning it into something sexual?”</p>
<p>I think this is why straight guys think they’re irresistable.</p>
<p>Really? I’ve always suspected stupidity.</p>
<p>buttercup, you’ve already received many useful comments here. But I wanted to share another success story anyway. S ended up with a gay guy his first year too. Best roommate he could have asked for. His roomie made many friends and really helped somewhat shy S to meet alot of students that 1st (and important) year. And yes, S also met tons of girls the roommate befriended. So it was all good 
In fact, although the roommate left the school after the first year(due to Katrina and cutbacks, school dropped the major), S feels he was probably the best roommate he’d had looking back.</p>
<p>There are no guarantees ANY roommate will work out --but if it doesn’t, I’m guessing sexual orientation won’t be the reason.</p>
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<p>Well, what are the alternatives (in dorms where all the rooms are doubles)?</p>
<p>Could a gay guy room with a straight woman, Will and Grace style? Not according to most schools’ regulations, and if they didn’t previously know each other, it could be awkward. Also, the possibility of unrequited love exists here, too, although it would be the girl who would be disappointed. </p>
<p>About the only situation with no sexual tension at all would be gay guy with lesbian roommate, but this might be a bit hard to set up. </p>
<p>The real solution to all of this is to have dorms where the rooms are singles. But most colleges aren’t set up that way.</p>
<p>Among upperclassmen at schools where students tend to move off-campus after the first year or two, people of every possible description live in groups of every possible combination, and it mostly works out OK as long as nobody leaves water all over the bathroom floor or dirty dishes in the sink or has loud parties on the night before an apartment-mate’s crucial midterm exam. Men share apartments with women, gay people share apartments with straight people, established couples may live in the same apartment with other, unattached people of whatever gender and sexual orientation, and nobody seems to care much unless the “rules” change midstream (e.g., somebody wants his/her new significant other to move in, which increases the number of people sharing a bathroom and kitchen, perhaps to the breaking point). But in all of these situations (at least the ones I know of), each person has a bedroom of his/her own – and I think that makes all the difference.</p>
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Then there is no choice. The gay males have to live in underbed storage boxes so they can’t bother anyone else. Women aren’t as aggressive, so lesbians can be allowed to see the light of day.</p>
<p>I’ve noticed on my Parents of the class of 2014 thread that a lot of kids who got singles were disapointed because they wanted a roommate. I’m absolutely sure that just as many gay kids would like a roommate for companionship. They shouldn’t be excluded from that right of passage, so I wouldn’t support segregating them in singles. I go back and ask again. If you have a problem with a straight kid having a gay roommate, what are you afraid of? Do you think the gay kid is going to attack you?</p>
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<p>Better to say straight people generally aren’t sexually interested in “out” homosexuals. Before it was as accepted to be openly gay, lots of people were unknowingly married to closet homosexuals.</p>
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This is funny to me. I must have good gaydar or something, because I can often tell in an instant if a guy is gay - nothing subtle about it. Lesbians…eh, not so much.</p>
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<p>I wasn’t suggesting segregation or a system in which gay students would have preference in getting singles. My experience comes from having two kids in college (one now graduated and one entering senior year) who LOVED the opportunities they had to live in singles. Each of them lived on-campus for two years – once in a single and once in a double – and both saw huge advantages to the singles. Each of them also lived off-campus later on, in shared apartments where they had their own bedrooms. They liked that, too.</p>
<p>If our college housing was set up so that everyone had his or her own bedroom – the way college students usually do in England, for example – a lot of problems simply wouldn’t exist, but students would still have plenty of chances to meet friends in the dorms.</p>
<p>Entering freshmen may object to singles, but a lot of kids who have actually been to college think they’re wonderful (except for the fact that they are usually more expensive).</p>
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Straight kids often have a problem with their roommate(s) having liasons in their rooms, and boyfriends (or girlfriends) who spend the night. I could see that being a potential problem. Obviously, some agreement would need to be worked out if the issue arose.</p>
<p>Going OT here, but I think singles for upperclassmen aren’t the same thing as singles for freshmen, when they are still trying to meet people.</p>
<p>"Straight kids often have a problem with their roommate(s) having liasons in their rooms, and boyfriends (or girlfriends) who spend the night. I could see that being a potential problem. Obviously, some agreement would need to be worked out if the issue arose. "</p>
<p>Regardless of sexual orientation, roommates need to discuss in advance how to handle their need for private time with romantic partners. I know two gay people who were virgins throughout college and who needed to cope with being sexiled by promiscuous straight roommates.</p>
<p>How is that different than a straight roommate being having a liaison in the room?</p>
<p>“Roommate questionnaires should ask if they will be comfortable rooming with a gay guy.”</p>
<p>Really? Really?!? Come on. Should they also ask if they’re comfortable rooming with a white, black, asian, religious, atheist, genius, depressed, happy, or boring guy? Come on. If they added the “comfort level with gays” category to those questionnaires, what’s next?</p>