I have been dating this guy for eight months now but known him a whole year. A few months ago we both became interested in going across the country: one because we love food and two because we like to travel. It worked out perfect to where his dad could get us plane tickets with his flying points and we could stay with one of his aunts. I agreed to all of this before speaking to my parents about it. Although I had dropped hints about going I finally asked them if I could go and they flat out said no . there excuse was that since we are Hispanic it’s not as allowed to let your kids do these things and that they feel uncomfortable letting me go while according to them I’ve only know my boyfriend for so little time. The problem is the trip is two weeks away and everything is completely ready. Would it be completely crazy and would they lose all trust and communication in me? I should note I’ve always been a good kid and never done anything against their wishes but they treat me like a little girl and this is why it’s difficult deciding what to do.
Do your parents still pay your bills? If so, you should respect their wishes.
In the Hispanic culture, that I am part of, it’s really not considered acceptable to go alone, on a trip, with a boyfriend, regardless of how long you’ve known him or whether or not you are of age.
Yes, its very old fashioned, but you lost their respect by not even considering talking to them, or asking them before plans were made. This is a culture that doesn’t typically “allow” their female children to leave the house before marriage. That’s part of the culture and always has been.
You can only be mad at yourself.