I have a boyfriend but I think this guy in my chem class likes me?

Student Lounge College Life
21

<p>If you’re not married or engaged then you’re really not “committed” to a relationship and hence you can’t cheat. The concept of exclusive dating is actually a modern invention…70s I believe.</p>

<p>Yeah, I’m probably too old fashioned to ever get a girlfriend…good luck to me in finding one that doesn’t believe in exclusive dating.</p>

22

<p>Gotta wonder about a guy that’s 30 dating a 21 year old. Lol.</p>

23

<p>

</p>

<p>Good luck in life.</p>

24

<p>@queenthethird I hope you’re not serious… the 70s? You must be one of those people that think we never landed on the moon. Lol at “too old fashioned to ever get a girlfriend.”</p>

25

<p>You don’t see people nowadays having 3 dates in one night. Back in the 60s you did.</p>

26

<p>^ that’s considered a slut/whore no offense</p>

<p>Sent from my HTC HD2 using CC App</p>

27

<p>i didnt even read your post, but quit being a hoe. i hate when married women hit on me, its unattractive. gah.</p>

28

<p>I happened upon this thread…almost lost my sip of coffee on the computer screen when student engineer said “that’s considered a slut/whore no offense”</p>

<p>Back in the dark ages when I was a 20 something it was not uncommon to date several people at the same time. That did not mean that you slept with several people at the same time. In fact, speaking for myself and other young woman I was friends with, sex was reserved for the times when you were involved with someone on a a much deeper level. </p>

<p>Sadly, I think many young people today are going to run into some problems because sex is so confused with real feelings. Woman are sleeping with a guys that they date before they even really know if there is a connection and as a result this generation has lost some romance and the whole idea of dating seems to be out of fashion on college campus’. </p>

<p>If college students want to have meaningful relationships than sex should not enter into the equation until you are sure there is a connection. I have read so many threads on the lack of dating and the hook up scene and I shake my head and say wow…you guys are shooting yourselves in the foot. Your generation seems to lack the skills or the ability to postpone desires long enough to learn if you even like the people you sleep with. This is not the kind of behavior that will build honest trusting relationships. Example, if you meet a girl and she sleeps with you on the first night that you met her…would you not wonder if she does that all the time? The same goes for the woman…if a guy comes on strong with you immediately do you really think you are special?..If he comes on strong with you than he does it with everyone…you are not special. </p>

<p>If you are geniounly interested in someone give it time…they aren’t running away…unless they really are. Expect to be taken out on dates and guys expect to take a college girl out on a date. The dates do not need to be expensive but they can be creative and fun if money is tight (as it is with most college kids). As with the original poster, the young man seems interested and he probably is. The OP could either tell him directly or when he FB friends you he will probably figure it out. Nothing at this point has led to a reason for the OP to blurt out “I have a boyfriend.” It would seem odd in my opinion if she did because he may just be interested in making friends as well…(although it sounds like he is interested). This young man in the OP’s class did not call and ask her out and that is why she is confused. Back in our day, a college guy would ask for a phone number…call a couple days later…and ask a girl if she wanted to have lunch or dinner or see a movie (any variation or combination of). The girl knew exactly his intention and generally if she was not interested a phone number would not have been given. Today, numbers are given out to readily…thanks to cell phones and this atmosphere of no privacy and available hook-ups. If you guys want (both sexes) to meet and have relationships than treat the opposite sex with respect and curtesy and by all mean put some romance back in your lives.</p>

29

<p>

</p>

<p>(directed at CollectivSynergy and StudentEngineer)…Told. You. So.</p>

30

<p>3 dates in one night would be exhausting as hell. I don’t see anything wrong with “playing the field” but once you’re really into one person and consider each other to be significant others, you ought to stick to her unless you both mutually agree to be in an open relationship.</p>

31

<p>I know you won’t like my response, but you should not be with a 30 year old guy.</p>

<p>You should also not be tied down to any one person at this stage in your life.</p>

<p>You should be doing things like dating the guy in your Chemistry class.</p>

32

<p>everything your describe right now is young, your relationship, your new friends, new classes, just go with the flow of things and don’t think about it so hard</p>

33

<p>I really like this “30 year old guy” though. He is extraordinarily smart, has a degree in physics and engineering. He takes me out on real dates and we go to nice dinners and talk about life together. He gives me good advice about my financial situation, my relationship with my parents and I think he really cares about me. We have a lot of mutual interests he loves good wine and so do I, we both like philosophy and traveling, we both like the same kind of music and we both like hanging out in the bookstore together. His work friends like me too. He actually helps me be the best person I can and encourages me to explore my interests, try new things and to experience life.</p>

<p>He is willing to help me with my physics homework and we get along really well. He’s not some creepy pervert. We have real dates. With 21 year olds, I never have actually had a real date. I have been cheated on 4 times by guys ages 21-24. I don’t form a real connection with guys my age because I am interested in more than beer pong and getting smashed every night. I’m not the typical “party girl.” And most guys want a party girl. My school is a party school. period. I have dated guys before in my classes and it didn’t end well. They expected me to be some drunk girl who slept with them 3 dates in.</p>

<p>Just because I think someone is cute does not mean I am automatically going to be cheating on my boyfriend with him. Do I think he’s attractive? Yes. Would I leave my boyfriend for him? No.</p>

<p>And like one of the other posters said, I really don’t know what this guy’s (in my class) intentions are. Maybe he is looking to meet new friends. He just moved from another part of the state and hardly knows anyone at our school.</p>

34

<p>

</p>

<p>Well stop dating 21 year old losers. Don’t let a few jerks give the whole age group a bad rap. You have to ask yourself why a 30 year old is dating a 21 year old. The world didn’t run out of single 30 year old women and yet here he is “digging at the bottom of the barrel”.</p>

35

<p>Okay. You’re 21 and meet cute guy more your age. And he’s interested. And you are interested. If it comes up, go out with him. Don’t kill it all by telling him about your boyfriend (who is 30 and probably has committment issues) whom you haven’t even been dating that long. The new guy may be the one and you’d be missing something that could be great.</p>

36

<p>What I think of this [url=&lt;a href=“http://marcamos.com/ha/this-is-gonna-be-good.gif]thread?[/url”&gt;http://marcamos.com/ha/this-is-gonna-be-good.gif]thread?[/url</a>]</p>

<hr>

<p>Just get to know the guy as a friend. From there, make your life decision.</p>

<p>Some responses here are actually amusing in an abysmal way.</p>

37

<p>

</p>

<p>There’s a difference between being attracted to someone and risking your relationship while having an attraction.</p>

38

<p>

It’s legal and, therefore, perfectly acceptable. The vast majority of women over the age of 30 are either married or have a child or two from a previous marriage, and to be frank, most guys aren’t interested in raising the child that isn’t theirs. Also, it isn’t uncommon for a man to start dating after he finishes his education (PhD) or work until he gets established, which could take well into his 30’s.</p>

39

<p>Yes, he is working on his master’s and he will finish his thesis within the next semester. He’s not “digging at the bottom of the barrel.” Gee I’m glad I’m considered the bottom of the barrel. For the reasons mentioned above, he doesn’t want kids right away and he’s not planning to settle down until well after he is established. He plans on moving away eventually because his job is probably consolidating and they will want him to re-locate.</p>

40

<p>I definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone who was having conflicts about another boy.</p>