I'm home for winter break and I hate it

I’ve been home for four days and break is three weeks and I’m so bored. I’m an only child and never had any pets so it’s not like I have any siblings or animals I’m visiting with. My parents are okay, but I’m not the kind of kid who’s best friends with his parents and they get on my nerves sometimes. I’ve hung out with some friends from high school once since I’ve been back but it wasn’t much fun. I knew some of my friends from high school since kindergarten and I’m tired of them. I don’t like any of my friends here that much, I was just friends with them because they liked me and I went to a small high school, so it wasn’t like there were many other people to make friends with. I never had a girlfriend in high school so I don’t have a girlfriend to visit with. I like being in college because I get to live with a bunch of other people my age and my friends were right down the hall, so it was really convenient to go hang with them. Plus I could stay up super late watching movies and stuff with them. Here my parents go to bed early so it’s just me who’s up late. I’ve been reading a lot, but I really don’t like siting around the house reading all day. I like to get out and do stuff. I don’t know what to do. I just want to go back to school

Find a meetup group online or use social media to see if any kids from your school live in your area and want to hang out.

I’m just guessing that you get on their nerves too…

You need to try to be more mature here. Make an effort with your home friends if you want to have things to do. No other choice. Otherwise, I hear War and Peace will take about 3 weeks;) :wink:

Don’t you have a job? Work more hours. save some money, buy your parents something nice for christmas.

No friends from high school? Contact people you used to know and hang out :slight_smile:

Is there someplace you can volunteer? Or teach yourself something new – get books on drawing or something from the library.

Or tell your parents you are bored. They likely can find some chores for you. :smiley:

I have felt that way be too and still do to some extent. But there are plenty of things that you can do! You can try to teach yourself a new instrument, pick up a hobby like drawing, find an volunteer opportunity/job you enjoy,go out and adventure by yourself, bike/run/take nature shots, perhaps work at an animal shelter, set a challenge for yourself, skype your friends from college, perhaps see if there are any concerts/art festivals nearby, offer to talk about your college experiences as a rep to your old high school,

see movies you’ve always wanted to see, see if you can get a part-time internship while you are at home, work on stuff you have been putting off like resumes, start a business doing stuff like tutoring or helping edit college essays, go out to restaurants that you’ve never been to, spend time in coffee shops and maybe make new acquaintances/ask someone out you find attractive, create something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time, look up posters and other things you want to bring back to your room, become part of a project (like starting your own HONY page), exercise or go to the gym, go rock climbing, spread holiday cheer, learn how to cook, ask your parents to tell you stories, scrapbook your photos from college

make holiday gifts for someone else, work on something about yourself, start a goals/aspirations sheet of things you want to do, ask an acquaintance to set you up, do winter clothes shopping, watch PSYCH - great show, discover new music, learn to skateboard, become really good at dancing or martial arts, learn new card games or tricks to impress your friends, get some beauty sleep, send thoughtful notes for your friends at college, babysit other kids, apply for scholarships, start looking for a summer job of interest, start a youtube channel, start random conversations with strangers, learn to whittle, start journaling about things from this year that you enjoyed

OK that is officially all my ideas for now. One of the things my friends and I are doing from college is to write a book for fun, where we each write a chapter and pass it along to one another. Possibly consider doing something like that. Or any of the other suggestions I have listed above. Good luck!

When I visit my elderly folks, I often take up a “project” in their home to “give back”. Plus, I get a lot of personal satisfaction out of helping them. It can be something as simple as organizing one of their closets or helping them with some I.T. task.

You’re old enough not to sulk in your room and expect the world to keep you entertained at all times.

Only boring people are bored. Really true. Maybe read a book.

  1. volunteer. Find a soup kitchen, a place that needs help around the holidays.
  2. find a part time job, don’t tell your parents (say it’s a surprise), save the money and buy nice presents to your parents and grandparents. They’ll be really surprised from the thoughtfulness and gesture.

Well, you’re learning something about yourself. Next break you can plan ahead. You can apply for a short internship during your break, in advance, for spring (http://www.thesca.org/ )

  • Volunteer for a homeless shelter or for a food bank
  • Habitat for Humanity has ongoing projects
  • Help your parents clean out the gutters and repair the garage door--or whatever
  • Take a short class at a community college in something like computer repair or something else practical; often they offer one-day classes for practical subjects.
  • Get your Red Cross certification.
  • Donate blood.
  • Libraries have books, but they also have all kinds of programs, like computer training, poetry writing, knitting, tax prep, graphic novel writing, etc.
  • The Russian Novel reading idea is a great one. War and Peace will take about 3 weeks and what a ride! Also Brothers Karamazov, Anna K., Crime and Punishment. These are perfect for winter. See if you can find the newer translations. https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/28/books/review/new-translations-of-tolstoys-anna-karenina.html
  • Learn to cook. You will never ever ever regret knowing how to cook. Seriously. There's no quicker way into someone's heart than through their stomach. Go to epicurious.com and click on "quick and easy" and find something to make for dinner tonight. Your parents will love you for this.

Secondibg ‘learn to cook’. You never regret it.

A lot of great suggestions here. I have to say, you sound very childish and ungrateful. Your parents have worked hard for you to have a nice life, so try to show a bit of gratitude. As far as not having anyone to hang out with, I am not surprised. You come across as being very negative. I bet your friends from kindergarten are tired of you too.

Meanwhile, I suggest you try some of the ideas posted here. It won’t be very interesting to go back to college and tell everyone about your boring days reading and the one time you didn’t have any fun hanging out with your boring friends.

It sounds like you know how you felt before you even went off too college - should have planned better! It sounds like you’re going to be bored when you go back for the summer too. Maybe you could try to set something up for the summer because you’ll have even more time to be bored then :stuck_out_tongue:

DD? Jk, but your situation sounds eerily similar. Also an only child, she is already “bored” (she’s been home less than a week). The lack of an avalanche of classes, assignments, studying and dorm living is driving her crazy. As it’s not our responsibility to entertain her, she’s on her own as to how to she wants to spend the next several weeks. No boyfriend, and no job to go back to (summertime employment is another story). She met up with HS friends who I think she is drifting away from (when you know what everyone is up to via social media, and you don’t have any recent shared experiences, what is there to talk about?). She’s planning to do some serious pleasure reading, but beyond that, who knows?

Suggestion: put together a little list of goals for yourself over the break, whether it’s exercise related (I will walk/run/go to the gym X number of days a week), reading a certain # of books (or burning through a series), exploring one new place a day (a new eatery/museum/store/area). You will feel like you accomplished something and it will keep you busy enough to stop the whining.

Instead of moping around all day why don’t you ask your parents if there is something useful you could do tell help them out during this busy time?

I have clear memories of feeling out of place and restless when I returned home, so I can empathise, to a certain extent. However, I recognized that my family was a bit frozen in time with regards to how they related to me, and I was now very different.

I dealt with the disconnect by keeping busy and avoiding conflict. This was occasionally difficult because the one car that was available to me was used as a device to control me, so volunteering and getting a job over break was tough because I couldn’t rely on getting the car.

Find a way to keep busy, and recognize that what you feel isn’t unusual. Just don’t be mean to your parents.

My kids really enjoy not having classes, homework for a short time, and being able to relax a bit.

My college student and high school student also work, which gives them work experience and spending money they can spend as they wish, or save for the future.

In general, I think many here are being way too condescending, mean, and immature themselves. This feeling at home to me is a sign of someone who has made a home elsewhere, away from their parents. Yet the OP is still being called immature. Where in the OP are they ungrateful for anything? They are genuinely asking for suggestions of things to do, and some here have provided some good responses. But I am blown away by the negativity here from so many parents and older people. The OP is not against using his time in any way, according to the post. They simply don’t know how they would enjoy using it. There’s absolutely no reason to take this tone with someone asking for advice.

There’s often not much sense for getting a job for 2-3 weeks while home, and can be hard to find an an employer that wants an employee for such a short period of time. Not having a job when home for winter break is pretty normal.


From the OP:

I really take issue with that post. Not only is it mean, unhelpful, and completely misses something mentioned in the OP, but it’s simply not that categorically true. Boredom at home, where you will only be for a short amount of time, displaced from a now usual environment, is pretty understandable. Are you really trying to say that anyone who has experienced boredom are boring people?

@operalover18

I would highly second the suggestions for side projects of any sort, and using the time to organize your priorities and work on things you may not have time for during the busy school year. It’s what I do myself, but I certainly still feel a bit of the boredom you mentioned, as someone who keeps a few close friends rather than many. I’m terribly sorry for all of the negative responses here, and know that the feeling you have is very common, normal, and understandable.

Bing watch a highly rated TV series that has at least 2 seasons out. Visit older people (like grandparents) - you will make their day! Study ahead for a difficult class you have. Help around the house. Reconnect with friends and read, a lot.