<p>Hi I'm a freshman at college and enjoying my new college life. Recently, I fall in love with my RA who's a sophomore. Is it okay and usual to fall in love with your RAs? He's really nice to me and everything, but I think that's because he's an RA and supposed to be friendly to everyone on his floor. I really don't know what to do. Should I tell him how I feel or just keep it to myself in case he might get uncomfortable? What do you guys suggest me to do? Any comments would be helpful and appreciated. Btw, I'm a girl.</p>
<p>School just started. Don't say anything to him in case your feelings change. You might find someone else more interesting. If you say anything now, it'll just make things awkward for the rest of the year... assuming he isn't "in love" with you.</p>
<p>What if my feelings don't change even after months? Should I then tell him so?</p>
<p>How is your gender "1"?</p>
<p>how does being an RA make a difference? treat him like any guy you are normally interested in</p>
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how does being an RA make a difference? treat him like any guy you are normally interested in
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you will live with this person for another 8 months. you will see them in the elevator/stairwell, halls, the bathroom (assuming your bathrooms are co-ed), etc...that and if you ever need help with something dorm-related, they're supposed to be there. so yeah, unless you're a fan of awkward situations, there's good reason to be concerned.</p>
<p>but hey, at least the condoms'll be free and easy to get.</p>
<p>RA = authority position. RA = that guy/girl on your floor who's not quite your friend but not quite your superior in the sense of the Bureaucrats.</p>
<p>At my school, the RAs are specifically told not to get in relationships with people in their building/floor/complex/dorm. This is not only because it's very easy for somebody else to complain that the RA's girlfriend gets preferential treatment. It's also because if the RA and said floormate/girlfriend go out and party and pictures are taken with the RA holding alcohol or even just being around it, it can be used as blackmail if the two ever break up. If pictures like that of an RA were to get out, it would seriously undermine the whole reputation RAs are supposed to have.</p>
<p>You don't love your RA. You can't love someone after knowing them for a couple weeks. Don't try to date your RA, it'll only cause problems.</p>
<p>Thanks guys. I won't tell him about my feelings as long as he's my RA. I don't want him to get into any trouble.</p>
<p>Only let ur friendship change if he is interested in u. if not, then dont force anything</p>
<p>wait it out see if you really do really like him</p>
<p>I agree with the people who say wait... Yeah RA's are not allowed to date and in some cases are advised not to become friends with their residents... With that said I know many RA's who dated residents, and peronally I became really good friends with my RA.</p>
<p>As an RA, I would say that yeah, we're not supposed to be fooling around.</p>
<p>In reality, I say would it definitely be a BIG issue this time of year. February or March not so much. Wait and see if the feelings last. See if s/he's being flirty.</p>
<p>if you want it, go for it. with both of you in college id hope you can be mature about it and not make it a big deal if things dont work out.</p>
<p>you love him because he is nice to you? Jesus christ your easy.</p>
<p>I hope this thread is joke if not you need to seek help because you have the mind of an 11 yr old.</p>