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I recently just commented on another thread with a similar situation. I think you should try to relax more, school just started… and it appears you haven’t even had your classes yet.</p>
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<p>Glad I’m not the only one! I haven’t met any other transfer students and only a couple of other juniors. It’s weird because everyone else is starting their post high school life brand new, but I feel like I already have a good head start on my life. So since I’m not looking to completely start over it’s just a little weird hanging around all these freshmen. But it’s definitely gotten better with my classes.</p>
<p>Attend your residence hall programs, you can meet new people there!! Introduce yourself to people in your residence hall!!</p>
<p>Introduce yourself to someone at class, you can meet tons of people at class.</p>
<p>Get involved, then engaged in school. Attend the meetings of many clubs/organizations in school, when you find one you like - commit to it.</p>
<p>If you’re still feeling lonely, talk to your RA - WE are trained to help you succeed in school!!</p>
<p>I think it’s perfectly normal to feel that way… I’m going to be a freshman too this fall (I start in September), but I’ve read in many other college forums about other students who feel similarly to how you feel… and upperclassmen say its normal. I’m sure it’ll take some time, but you’ll learn to adapt, make new friends, etc.</p>
<p>It’s okay, I had similar feelings the first few days last year (not sure about this year as I’m not at school yet haha). </p>
<p>Anyhow once classes start and you get busy, it gets a lot better. You’ll get to meet more people outside your residence hall and you’ll be preoccupied with studying/learning, which after all is the real reason you have gone to college.</p>
<p>Just hang in there and try to stay happy. For now watch a favorite movie or do something you would do at home. I got through my first night in the dorm watching South Park and Flight Of The Conchords with my roommate.</p>
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<p>Yeah, OP, talk to this guy. You two might hit it off.</p>
<p>“Don’t hook up with the first guy that comforts you…unless it’s me.”</p>
<p>This post made my day.</p>
<p>I didn’t even bother to read the rest of the pages after seeing the first… so here’s my two cents worth of actual advice, I hope it helps.</p>
<p>First, take a deep breath. You just said yourself that you’ve only been at college for two days (three now I suppose). This is perfectly normal to be upset, insecure and double guessing your decision about college — I bet that half of the kids on your floor are having the same thoughts, even if they aren’t showing it. Take a positive attitude to at least try this, give yourself at least two weeks before making any decisions on how you truly feel.</p>
<p>Now, with at least a tiny bit of positive attitude, get off the computer. If you’re in a single (or even a double or triple) open your door and prop it open with a doorstop or heavy object. Congrats - people are more likely to stop and say hello! Get out of your room and force yourself to attend (even if you don’t participate) in some of the freshman activities that the school has going on. If they don’t have any, keep an eye open for any clubs/sports/activities that might interest you. It’s fine to go to a meeting or two just to see what they are about, even if you’re unsure if you want to join.</p>
<p>Altogether: realize that you haven’t given it a chance yet & force yourself to get out and try things. Everyone else is just as awkward and lost feeling as you, it WILL get better and you’ll start making friends soon too! Good luck I really hope this helped!</p>
<p>thanks for all the great advice. i went out last night with some people i knew from high school and got my mind off of things. i guess i just feel lonely because i don’t have the slightest clue what to do with my time. isn’t it awkward meeting random people in the hall? everyone seems to be consumed with moving in and just…busy.</p>
<p>Also, just talk to people. It’s hard at first, and it’s still hard for me sometimes, but if you’re awkwardly sitting next to someone else who’s eating dinner alone say something. Sometimes you can meet great friends this way, and if not at least you got to have an interesting conversation for awhile.</p>
<p>It’s normal to feel like crap during the first week of college. It’s a new experience. The first two days, I just laid in bed, cried, and skipped out on orientation. I remember spending once a week for the first month just crying because I felt so alone. You feel a bit more sane when you find yourself talking with other people and attempting to make friends with others. It really does help. I got out of my comfort zone and forced myself to talk to people. Just about anybody – all smiles and small talk with anyone that seemed welcoming.</p>
<p>I did the same thing: hanging out with two friends that I went to high school with just to ease my mind. When classes and clubs/activities start, you might find the transition easier. You’ll find things to do and be busy. The days before classes start do suck. As a junior, I now move in one day before classes start now because 3 days of doing nothing in the dorm drove me insane. </p>
<p>And don’t do things that make you feel uncomfortable just to fit in. I know it is cliched, but you’ll feel even worse when you do things that you know you’ll regret later.</p>
<p>I do wish you the best and hope things get better for you! :)</p>
<p>^ that was my mistake. I don’t think the first week would’ve been so bad if I hadn’t spent 3 days doing nothing in my dorm. It was miserable. Definitely moving in later next semester.</p>
<p>Wow, the comments on the first few pages are really, really awful. As someone who experienced terrible homesickness and depression the first few weeks of college, reading your comments would be more hurtful than helpful - they are so insensitive it’s just sad. </p>
<p>OP, despite what others may say, you don’t need to man up or drop out or do something ridiculous. I fell into a steep depression the second day of college - I was mourning the loss of my old life. After attending the same school for 12 years with the same group of friends, college was a major change. I cried probably for three weeks straight - I didn’t know anybody and, well, I came from a small, close-knit, sheltered life and the real world was different. I was nervous about drinking, having a roommate, being on my own etc, etc. I eventually learned to deal with it and learned a great deal about myself. </p>
<p>Best advice: keep busy. It will distract you. I joined a sports club that practiced for 3 hours a day, ate dinner - and through that club I found my group of friends. It was the best thing to happen to me. Fill your days with meetings, study time, classes, and meeting friends. It’ll be tough when you have down-time, but try and have as little as possible. If you’re sitting alone in your room - turn on the television, surf the web, or, the best thing to do, go outside! Take a walk, join a game of frisbee, or take some school work to the local coffee shop and sit and do work.</p>
<p>Finding friends is the best route to avoiding homesickness. Hanging out with them will take your mind off things. I’m going back to school tomorrow and I’ve been kind of depressed - mainly because I know I’ll miss my laid back, relaxing home as well as my car and old high school buddies. But, I’ve already made plans for when I get back to hopefully negate as much of the homesickness as possible! I’ve accepted that it will be tough getting used to the college life, but I just remember all the good times I’ve had and will have, and it helps.</p>
<p>Keep your damn door to your dorm room open; usually people will just walk right in and say hi.</p>
<p>Also, drink. Makes it easier to meet new people.</p>
<p>“Also, drink. Makes it easier to meet new people.”</p>
<p>that’s not true. Well that’s not entirely true.</p>
<p>I didn’t read 99% of this thread, and I’m sure it’s been mentioned but everything really does get better when classes start. Having a bit more structure allows you to keep your mind off of things. You have work to do, and its a time when you can really feel proud of your accomplishments. There’s more people around campus, clubs start up, etc.</p>
<p>OK buddy listen to this old man. I am 51 and walked in your shoes many years ago. You need to do a couple of things:</p>
<h1>1:</h1>
<p>Ask yourself what do I like to do?
What makes me tic?
What am I passionate about?</p>
<p>It could be the enviroment, sailing, swimming, reading, helping others, running, foreign lanquage, bicycling? It could be anything. Then go to the Student Union and speak with the people at The Center for Student Activities or whatever it is called at your school. Get a list of clubs and organizations and find yours. </p>
<p>Trust me you will find your club or group of people that are passionate about the same things you are. Get with them as soon as possible. This is critical just pretend your Dr. sent you a Rx to find a club and DO IT NOW.</p>
<p>Step #2 buy the book “the power of positive thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale. This book changed my life and I am sure it will help you.</p>
<p>Jack if you dont have the money to buy the book? PM me your dorm office address and I will have Amazon send it to you.</p>
<p>Good luck and enjoy the next few years of your life. Like the commercial says: “it doesnt get any better than this”</p>
<p>^^^^gator4ever… Nice post!</p>
<p>OP take gators advice…He is right.</p>
<p>My D is freshman and is struggling with the transition. I am confused, aggravated, frustrated and exhausted. She is extremely sad and in tears whenever she is alone. Unfortunately, she is also in a single room which probably doesnt help. She did seek help and visited the Health Center. Apparently, she was hurting much more than her father and I were aware. So much was bottled up inside that the transition to college just heighted her grief. The Health Center has assigned her a counselor and she is in grief counseling. She told me she just wants to feel better and normal again but doesnt know how. She is forcing herself to go out but just feels overwhelmingly sad. I wish I would have realized how much she was truly hurting inside and had her talking to someone sooner. </p>
<p>For those about manning-up, she did man up her senior year. She had 3 boys bullying and harassing her 3 out of 4 classes, suffered and recovered from a broken-jaw, missed her senior spring break cruise because FedEx lost her passport which stranded her Miami FL for 2 days, and lost many of her close friends because she prefers not to party/drink. All of this with very few complaints. Perhaps manning up and burying her feelings did more harm than good. None of my family or friends understands her feelings. They say she is so smart, beautiful and outgoing how could she possibly be depressed or unhappy. Well she is. I am hopeful that counseling will help her get to a better place.</p>
<p>gator4ever great advice. I forwarded your words of wisdom via text. Also, one copy of the book “the power of positive thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale is on its way to her. Thank you for sharing your insight.</p>
<p>Good luck to the OP and others this year.</p>
<p>lol you guys jackdaniels is a girl…</p>