<p>My boyfriend and I haven't been dating for long. He is a really great guy and I care about him a lot. He's gonna be 30 and I'm 21. We get along great and things are going well. He isn't ready to settle down and get married so we're taking things slow and I prefer it that way. </p>
<p>But there is this guy in my chem class that I think likes me. He's really cute, funny and smart (like my boyfriend) but I'm not sure that he knows I have a boyfriend. I have a slight crush on him, but I know its just a temporary thing and I want to be with my boyfriend. We planned to go to a review session together (strictly for class) and I want to be friends with him, but I'm not sure that he would be ok with just being friends. If he asks me to do something outside of class I don't want it to be awkward! Any help? I thought about telling him (if it comes up, because it may not even be an issue) that I think he's cute but I have a boyfriend. I have hot, single friends though and he's welcome to join us when we go out? </p>
<p>Don't get my intentions wrong, I like my boyfriend and I'm not leaving him anytime soon, I just don't want to lead this other guy on. I mean guys, if you like a girl and she has a boyfriend would you still consider being just friends with her? I really want to make friends in my classes, but not at the expense of my relationship.</p>
<p>I would find a way to casually mention that you have a bf or add him on fb. If you do the latter, he’ll see it and you never have to be in that awkward situation.</p>
<p>^^ + 1 on studentengineer. That much age separation is going to lead to more relationship problems (on average) than you want. I think women are genetically predisposed to want to mate with men that are stable and responsible and it just so happens that the older a man gets the more stable and responsible he usually is. There’s plenty of mature/stable < 30 year olds out there.</p>
<p>And what’s wrong with dating multiple people at the same time. As long as there’s no sex or commitment (like being engaged), then you should be free to roam.</p>
<p>Yeah you would think that much age separation would be problematic, but really we talked about it and we’re on the same level concerning marriage, etc. He doesn’t plan on settling down yet so its working out.</p>
<p>I don’t know, I’m a one guy kind of girl. I don’t like dating and I’m socially awkward. My boyfriend and I haven’t been dating for a very long time, but it isn’t a short time either. Sex is bound to come up soon. Plus I really, really do like my boyfriend and I don’t want to jeopardize what we have for this guy that I don’t even know if I’m really interested in or even if we are compatible. I just think he’s cute, that’s all.</p>
<p>Well test the maturity of your current bf. Ask him if he’d have a problem if you went out with other dudes non-sexually and vice versa for him. If you asked me I wouldn’t have a problem. One metaphor I like: If dating is like ordering at a restaurant then it’s hard to order if your menu is given out one line at a time.</p>
<p>The age difference isn’t necessarily a problem.</p>
<p>My mom married my dad when she was 21… He was 42.</p>
<p>Anywho, just casually mention in your conversation your boyfriend. If you’re talking about a movie, just be like “Yeah, I watched that movie with my boyfriend.” or something like that. The guy will get the picture. And as long as you don’t do anything suggestive, it should all be fine.</p>
<p>Yeah I mean I haven’t met up with him outside of class or anything but he asked me what SI section I was going to and I saw him there today. He mentioned something about getting together to do the homework and gave me his number. I don’t want to lead him on, but he’s smart and if we could start a study group it might be fun to make some friends in the class.</p>
<p>I mean could I be completely interpreting this wrong? Maybe he has a girlfriend too and its not even an issue?</p>
<p>^^ I’d never do a 21-42 age gap…borderline pedophilia considering he was 21 when she was being born. 5 years = ok. 10 years = pushing it. 20 years = something wrong.</p>
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<p>Typical…woman only wants to talk to a guy if she can get something out of him. If you want to start a study group then you better tell him outright that you already have a boyfriend. Otherwise you’re just carrot dangling.</p>
<p>I feel like if you’re dwelling on this enough to write a thread about it, you need to tell the bf you aren’t prepared to be in a relationship right now. You’re not.</p>
<p>No offense, but the old man doesn’t own you. You are your own woman. You can see/talk to who ever you want. Just because he is a man, and you are a woman doesn’t mean you can’t interact, and acknowledge one another. Don’t let the old man hold you back. I think you deserve a nice young guy.</p>