<p>So I posted about being extremely upset about leaving and originally I had decided to suck it up and go but lately my crying and getting upset is worse. It used to be I would cry one night and get over it by morning but now I am constantly upset about it and cry myself to sleep most nights. Here's the deal: I am extremely close to my family because I really only have 1 good friend that I actually hang out with so most of my time is spent with my family. I have been pretty sheltered and I just don't think I can do it, go off to college. My older sister went to our local community college and doesn't seem to regret it at all, she loved it because we are all extremely family oriented. To make things worse yesterday I got a call from the community college saying it isn't too late to sign up for classes so I've really been questioning my decision. And I just want to know should I just stay home and if I do what will happen with my roommate? Will she get a new one because I would feel terrible.</p>
<p>what you can do is just move into your room and see how it is after a few days and if you really want to go home then go home but leave some stuff in the room in case you want to go back. only take online classes this semester so you can stay home while still attending the college and just ease yourself into staying in the dorms but your really need to learn how to be on your own. unless your parents are going to let you stay in with them for the rest of your life. or if you move into a house next to them.</p>
<p>I do not advise you to take all online classes this semester so you can stay home while still being enrolled in your school. What if online classes aren’t your thing? What if you need tutoring? What if you need to speak to your professor in person? Three hours is not a drive down the street. I honestly believe you should go and stay on campus. Being immersed into the environment will help you cope. You need to establish a new normal. You cannot hold onto your old life and start your new life at college. It will clash and you will find yourself being cheated in the end. </p>
<p>You need to make a decision. You need to tell yourself “Yes, I am going away to college. Yes, I am going to stay on campus. Yes, I will still be close to my family. Yes, I will find friends and establish a support team. Yes, I will have fun. Yes, I CAN do this and I WILL do this.” or tell yourself “No, I don’t want to go away to college. I want to stay home. I want to continue spending time with my family. I will grow and spread my branches, and I will revisit the idea of leaving when I finish community college”. </p>
<p>Tell yourself one or the other, not both. </p>
<p>Maybe this is a good time to talk with a counselor or clergyperson or someone else who could give you objective feedback. </p>
<p>One thing you should check is your college’s policy on refunds - you can often get a full or almost-full refund if you leave within a few days, but given your emotional state, it probably would be a good idea to know precisely what that deadline is.</p>
<p>Going off to college may be an important step for you. Yes, family can be very important in some families but it’s also important to have life beyond family. College is a great place for reinventing yourself socially, as I’m sure many have told you. I think it may be a bullet you should consider biting for your own good in the future.</p>
<p>I’ve used this quote on here before even, but “If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting for the rest of our lives.”</p>