<p>Hey guyss,
I'm from Minnesota and I am going to college in Costa rica. Quite a ways away I know but hey, it'll be fun! I need help figuring out the pros and cons to my boyfriend coming with. We have been dating for 2 years and we are pretty serious. I would be going to college and he would work during the time we are there (4.5 months) which would help pay for side things like groceries, laundry, housing, etc. The one problem is that my parents are totally against it saying he would be a distraction. Which is totally opposite, he always has helped me focus on schooling and do my work. I would love as many opinions as possible!
We get along great! He is my best friend that I can rely on for anything. He has always been there for me through everything. We never fight, just little arguments that we always work though right away! our realtionship isnt stressful to either of us at all! (Just a few details)
Thanksss!</p>
<p>Do you two currently live together?</p>
<p>If not, I’d say it’s a bad idea. Moving in together for the first time in a different country would not be a very wise move.</p>
<p>Oh! We wouldn’t be living together down there. We are currently not living together and want to wait til marriage for that :)</p>
<p>So you plan on living apart? Have you ever been to Costa Rica? Know what the housing/job situation is like? You can’t really just get a job for 4.5 months… </p>
<p>It sounds like an unrealistic idea to be honest. He has to get a visa and such to be down there and work.</p>
<p>Yeah, I agree that it’s logistically and technically iffy. How about you figure out housing and visa stuff first? If you can for sure know that he’ll be able to get a visa and a job for 4.5 months and that you guys can find 2 places to live, THEN think about the prospect of it going through. Don’t get yourself pumped when it might not happen. </p>
<p>As a personal side note, a male friend of mine thought of a similar plan (hey harvest, let’s go live in France together over a summer while you take classes!), and I nipped it before either of us could get all excited. As it turns out I’m not even going on that same summer trip anymore, and likewise, he’ll be off somewhere else for a summer research thing. </p>
<p>Sometimes life makes twists and turns, so it’s important to not get carried away too early.</p>
<p>It’d be for 4.5 months? I’d say leave him home. That’s not a long time and your relationship will survive the break if it’s strong. This should be your time to do something amazing on your own. Also, think about the what-ifs. As others have said, there’s no guarantee he’d get a job. And what if you’re waaay busier than you expected and have no time to see him and he’s bored and lonely because he has no real reason to be there? Also, what if you break up? I know, I know, your relationship is strong and great and serious but it’s always a possibility.</p>
<p>I’d say take advantage of the chance to do something on your own and keep your own company. Since you are serious, maybe long term even, you won’t always have such a chance.</p>
<p>If your relationship will last, it will survive, 4.5 months apart. I am currently at 7 months apart from my boyfriend, with summer break in different states and study abroad. We have survived so far and in some ways I think we are stronger because of it.
Even if this is technically possible (which strikes me as iffy), it would be a huge hassle, might drive a wedge between you, and you might miss out on chances to see Costa Rica and be independent. Perhaps he could come visit at some point if you are worried about being apart for so long.</p>
<p>If you two wouldn’t be living together, I’d say it’s an even worse idea.</p>
<p>That would cost considerably more. Roughly twice as much. It would be a whole lot of paperwork involved and the possibility of finding a short term job there likely would not be that great. </p>
<p>4.5 months is nothing. If your relationship is as strong as you say it is, that’s nothing. One of the greatest ways of determining the strength of a relationship is to spend time apart. Use this time to experience some life on your own. It’s a great opportunity to.</p>
<p>I don’t think its a good idea. I agree with comfortablycurt with the spending time apart part. You guys could always visit each other during the 4.5 months, but I think you should take this time to focus on your schooling.</p>
<p>Has he checked out the legalities of working in Costa Rica?
It would be nice for him to come for a visit/ vacation at the end of your semester abroad</p>