<p>Fortunately, the OP's fate is NOT in the hands of people like you. His fate is in the hands of people who probably will not distort the facts, will not attribute all sorts of motives and characteristics to him and don't view everyone who missteps as some kind of heathen who deserves a jail sentence.
You may be an adult, but you don't have a very good grasp on how "most" adults view screw-ups by young people. It is a well-established medical principle that many boys this age have very poor impulse-control. Get over yourself and stop attacking some poor kid who broke a classmate's nose in a moment of pain and anger.</p>
<p>Have I ever said in this thread that I don't feel sorry? I'm freaking miserable about it. I never meant to break to guy's nose. A broken nose is obviously a lot worse than a hard hit to a face with a ball. You have no idea how terrified I became when I saw blood gushing out of it. However, I'm not sorry for actually hitting the guy. He really had something like this coming to him. He SPECIFICALLY threw the ball at me to provoke me. "An eye for an eye" was running through my head when I punched him. I tried to punch him exactly where he hurt me, the cheek, but I accidentally punched his nose and broke it. What's wrong with thinking that people should get what they deserve?</p>
<p>Strawberry- I'll tell you exactly what I have told my son (on several occasions). I understand how you feel and the whole eye for an eye thing, but the problem is that it can lead to MORE problems for YOU (as in this case). It's better to protect yourself, especially in this pre-college time when you are trying to get through the rest of high school without incident. "He deserves it", whether it be disrespecting an adult, hitting a classmate or something else, has a way of backfiring.</p>
<p>I obviously know that now. I really have to learn to calm myself down. That was my mistake before, not getting calm. I know that I should have handled this situation a lot better, but it's a damn shame that I didn't and just lost control. I'm only a human - I'm not perfect.</p>
<p>"I'm not sorry for actually hitting the guy"- only that it was bloody?</p>
<p>This was more than a screw-up and sometimes screw ups hurt people ALOT-the OP isn't sorry...not really...sorry he drew blood, but not sorry he hit someone</p>
<p>The OP became terrified when he saw all the blood, but not terrified of his own actions to haul off and hit someone</p>
<p>MOWC, you think no suspension was in order, that the punishment was too harsh, and that this was jsut a screw-up?</p>
<p>Screwing up is forgetting your homework at home, screwing up is forgeting to send in a check, screwing up is not looking your car and getting stuff stolen</p>
<p>BAD is hitting another person, stealing, driving drunk, etc- all DELIBARTE acts that hurt other people</p>
<p>If you had the least bit of remorse for the hitting part, not just the blood part, then I would be more understanding, but you don't = you still feel, even after all this, that you the right, in fact the necessity to hit someone- it was more than just a "reaction" - you didn't want to feel like a wuss...and until you figure that out in your own head, it will happen again, and until you see what you did had little justification,no matter what you think, will your GC really want to help you</p>
<p>Again, admitting it was a mistake to HIT is where to need to start -if you go in going, well he smirked at me so a slugged him, do you think they would see that you really understood why your were suspended...</p>
<p>If the other guy really was trying to provoke you, seems like by punching him, he comes out ahead even though he has a broken nose.</p>
<p>You are the one worrying about losing college acceptances. You are the one who won't be on the trip to Disney. You're the one with the suspension.</p>
<p>There's also a chance that you may be the one being charged with assault or sued depending on how his parents react. They still have time to do those things.</p>
<p>He DELIBERATELY hurt me. So I REACTIVELY hurt him. OF COURSE hitting him is a mistake. But why do I have to feel sorry for it? Why do I have to feel sorry for a reaction fueled by sudden intense emotions? These emotions overpowered me, and I wasn't able to make clear, rational thoughts. Look, I'm only HUMAN. People DO get overwhelmed by emotions sometimes.</p>
<p>I blame George Bush ;)</p>
<p>You're making me out to be some sort of heathen with a lot of problems. You don't know me. You have never even met me.</p>
<p>Strawberry -</p>
<p>I understand how you feel. You know you messed up but you also feel (somewhat) justified because the other guy was a jerk who had something coming to him in retaliation, but definitely not a broken nose, which was not at all what you intended.</p>
<p>I want you to learn from this episode. Please, learn from it. Revenge, retribution, and violence are bad things. It's that simple.</p>
<p>I truly hope that your acceptances are not affected, but even more, I hope that you learn from this that it is more manly to not strike back in anger, ever.</p>
<p>"Throwing ball into glasses = not a good time, plus high chance of shattered glass = blindness."</p>
<p>I really think that glasses are designed not to shatter into shards. I've never heard of someone blinded that way. My own kid had his glasses "shattered" a few times but it didn't disintegrate into shards. I imagine the glasses of decades ago were a danger but not the ones they make now.</p>
<p>Strawberry, you started this thread asking for people's opinions, so don't attack them when they give an opinion you don't agree with. </p>
<p>We can only draw conclusions from what you tell us, because we don't know you. The SAME happens with the admissions committee. yeah, you made a mistake, but there are still consequences. An adcom only seeing the suspension may think "Hmm, do we really want someone so volatile and belligerent on our campus?" But, from what you've said, you probably are not someone who normally goes around beating people up, so an explanation should be enough to dispel the worry. I highly doubt a college would rescind an offer of admission without an explanation of the circumstances.</p>
<p>Just learn from this that when people are jerks (and you will meet plenty in life), be able to rise above them and ignore their taunts. Did you gain anything from reacting violently? Is there ever really anything to gain by using violence? No, but there is much to lose, so it is best to avoid it altogether.</p>
<p>"Fortunately, the OP's fate is NOT in the hands of people like you"</p>
<p>His fate is in the hands of people who are concerned about their college's liability among other things. They will be wondering what would happen if he injured someone on their campus and they had prior knowledge of this incident. I'm not saying he would -- I'm saying that is what will be going through their heads. Unfortunately, with campus violence being an issue, I would think that schools take this kind of thing seriously, not that I think the OP is a big threat -- I'm just putting myself into the discussion that might occur in an admissions office. The dissension on the issue in this thread is a pretty good indicator that it's hard to predict how people will view this episode. We actually talked about it at our dinner table tonight. My husband, an attorney, pointed out that only self defense would be considered a legitimate reason to hit someone and this can't be construed as self defense. Also, the OP sends a mixed message -- I was wrong but I was right. If this come across in an appeal, it will really hurt your case.</p>
<p>I blame crab people.</p>
<p>I blame all the parents who have nothing better to do than to live on this site.....it's understandable that kids, who after all are the ones that are actually in the process of going to college, may be on here obsessively, but the adults.....especially those with the sanctimonious epistles.....get a life. I am sure that not one of these folks has a spotless life. I hope that they receive more sympathy, empathy and forgiveness than they dole out. </p>
<p>OP, I hope it works out for you.</p>
<p><em>chill</em> The event is over and the OP needs to be calm right now. He doesn't need any more comments about "how his actions are bad" or "You're going to be rescinded".</p>
<p>StrawberryMayo wrote: "However, I'm not sorry for actually hitting the guy."</p>
<p>until you are, you will continue to demostrate that you JUST DON"T GET IT.</p>
<p>Not only would I worry about a remorseless thug in my college, I'd worry about being around you, period. You're just plain dangerous.</p>
<p>I don't think that is a fair statement Dunnin. If he just went up to someone and punched them then that is bad but this guy deliberately threw a ball at him really hard. </p>
<p>People in college are usually a lot more mature than those in high school, where no one throws balls/hits people because everyone has realized that stuff is immature. Not so much in high school, where if you just walk away and say "Jerk!", you'll be laughed at and other people will then walk over you.</p>
<p>I'm not saying that I agree with what he did. But you must know that when you are younger, running to your parents, or the government, or the school to "fix" the problems that you have with other people can sometimes ruin your reputation or make you seem like the "wuss". If he was in college or was an adult then, yes, there are definitely many other ways to solve the problem. </p>
<p>Some people in this thread might not be able to understand "why" he did it or why didn't he walk away for his benefit. Well, that's like saying "Why do we have wars" or "Why do ___ want power". Germany could have been perfectly fine in WWII if it didn't want to expand its borders, but that didn't stop him. There is a chemical in "some peoples'" brains that keeps us competitive, and it forces us to act, whether that be in sports, arguments, fights, whatever. Don't expect people to never fight or stand up for themselves. It is human nature. The people that do not fight are usually the ones that have something better to do that outweighs the consequences of fighting like the ones that go to college, have many friends, or involved in music or sports. But occasionally, people slip. In this case, I think it was StrawberryMayo.</p>
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<p>You broke a guy's nose for throwing a dodgeball at you??? That's lame.</p>