<p>Lots of guys and girls say this but does anyone actually live by it, like they'll date someone who's uglier than the people they usually date because of personality?</p>
<p>I’d have no problem dating someone “ugly” if their personality makes up for it. However, they should take control of the things they CAN control- as in, they should look neat, pulled-together, and put effort into their appearance. I have no tolerance for someone who won’t get a haircut, doesn’t shave, or walks around in dirty clothes, even if they’re cute. I’m more about th effort than the actual ugliness/cuteness of a person.</p>
<p>Good looks will get your foot in the door, but if the relationship is going to be anything more than a fling there has to be a real mental connection which includes having a good personality.</p>
<p>i think intellect and personality go a long way. i’ve been swooning over nerdy, braceface skinny boys a lot lately. then i start to notice cute things about them, like dimples or freckles. there are plenty of attractive people whom i’ve met and are suddenly unattractive because of their personalities. so i definitely think personality is more important than being gorgeous, because everyone has some nice physical aspect that isn’t as apparent in some as others at first glance. humor and amazing conversational skills along with a quirky uniqueness is ideal ^-^</p>
<p>I’ve dated girls that were “uglier” than what I usually date because I liked hanging out with them, but at the same time, their looks somewhat prevented me from ever thinking we had a future because I knew that I’d never want to settle on a woman that I only find attractive. Overall, if I don’t think she’s gorgeous, I’m not going to get serious no matter how well we connect.</p>
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<p>See, I don’t think that’s shallow, or if it is shallow then most people are shallow.</p>
<p>I be saying that just so I won’t sound like a jerk. But in reality, I am like extremely shallow (can’t help it). If the girl doesn’t got a nice butt + cute face, i most likely won’t talk to her even if she is coming on to me</p>
<p>Coming from a guy, if you are really serious about somebody, just remember: in a couple of years looks will more or less fade away, and on that day you will actually have to talk to her…</p>
<p>physical attraction is 70% of it imo</p>
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<p>Agree completely.</p>
<p>i’m currently kind of with this guy who’s not what i’d call gorgeous, but not only is he really funny and great to be around, but (almost more importantly), there’s a lot of physical chemistry, which i think is a lot of why it works.</p>
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<p>Not everyone’s looks fade away. People with baby faces, who are usually very attractive, age well. </p>
<p>Take a good look at their parents people! (i know that Asians tend not to age very well as far as physical appearances go)</p>
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<p>Completely agree.</p>
<p>Looks don’t matter for me. If I like their personality their looks will grow on me. If I think they’re attractive already, thats a bonus.</p>
<p>My bf said he would never hit on a girl if he didn’t think she was cute though, however at first my bf wasn’t super attractive to me since he was a bit more clean cut than I am used to but I dated him anyway… and his looks grew. ;D</p>
<p>To be honest, I’d rather have somebody who’s not the best looking, but our personalities are a 100% match, than somebody who’s extremely attractive, but I can’t stand to hold a conversation with. </p>
<p>Attraction, for me, does come first – but if I find out that the person is a jerk or arrogant or an airhead, then I’m out.</p>
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<p>I agree with this. With my current BF, I wasn’t that attracted to him on a purely physical level, but we got along really well and had that spark/chemistry anyway. And once we started dating, I started noticing more and more things I find attractive about him, like, he has a great smile and nice eyes, etc. He’s still not really my type, but he’s cute enough and we get along so well I don’t care.</p>
<p>For me, what I need is that “spark.” To have that, I need to not be repulsed by a guy, but as long as that criteria is met, personality becomes the biggest factor for who I spark with.</p>
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<p>Gotta love unqualified anecdotal evidence</p>
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<p>On the opposite end, it sucks having your parent look so young that she looks like your “friend.” Everybody thinks my mother is either my friend or my sister; one person actually thought she and I were lesbians because I said we live together. </p>
<p>I guess that’s good for me because (with much hope) I won’t age poorly, but I’m still trying to shove my mother into Talbots and get her to wear those themed sweaters where the Jack-o-lantern/Santa Clause/Easter Bunny lights up and maybe a pair of moccasins with white socks and pants that don’t quite reach the ankle.</p>
<p>She needs to dress like my third-grade teacher in order to look my mother</p>
<p>So far, she hasn’t budged.</p>
<p>Plattsburgh- that’s interesting to hear. I often wonder what the daughter’s perspective is on a mom who dresses like she’s 20 instead of 50- even if she can wear the young styles. I once saw a 50 yr old mom in the dressing room at GAP with an armful of clothes and her 18 year old daughter handing her more pieces. It just seemed sad that the mom was encroaching on the daughter’s look, and gleefully voicing her need for a smaller size than the daughter. (No doubt some Greek tragedy has covered this theme before.)</p>
<p>That is too funny about the holiday sweaters and Talbots–hopefully there is an intermediary stage somewhere in Eileen Fisher or Jones NY!</p>
<p>I think people are kind of more superficial when it comes to dating. What I mean by this is that people are more into appearances. That’s what I think anyway.</p>