I have no High School Life

<p>Sucks that you can't post images on these boards, because I've got some really funny stuff I want to put up.</p>

<p>:( I feel so sad for you..it especially sucks if you moved in during high school, because by then it's hard to make friends, because pretty much people stick to their own, unless they want to take the initiative to look beyond their cliques. Maybe ask a classmate whether you can sit with them, because you are new and you don't know that many people. If they ask, "Where have you been sitting before?", just tell them that you've been having lots of work for other classes in which you couldn't finish the homework/were working on it in the library. Yeah, it makes you sound studious and they might just think you are weird for it (if this is the type of public school I go to), but it would be much better than saying "I've been eating in the bathroom.", and chances are they will secretly respect you for it.</p>

<p>Easiest way to get a whole group of friends (without joining any clubs) is to carry yourself with confidence, if it appears as if you are an important person and that their whole social life will be down in shambles unless they get to know you, because there is a big difference between APPEARING as if you are confident within yourself and being snobbish, most likely people will begin to believe you really are a cool person, and would want to be your friend. Over the time they will get to know you and you might find out that you share some of the same interests. Walk straight up (don't slouch), don't look like you are in too much of a hurry or that you are very tense.</p>

<p>Easiest way to get genuine friends quickly (the type that will have you back no matter what, keep in mind that these people are different than the group of people above I mentioned in the second paragraph, they vary)... because the second paragraph people can be your aquaintances or they could be true friends...it all depends on whether you want to have someone to hang out with and have fun or whether you want to have deep conversations and heated debates. It all depends on what you are looking for. Back to topic, getting genuine friends...have a common interest. Clubs would be the best way to do this.</p>

<p>Yeah, I know I seem very bad with the advice, but seriously I have been in your situation before (not to the point where I had to eat lunch in the bathroom), but still I've moved around seven times, and with that comes making new friends...so I kind of can write a whole handbook on how to make the fake friends, the aquaintances, the genuine people, etc. Yeah, it sounds very bad, but in high school (especially in a public high school) it is all about connections. These connections will make your year easier and make it run smoothly..especially when it comes to cutting through the red tape of the administration or any discipline consequences. Sadly, this reality is true in a big public school.</p>

<p>All I can say is that if you went to my school, I would be your friend..because you seem like a good and real person. You can't have enough of those types as friends (the ones that you can see yourself still talking to, even when you are in college). I hope you feel better.</p>

<p>great advice thesiren
yeah if you went to my school, i'd invite you to have lunch with us.</p>

<p>So clubs don't start until november... why don't you join clubs outside of school? Local drama club, local soccer club, local ummmm yoga club? local aerobics club..? Any club. The people may not attend your school but atleast you'll have a group of friends outside of school.. And you'll know heaps of other people from other schools which is a great thing.. My friends boast about all these people they know from other schools.. pretty weird but nicely impressive..?</p>

<p>And if you join these clubs half way through, people will be more nice to you.. ('hey it's the new guy. lets talk to him'). And these people will notice you because hopefully, these clubs will have like.. 20 memebers - which is nice and closely knit, compared to 100+ from your school.</p>

<p>People in your school are cruel cruel people..</p>

<p>Oh and after getting to know these people in clubs for about 3 days, ask them for their cellphone number.. and text them!</p>

<p>Would it be possible to take lunch out of your schedule? This could provide temporarily relief, but sooner or later, you'd feel the need for friends anyway. The key thing to do is to take initiative by asking to sit with people in the lunchroom. Trust your instincts in whom to approach. As the poster above me said, confidence is key when it comes to making friends. It's very simple actually. Hold your chin up and smile, even if it doesn't come naturally at first. Worse comes to worst, sit with a teacher and be treated like an adult. However, I strongly recommend that you make friends on your own, not the teachers forcing friendships between you and other people (that could work sometimes, but the former is preferred). How about seeing the school psychologist/therapist? At my school, they usually let students hang out in their room. </p>

<p>Please, if you have any questions, send me a private message. I've had to switch schools twice and could offer some advice.</p>

<p>as a person who has moved 10 times between 2 continents and 2 states in my 17 years I understand how difficult it can sometimes be.</p>

<p>I am the smiling upbeat outgoing ebullient guy who is always keen to try out new things. I also don't really care about "social positioning" and judge myself based on my own preferences, not on how I perceive other people's opinions of myself to be(though this in itself may realize in a rise in one's social status).</p>

<p>I have lots of "acquaintances" but only a few true friends. My uncle once made the analogy that "Your true friends are the ones who you can call up in the middle of the night and ask them to help you bury a body" I believe I have 2 such friends. One who dropped out of hs and got a GED and is a paralegal and independent adult at the age of 18 and the other a sciency type person who is attending Binghampton. People usually self-segregate themselves at lunch at my school. </p>

<p>I don't particularly fit in with any one group and I am "Nomadic" in my seating. Interestingly enough, the people I am most attracted to at my hs are those who are Assertive and keen on sharing their differing viewpoints. I LOVE to debate. The ones who are somewhat pesky are the mindless sycophants.</p>

<p>one of the MOST important lessons I have learned is that a lot of different people can teach you different things. Whether that may be my independent-minded best friend discussing the pros and cons of bachelor living. Or my sciency type friend discussing his gf troubles.
Always be humble and realize that the person who "seems" to be the most intelligent is often a blathering fool while the ones who don't stand out can be extraordinary.</p>

<p>Speak out and approach a group of people. Friendships can be eminently rewarding!</p>

<p>btw, that bathroom thing is... a bit weird, at least sit in the cafeteria and join in on a convo with a group... or see if you can talk to another person sitting alone.</p>

<p>It would be really funny if he proves himself a troll with you guys writing paragraphs of advice for him.</p>

<p>Even if the OP ends up being a troll, our advice probably will be useful to other lonely people who are too shy to post.</p>

<p>Go...find some random group of people who look like they're bored, and sit with them during lunch. Eating your lunch in the bathroom isn't going to help you at all. Plus...you might get cooties from it.</p>

<p>I know how you feel. In seventh grade I went to a different school than all my friends from sixth grade (same district though) and I got really depressed. I felt like I would never fit in. But unlike you, people came up to me, instead of the other way around. I learned something that year, sometimes you just have to drop that shy cloak. I know it sucks, but just being outgoing for one year completely turned things around for me. It may take a while, but you'll find your group of friends. Take every oppurtunity to be nice. If you see someone doesn't have a dollar for the vending machine, give them a dollar. If someone looks sad, ask them if you can help out. I found my niche in high school, and I didn't dress well, so I'm sure you can too. And stop eating in the bathroom. Even if it annoys people, just go up to random groups and ask if you can sit with them. That's how one of my good friends found me :) You can PM me if you ever want to talk. And if this is a troll I hope it helps someone :p</p>

<p>As someone who has moved eighteen times and went to sixteen different schools, I can give you some advice.</p>

<p>Although sometimes people will come up to you, other times, this is not the case--as your case seems to be.</p>

<p>The easiest way that has worked for me is to talk FIRST--that is, don't wait for someone to talk to you.</p>

<p>If you dont feel confident starting a conversation, just think this: it's better than waht you're experiencing now. You have nothing to lose. No one's going to think you're weird for starting a conversation.</p>

<p>Just start out by saying hey, whats up. I'm ________. Try to do that with at least one person in one class--the chances are, you'll find a niche for yourself.</p>

<p>it's going to take time to make friends! don't worry about it. two weeks isn't that long. don't stress dude.</p>

<p>skip lunch. eating food is the worst social killer. i rarely actually eat during my lunch break because i cant socialize when i eat. so skip lunch, and walk around group to group and see which one will accept you.</p>

<p>Guys, RELAX!!!
i was just gonna respond when i figured out that this is a joke, just like those pointless other threads about what color pencils one should buy.</p>

<p>uh, i'm not so sure now.....yeah, disregard what i just typed. Never mind.</p>

<p>Just try to be nice to people in class. If you're doing a group project with a partner, try to get to know them. That could lead to an invitation to eat lunch with them.</p>

<p>I disagree - I think you should just sit down with someone. Maybe find someone else who is eating alone as well. I wouldn't intrude on a big table, but if there's one or two people sitting, maybe just ask if you can sit with them.</p>

<p>I moved halfway through sixth grade, and I know the dynamics are a little different back then, but I remember just sitting down with people and finding the right group.</p>

<p>It's a bummer that clubs don't start until November. Because that's what I was going to suggest; get involved in some club that has a big "following". At my school, the anime club sits together every day at lunch, and so do a lot of the drama kids.</p>

<p>"Occasionally for entertainment i look under the crack of the locked door at the feet of people who are walking by. I listen to their conversations." I'm at a friends house and his dad is a physiatrist-- He says that that kind of "entertainment" is a really bad sign... He says that it shows you get off on things that most people would find disturbing or strange. Seriously, he says you need to seek professional help really quickly.</p>

<p>A physiatrist?</p>

<p>We should just let this thread die.</p>

<p>i agree.....</p>

<p>I'll be your friend!</p>