<p>Um, minor quibble: Spray paint didn’t exist in the 1820s, or the 1920s for that matter. Also, back then you would have had criminal prosecution rather than vandalism in many areas. Or alternatively nobody would have cared, as that was before the real tension and need to keep Blacks “in their place” had built up.</p>
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<p>If white people are the “only people you get along with,” then why not just hang out with people you naturally would hang out with? Try not to put up with rude comments from others. If others make fun of you for hanging out with a white person, explain why that person is your friend (his/her qualities, personality,etc.). If people make fun of you for listening to “white” music, explain why you like the artist/song. Obviously though, this is easier said than done.</p>
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<p>Where do you live that the groups are still so divided? </p>
<p>I’m interracial myself, and I’ve never experienced any problems. I came out with freakishly white skin though, so people often assume I’m adopted. (Mom has dark Hungarian skin, father has olive-colored skin). </p>
<p>Yes, racism does exist.
But except for rare places, it doesn’t happen as the OP describes it, unless he/she is living in the deep divided south.</p>
<p>In my group of close friends we have the stereotypical Aryan white girl, a black/white interracial girl, 2 Hispanic/white people, one black guy, one white/Native American guy, one stereotypical Jewish girl, and a Arabic guy. My father jokes that we look like the UN when we all hang out. But that’s how it is around here and I’ve never had any real racial issues.</p>
<p>There are some racial issues. Like a guy got beaten up because he was Mexican. A Jewish family had their house vandalized with swastikas. A guy not to long ago was beaten and killed because he was Black. And all this happened in New York City the “Most diverse city in the world”. Some parts of Queens are not safe because of racial tensions. In SoCal there’s issues with Blacks and Hispanics. The Arizona Law is something that coulda came out during the 50s. Yea, there still is racism in this country.</p>
<p>I live in the deep south, and that kind of thing would never be tolerated… Folks around here are generally caught between fear of being perceived as bigoted (since many stereotype them that way) on one hand and rebellion against the perceived “reverse racism” on the other. At least as far as black-white relations go. I have heard some people, especially older people, say things about Hispanics that I’d consider racist.</p>
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<p>I’m from South Carolina and that would not be tolerated at all around here. We have so many interracial couples and multiracial kids that it just wouldn’t make sense.</p>
<p>And whoever assumed the OP was in the South… Dude, get over yourself. The entire world has racism… not just the South. Seriously? That is the biggest assumption if I’ve ever seen one.</p>
<p>Notice I didn’t just say the deep south. I said the deep divided south, as in the places that are divided, NOT the whole thing. I have been places in the south that are still very divided. I have been to others that have not. That was all I meant :rolleyes:</p>
<p>^ Yup.
I said, I do love my smiley faces.</p>
<p>Wow, people on here can be real ******s. Which college is #4 in America is dead serious business to them, but real issues are jokes. </p>
<p>Anyway, I don’t know how much help I am going to be here. I am a white Jewish girl, and while I know anti-Jewish sentiment exists some places, I have rarely encountered it at home in L.A. So I really can’t claim to understand the pain that you feel.</p>
<p>However, the best advice I can give you is that you need to be sure you are finding friends who like you for who you are and not what race you are (or aren’t). If the Black or Hispanic kids accepted you, would you be happy knowing they only liked you because you were Black/Hispanic? It is really painful to come to the conclusion that sometimes people just can’t accept you for who you are, but you have to remember that the problem is with them and not with you. You are what you are - and there is no logical reason to have excessive pride or shame in something that is beyond your control. Sorry, that’s the best advice I can give. :(</p>
<p>Also, I’m not sure what year you are in, but in college - if you pick the right one - you will most likely find that people tend to be much more intellectual and tolerant regarding racial issues.</p>
<p>@Romani: Ok. I’m guessing that the only places left like that are the inner cities, and maybe a couple of dying towns that haven’t had contact with civilization since the 1880s.</p>
<p>I’m always shocked to hear people seriously insist that racism is dead.
Which one of Patrick’s rocks are they living under? </p>
<p>Just a few weeks ago, a large number of hate crimes and racial-fueled murdered were committed against Latinos in Long Island. </p>
<p>Hell, go to Urban Dictionary, YouTube, Facebook Fan pages where people are known to constantly spout racist bull. </p>
<p>Anyone who genuinely believes racism is confined to 50 years ago is naive and oblivious as hell.</p>
<p>There is still much proof that there is a little bot of racism in be america. I have seen it,maybe not experience it, but of the feel of your situtaion,it looks like you have considered amount of pain. Don’t let others bring you down, just like other people said, go along with the people you want to and don’t care what others say.</p>
<p>[Short</a>, witty, true and is on topic](<a href=“http://survivingtheworld.net/Lesson727.html]Short”>Surviving the World - Lesson 727 - Xenophobia)</p>
<p>@MM- </p>
<p>It was two cities in South Carolina, one city in Alabama, and one city in Mississippi. We went on a road trip in the south.</p>
<p>I don’t spend that much time in the South, but it was mostly all white and there were pretty derogatory comments about some interracial couples that came in to a few of the places that we were staying (I can lip-read and I was “listening” to the workers). Two of the other places were saying derogatory things about African Americans in regards to a news story that was showing on the TV. The place in Alabama was the worst. My mum and I were speaking Spanish to one another, because we do that to practice sometimes- or if we’re talking about my father. I could hear the older waiter complaining that America was going to hell because them damn Mexicans are taking over America. That’s all I was saying. I haven’t seen that here in the north.</p>
<p>I may have had bad experiences. It’s true. All I was saying was that it is only in the south that I had seen blatant racism like that between whites and blacks or whites and Mexicans. </p>
<p>Around here, there was a strong anti-Muslim sentiment because of Dearborn, MI which has the highest percentage of Muslims in America. If the OP had been talking about racism towards Middle Easterners, then I would have used Dearborn as an example of where racism still exists. </p>
<p>/my discussion on this</p>
<p>^ I agree, you do hear derogatory comments, especially against Hispanics. But these kind of comments aren’t socially acceptable with pretty much anyone I know. But since most of my friends are in the rural church and rural homeschool networks, maybe I have a skewed view.</p>
<p>Among my friends, you’ll occasionally hear people say things like “So we were scared because there was a bunch of mexican guys hanging around…” but this is usually followed right away with “Oh, did that sound racist?” and a somewhat shamefaced look.</p>
<p>Hence what I said: Around here the main thing that makes race relations difficult is the fear of being seen as racist.</p>
<p>Ironically, when it comes to actual friends who are Black/Hispanic/Moroccan it’s pretty much a non-issue. It’s the politicians up in D. C. we worry about: we don’t want to live up to the way they steryotype us.</p>
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<p>Racism exists in a variety of forms, and it is truly unfortunate that you have had to experience it in such an overt manifestation. Yes, most people have at some time in their lives been judged - at least in part - by the color of their skin. It happens.</p>
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<p>Living in the area, I attended a number of local panels sponsored by social justice groups on the issue. I was shocked by the virulently racist drivel spewing out of the mouths of some of those who agreed with the attackers. Long Island, though in the NE, has both de facto segregation - and the accompanying disparity in public services and facilities - along with entrenched institutionalized racism. I’ve both seen it and experienced it.</p>
<p>It’s not just in the deep divided south that overt manifestations of racism occur. Put a group of bigots together anywhere, and you’ll get the same results.</p>
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<p>My friends and I enjoy poking fun at ethnic stereotypes. Sometimes, we carry this to extremes. :)</p>
<p>On the whole, though, we frequently discuss race, as most of us are minorities. Some do express their negative sentiments towards certain races; it is not infrequently that I have had individuals talk about their “dislike” of African-Americans as a group. Changing such attitudes is hard, because there is an entire system of thought built up around the perpetuation of such stereotypes. This situation extends to basically every stereotype out there.</p>
<p>Gosh, when you go to college pick a uni that’s a lot more diverse and liberal.</p>
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<p>I still can’t believe that Columbia is #4 now. Poop</p>