In about two weeks I will be moving back to my school, which is a small university(>4000) in the middle of nowhere. I am dreading it, and I just really don’t know what to do.
Last year, my freshman year, I moved in with my highschool best friend in a shoe box of a dorm. Excited to be out of my parents’ house and on my own, I quickly tried to make new friends (I’m a rather shy person). The first couple of weeks were fine, the classes were good and I met a lot of people. Then, no one talked to me anymore. I never said anything wrong, just all the people who talked to me for the first month of college just stopped. I mean I understand they might be busy with class, but they all talked to each other. I felt left out. My roommate was too involved with boys to even notice. I visited my friends at (my first choice) college for a weekend, and I fell even more in love with it. That same weekend I met a guy too. We started dating and still are. I made a lot of trips there between fall and spring semesters. My grades are very good at my college, and I found the major I actually want to do. Just, something feels like it’s missing. I feel like I am not challenging myself, and I want to go to my first choice still. I talk to my friends who go there more than I do people I see everyday. Sometimes I went a couple of days not talking to anyone besides my roommate.
The problems I have with my college are that no one is very friendly and everyone goes home on the weekends. There is never anything to do and you have to be in a sorority or be into things like Sherlock, Doctor Who, etc. to make friends or have anything in common with people. I have a few friends, but they mostly hang out with me because my roommate. She flourished there, and she absolutely loves it. I just don’t feel like I fit in and honestly, I am more excited to move down so that I can visit my friends at the other college. I’m not homesick when I am there, I never missed my hometown once when I was there, but I hated being there too. I just want to be at my first choice college. My boyfriend is going into the military, so I know that’s not why I want to go there.
My question is: Is it worth it to move colleges after my sophomore year? I mean I feel like if I go three more years at the college I am at I’m not going to make it and I’m going to become depressed and my grades might suffer. My first choice college is more expensive but I feel like my GPA now and if I work really hard this coming year I will be able to get a decent transfer scholarship.
I’ve read a lot of articles saying freshman year isn’t the best year and that it gets better, but I don’t really see how the nonexistent social scene and everyone going home on the weekends is gonna change in a matter of a summer.
I just need someone to reassure me that it’s okay to change colleges.