<p>I think we should stop speculating in public about a teenager who hasn’t asked for any of this. I have my analysis, too, but really it’s none of my business.</p>
<p>JHS…I think you have a good point about speculating the school. The D has not asked for every facet of her process to be so public or that more attention is being drawn to it still again by her dad here. It probably is best that her school is not revealed. Keeping his D’s best interests and privacy in mind, it would have been best to celebrate now in private. This thread is a tease to those who have been supportive and helpful all along and I can see why people want to know the outcome with yet another thread about how well it turned out and the money they got and so forth. The thread invites such questions. It isn’t really fair to the D and neither were a lot of the previous threads. That’s why I’m saying that if they understandably prefer privacy, don’t bring more attention to it publicly. Unfortunately, the D did not choose that or ask for any of it like you say. So, speculation of her college publicly is likely not in HER best interests. Neither is bringing more attention to it which is understandably getting others to want to know the outcome.</p>
<p>While the curiosity generated by the many threads started by DadII is understandable, the final decision by DadII’s daughter is absolutely irrelevant. This is not a puzzle that needs to be solved through clues such as Stanford’s acceptance of NMF or the cost for 3 people to travel to the admitted weekend. The bottom line is that, as far as we should be concerned, the lessons from which this community could learn have nothing to do with OSU, WUSTL, Cornell, or Duke being the “chosen” one. </p>
<p>All good tragedies require catharsis. Of course, this one was more Chekhov than Aristotle. :)</p>
<p>Xiggi, you think? I was going to suggest renaming the thread, “The House of Dad II.” :)</p>
<p>I think it’s more Danielle Steel.</p>
<p>“As the Admissions Saga Turns”</p>
<p>I have to say that the thread titles of this saga have been provacative to entice one to open up to see what they are about.</p>
<p>Funny, I also was excited to learn whether Dad II’s D would be at Stanford with my D2…I harbor no anger, but am still disappointed!</p>
<p>Ok people, calm down. Dad may be playing both ends against the middle here, but let’s lay off. If you are a person from a rural, underpopulated state with a kid at NYU in the performing arts and a kid graduating from Brown and going to MIT in architecture who was on the ski team it would take a teenager aprox. 30 seconds to identify your children- name, address, email address and most likely a photo link from someone else’s Facebook wall. So let’s give Dad the benefit of the doubt here… how many of us realize how many personal and identifying details we reveal about our kids here on a daily basis? And how many kooks there are in the real world, forgetting for a minute all the deviants and criminals?</p>
<p>blossom, I fully agree…people who share on CC are often easily identifiable. Dad II has shared a great deal and so sharing the name of the school at this point isn’t all that different but it is his perogative NOT to do so. I also have shared (since you bring up my kids in your post). One must decide how private they will be or not on the forums. It is a personal decision to make. It is a little confusing when someone has been very public and then publicly alludes to an outcome but doesn’t want to give it. Often, people have chosen one way or the other. But nobody is obligated to reveal more than they wish.</p>
<p>Mod Note:
This discussion went off on a tangent about song and literature titles that could represent facets of the college admissions process. I moved all of the posts on that topic to their own thread in the Parent Cafe. They can be found here:</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/503564-literature-song-titles-related-college-admissions-process.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/503564-literature-song-titles-related-college-admissions-process.html</a></p>
<p>Haven’t visited this thread in a while. I had thought that Stanford had been chosen, but it sounds like I was mistaken…maybe it’s been chosen, maybe it hasn’t.</p>
<p>This reminds me of the ending to the Sopranos…</p>
<p>LOL…ellemenope (Sopranos)</p>
<p>In the end, as blossom pointed out, I believe it’s better and safer, this way. </p>
<p>We can all write our personal ending. I’m thrilled that DadII let us know that it’s a happy ending (or beginning), regardless of the exact outcome.</p>
<p>I also agree that he’s entitled to his privacy, but I don’t think that it is appropriate to come on the boards and ask for so much help & support along the way and then turn around and be secretive about the choice in the end… especially when the financial aid aspects were such a strong factor. He’s asked for help but he doesn’t want to give back information - like which school was generous with financial aid to an upper middle class family. I’d also note that his d. was looking at large universities – it is not like a small LAC where it is very easy to identify a student. (For example, I don’t think it would be hard for anyone to figure out who the full-ride student from Texas with the named scholarship from Texas is… there can’t possibly be two). </p>
<p>The point isn’t that any parent should disclose personal info; its that a person who asks for help should give back pertinent info, because the next person coming down the line might want to know whether it was Stanford that proved most generous with financial aid, or whether the family was successful in negotiating aid with Duke after Stanford’s offer (and it was down to Stanford vs. Duke the last time he asked for our help – then again, if it turned out that Wash U came through with aid $$ or that there is some special program at OSU that can entice someone to turn down offers from elites… that, too, is knowledge that might be useful to someone considering similar schools).</p>
<p>I haven’t posted about my DS in quite awhile. He is graduating in a few weeks and did the music audition circuit this past winter. Our decision saga went right down to the skinny wire! A bit close for me but boy did we learn some lessons. Lesson #1: GET IT IN WRITING! He had been verbaled a “full out of state tuition shcolarship” by a big state U where he loved the prof in his instrument. After 4 auditions (big favorite state U included) we decided to bag 2 of his remaining auditions because of promises from the prof at said U. Long story short…big state U is in big $$$ mess and the scholarship did not come through. Soooo…thanks be to God that DS did audition at several other schools with teacher that he liked and he did earn a full tuition scholarship (and then some) at a safety. Lesson #2: love your safety. He will be living out lesson 2 next year. Anyway, we are all glad it is over and DS will be staying instate next year. Hopefully he can do some graduate study at his dream school…whatever it may be.</p>
<p>ps…it was neat reading some posts from people that I miss so much :soozievt, calmom, always love Bassdad, and many others. I am so busy even though DD is away in Boston and I just have the 2 DSs left at home. Now DD is addicted to CC!!! Too funny. She is ■■■■■■■■ around on the BU forum.</p>
<p>I think Dad II said he wanted to see his D settled before he disclosed anything (and as others have said, he doesn’t need to disclose anything ever, unless he chooses to). There was chatter on CC that his D might have been ID’d, so of couse he is trying to protect her, even if he then comes back on with new reports. Come on–we’re all addicted here. We all make mistakes. Some of us, including me, are capable of making them repeatedly. Let’s just be happy for good outcomes.</p>
<p>I understand that and I am glad that there has been a good outcome too… but then, if he wanted privacy he didn’t have to come back and start this thread, either. He could have let it go and no one would have noticed… except someone musing down the line, “I wonder whatever happened to Dad II’s d.”</p>
<p>Instead, its a whole new thread – “hey everybody, look at me, we had a wonderful outcome!.. and we’re going to keep it a secret…”</p>
<p>I couldn’t disagree more with those who feel that Dad II owes anyone this information. IMO his threads were based as much on his own emotions going through this process than on any specific FA award. Though names of universities and his financial situation were mentioned along the way , the specific schools were never really the main point of his posts. I’m sure Dad II knew that he could have gotten even more specific advice if he HAD disclosed everything here - the advice he got was valuable, all the same. </p>
<p>Although he said and did some things along the way that many of you took issue with (me too) , IMO he’s learned a lot from his tenure here -and in the end that’s all that’s really important. I think it was generous of Dad II to come back with an all’s well thread - he is merely walking the line between privacy (he’s already admitted to feeling he gave out too much info in the past) and wanting to give back to those who helped him.</p>
<p>Count me in with what roshke just said. </p>
<p>By DadII protecting his D’s privacy at this juncture, he’s thinking more about her, which is more thoughtful and wise. </p>
<p>He owes more to his D than to us. So I repeat: “congratulations to your D and the whole family.”</p>
<p>How about he PMs all of us???
Just kidding 
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<p>I’m with you on this one, Calmom.</p>