<p>OMG seriously, you need to get over your ex girlfriend. She was a jerk for cheating on you and not all girls are like her. But if you keep crying about it you’re not gonna move on and find the right girl for you.</p>
<p>You do realize that I’ve been cheated on multiple times by guys? I know how sucky it feels and I would never put my boyfriend through that. Like I said, I would break up with him before it becomes an issue.</p>
<p>I already told the guy I have a boyfriend. I can’t believe this thread turned in to such a big deal.</p>
<p>If you knew the whole situation, you’d probably agree that I’ll never be able to get over it.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t want to be with you even before I met my ex-girlfriend. Well, I guess I can’t blame you entirely. It must be really difficult for any girl in your situation - I can understand the need to be with your own age.</p>
<p>ok hauteclere, i don’t know the whole story but you are sadly mistaken. like i said, finding someone attractive does not equate cheating. my boyfriend probably sees girls that he is attracted to, does he automatically go up to them and start making out? no. sorry your girlfriend hurt you so bad. and i don’t really care if you would want to date me or not. that’s not the point of this thread. but thanks for sharing your opinion.</p>
<p>what’s the big issue with that? i would rather have a mature guy than some jerk who wants to get wasted and has no definite plans for their future, no good or stable job and doesn’t really care if i’m his girlfriend because he’s hanging out with different girls every night?</p>
<p>^The problem is that there ARE guys that are mature and all that in your age group…unfortunately they are ignored due to all the other guys that aren’t mature. I’m 20 and I shake my head at a lot of my friends in college since they are so immature…maybe its just me or what I’ve done with my life that makes me more mature I don’t know, but grouping all the guys in your age group together as “jerks” is pretty unfair for all the nice guys stuck there.</p>
<p>Show me a 20 year old who has his life together and I’ll gladly tell you you’re right. I have not met one guy who is 20-24 years old who is mature on my campus.</p>
<p>Uh I’m 20 and I have my life together…sure I’m enlisted in the military but I have a stable job, I am making money, I am out on my own and am getting an education. I’m not saying all the guys I know in the military are mature like me…because I would be REALLY wrong, but there are guys out there. Also if you want to get technical, I am 19 for another 11 days…so yeah.</p>
<p>I respect that you are in the military, that really is a honorable achievement.</p>
<p>BUT my first boyfriend was 23 and he did 4 years in Afghanistan. He ended up cheating on me multiple times with about 3 different girls and ultimately broke up with me because “I didn’t like to party or drink” like he did. Hello, I was 19 at the time. I met him in my stats class.</p>
Perhaps, the reason for that is you attend a party school? At more academic oriented schools, such as MIT, I’d say a good majority of guys in the 20-24 age group are mature and career oriented. But, I don’t think you’d be interested in that crow, as they are often considered “too nerdy” which may also explain why they remain single until their late 20’s/early 30’s.</p>
<p>Why would you assume I’m not interested? My boyfriend now majored in physics and CS. He has a world of warcraft collection and plays with computers for a living.</p>
<p>I am a nerd myself. I didn’t want to go to a party school, I transferred back home and this is where I ended up unfortunately.</p>
<p>Thats why I said not all military guys are mature…trust me I know that they all aren’t. But some of us grow up quick when we have to shoulder responsibility and well…some of us don’t. However the one thing I absolutely can’t stand is being lumped into the collective “jerk” category because a girl has had a few bad experiences with guys their age…because I have had girls cheat on me but I still date in my age group. On the flipside I can also see why having an older guy can be more appealing to girls because…well not all guys mature quick…as long as they don’t count them out completely lol.</p>
<p>But you clearly aren’t ready for a relationship with this man if you’re in such a conflict - a conflict that drove you to make this thread. We both know, even if you don’t want to admit it, that a part of you wants a relationship with this other person.</p>
<p>I DON’T WANT A RELATIONSHIP with a guy I barely know. </p>
<p>I am of the group of girls who actually likes getting to know people before jumping into a relationship. I was just looking for advice on how to bring up my boyfriend situation without making it weird or awkward for the guy.</p>
<p>Apparently that makes me a cheater?</p>
<p>I just bought my boyfriend’s birthday presents today and I’m planning out his birthday dinner. If I wanted to be with that other guy do you think I would spend time planning for my bf?</p>
<p>In my experience as well as many other “nerds”, generally speaking, nerdy girls are not interested in nerdy guys. They seem to be more interested in the fratty drunks. Some obsession with trying to “change” or tame them. </p>
<p>There’s a reason why most nerds don’t get married or start dating until their late 20’s/early 30’s.</p>
<p>Just ignore him…he is playing online psychologist. </p>
<p>“Don’t get my intentions wrong, I like my boyfriend and I’m not leaving him anytime soon, I just don’t want to lead this other guy on. I mean guys, if you like a girl and she has a boyfriend would you still consider being just friends with her? I really want to make friends in my classes, but not at the expense of my relationship.”
Seems to me like she made this thread to get advice on how to stay just friends with this guy…and others have twisted it into something its not. So seriously…I’ve had girls cheat on me too Hauteclere…so stop being so jaded and move on.</p>
<p>Ignore me? You realize that other people have said the same thing that I have just said? Emaheevul said the exact same thing I did. Should we ignore her too?</p>
<p>Sorry must have slipped my mind that you both are the authority on everything and that your opinions are the only ones that matter.</p>
<p>Drew is right. Do you think I would post this if I knew I wanted that other guy? I wouldn’t waste my time. I would dump my boyfriend and hit up chem dude.</p>
<p>Yeah, because she didn’t start the thread asking if she should break up with the guy she is with now for the guy in her Chem class. Seriously…chill out.</p>