I know there are a lot of these threads, but looking for specific advice here.

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<p>I'm a freshman in college and have been in school for two months. I am doing well academically in 1 of my classes, fine in 2 others, and not so good in the last one, but I think I will be able to deal with that. It is just overwhelming.</p>

<p>I have made one group of friends, but they're not necessarily people I want to hang out with all the time. The other people who I am friends with never initiate plans - I always have to invite them or arrange something - they never invite me. I feel like someone is a friend when they invite me to do things, or text me, and I'm not always the one doing it. Its really awkward when I feel like I'm always forcing things. </p>

<p>I'm a girl, probably studying economics. I'm perfectly friendly, but I don't really like to party. I'm not nerdy either. </p>

<p>How do I make more friends? This is so awkward, and I do feel lonely. For the past few weekends I have had plans for one day on the weekend, but not both days, and I'd like to. I definitely don't want to go crazy, but I don't want to be alone.</p>

<p>The other thing is - and I know this is wrong - but my parents worry about my social life. I was not the most social in high school, but I was happy, and I have family friends/cousins in college who, according to what their parents tell my parents, are very happy and successful. My parents constantly ask me who I'm hanging out/eating with, which I don't mind at all, but when I tell them its when 1 other person, they want me to be with more. I've lied a couple times and told them I was eating with a group of people when that wasn't true.</p>

<p>I'm considering joining a sorority even though thats not really my thing at all, to make friends. Greek life isn't the biggest deal at my school and I wouldn't live in the house, and if there was any type of hazing, I would just drop out. </p>

<p>Any help would be great.</p>

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<p>No responses here?</p>

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<p>Well, it doesn’t seem like you’re doing very good in school. I doubt you should join a sorority if that is the case unless it is depression affecting your grades.</p>

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<p>I exaggerated a little up there. My grades aren’t amazing, but they are not that bad. It’s just an adjustment period - I know because this has happened every single year for the past 4 years. I don’t do well at first but then I’m fine.</p>

<p>Also, 1 week ago I found out that my grandfather is very sick, and I think I’m a bit shaken up.</p>

<p>As long as my situation is not completely out of the ordinary, I’m sure I’ll be fine soon.</p>

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<p>Okay, well, if you can make a good academic performance and have the money to join a sorority for a little more involvement/bonding, I’d recommend it. I’d just avoid pairing with fraternity guys.</p>

<p>My girlfriend is in a sorority at her college and has been regularly involved every week in things. I think she is the treasurer and is running for president. She seems to like it but sometimes there is some useless girl drama. My girlfriend doesn’t hangout every week though because she needs to maintain her 3.8 GPA to get into a good grad school or she’s screwed for life. So, she does a significant amount of studying and works during the week as well. </p>

<p>I’m sorry about your grandfather but do not try and let it harm your grades too much. Been there, done that (plenty of family deaths, relationship drama, friend drama) and if you have any want or need to go to grad school, they are not very forgiving concerning “depression”. I need to get my wisdom teeth removed and can’t for another month. The pain is so bad that I have to take painkillers regularly and I cannot focus at all in my classes or sleep. It is causing severe migraines. I simply pass out somehow at night with all the pain now. I did not sleep for three days this week. Yet, I still get off my butt and hit the books like there’s no tomorrow.</p>

<p>Hopefully things will pick up for you. Just find your focus.</p>

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<p>I think joining some sort of an activity, whether it be a sorority, a club sport, a musical group, community service, academic, a job, or anything else will definitely help. You will meet a lot of people of different ages who have similar interests to you, and they will also likely provide you with weekend plans! Often, on the weekends I have plans related to my activities, not necessarily plans with friends, but as long as I’m busy it’s fine!</p>