<p>So I'm a Sophomore this year and for my whole Freshman year, I was miserable. The people I talked to and tried to make friends with did not connect with me whatsoever. I actually loved the campus I just hated the location. It was in a sketchy city and it was 45 minutes away from home. All of the events I wanted to go to and the clubs I wanted to join met up during my class times. I didn't fit in very well. I made one friend but that wasn't enough to outweigh the bad. I ended up getting very depressed and suicidal. </p>
<p>So now, I transferred to my first choice school. Now the school I attend is 20 minutes away from home and 10 minutes away from where I work so it's very convenient for me. But this school is based solely on academics and there are nerds everywhere. I have nothing against nerds it's just a little difficult to be social with them. My high school friends always come home and they're so excited and have so many fun stories to tell and I just sit there nodding. I want to have fun and I want to make new friends. I want to have fun stories to tell. I'm so tired of being miserable. I'm honestly beginning to regret transferring. I keep thinking about transferring back to the university I was originally at. They had more events and my best friend is there. So what should I do? Stay here at this university that's convenient with not much fun, or go back to the university I was originally at?</p>
<p>If you are seriously considering transferring again, I think it would be a good idea to look at entirely new schools, rather than just returning to one that you already had a bad time at. It sounds like you made an effort to make it work, and for whatever reason it wasn’t a great fit socially, so why would it be different this time?</p>
<p>You need to do some serious self-reflection and decide what scene would be good for you, what type of people you want to be around. It sounds like the problem at both of your schools has been that it was a bad fit socially, so do you know yourself well enough to have an idea of where you might fit in better?</p>
<p>And I’m not saying this is the case, but is the issue just that it wasn’t a good fit or do you have social anxiety or something like that? Is it possible you would feel this way at any school you transferred to?Just something to ponder.</p>
<p>And before you transfer, I think you should really try and make the school you are at work out. No place is going to be absolutely perfect, and part of life is finding ways to make things work even when they aren’t ideal. Try and find a club or group of people that you relate to. Not everyone at the university can be the same!</p>
<p>I actually am looking at a different University. The one I’m looking at has a great campus and a diverse amount of people. I think I would like it there. I already started filling out an application to transfer next semester. The only downside is that I think their degree plan is different and I’m afraid that I will lose credits trying to transfer. </p>
<p>And I actually developed anxiety during my Freshman year because of that school. I do still have it now but it’s not nearly as bad as it was before. I think I would feel a little bit lonely for the first couple of weeks for any school I transfer to but right now, I just want to work hard and study so that I can get a good GPA. I am still keeping an open mind about the school I’m at right now but I feel like the school I want to transfer to is going to be a good school for me.</p>
<p>Some people thrive wherever they are planted… and some are unhappy wherever they are planted. You sound like you might be the latter… Stop college hopping and make the best of where you are. Try to join some clubs or activities if they are offered at your new school. </p>
<p>Yes some people do thrive wherever they initially attend. I didn’t at all and I actually think transferring is going to help me personally. I still am trying to make the best of where I am now though. I’m going to a few events soon. I signed up for a couple of clubs and they seem like lots of fun. But if I still don’t enjoy myself, I am going to transfer one last time. Being a college student only comes once in your life (for the most part) so I want to enjoy as much of it as I can. One year of college was spent being depressed so I would like to get as much out of it as I can for the next 3 years. If that means I need to transfer, I will transfer. Hopefully, I will enjoy where I am now so that I won’t have to transfer.</p>
<p>Being a college student only comes once in your life, but if you keep transferring, you may extend college to 5 or 6 years, and still not be entirely happy. Be very aware if your classes will transfer for credit! </p>
<p>Instead of transferring, you could also look at how to get out of school early/as quickly as possible so that you can move on to the next phase of your life - young adult with your first career-type job. This only comes once in your life as well, and maybe you will appreciate the working world/making money/accomplishing things more than college life. Just a thought.</p>
<p>I agree with you @intparent</p>
<p>Are you sure your feelings about the current school are not a manifestation of your depression? Are you getting treatment for your depression? If so, what? Depression is not just situational. You may need meds and counseling. I would hold off on any major life decisions until you are sure your depression is under control.</p>