Bid day was about a month ago and I got my second choice house. My first choice pretty much promised me a bid and didn’t get it. I wanted my first choice so badly but I really thought I would love my second choice. I was so unhappy on bid day but didn’t want to give up and drop it right away. I wanted to give it a chance. A month later I feel better sometimes but I always go back to feeling upset and disliking it. I hang out with the girls in my pledge class all the time but it feels so cliquey and I always try to hang out with different girls, but they aren’t my kind of people. I feel like I would’ve been so much happier in my third choice and I regret putting my second down second. I want to like the sorority i’m in so much but it’s so hard. I don’t know what to do. I’m not initiated so if I drop I can still rush again sophomore year, but I’m scared it will be harder for me to get a bid. I have talked to my rho gammas from rush for advice but they say ultimately it’s my decision and i don’t know what to do. Please let me know what you think!
If you are unhappy, what is the point of continuing and paying all those extra sorority costs. You join a sorority for teh friendships, the service, and the fun. If you can live with the risk of not being in a sorority at all (I know this is unthinkable for some people) then drop it and try again next year for one that will make you happier. If you can’t live with that risk then stay where you are and make the most of it.
You’ve given your second choice a try and are still unhappy. Quit now. Life’s too short to feel bad. No point in going on. You don’t want to get initiated because then if you’re still unhappy and quit, you can never join another NPC sorority.
As NorthernMom61 says, you can try again next year. Just realize that you will probably not get your original first choice then, either.
Almost the exact same thing happened to me. I ended up getting my second choice house which resulted in me being extremely unhappy on bid day. I wanted to drop, but decided to give it a chance. After a week I still couldn’t see myself happy in the sorority I was in. Although it was awkward, I knew it was the right decision to drop. There is no point settling for something that doesn’t make you happy when there are so many other things on campus that will. I’m still unsure if I’m going to rush again next year, but if you’re considering it at all it’s definitely worth a shot. You either get a bid from a house you’re happier at, or you find another social club that makes you happy. If you think about it, a sorority is nothing but another social club. Either way, there’s no point in settling for any extra curricular activity if it doesn’t make you happy(and it sounds like this is exactly the case). As long as you do what feels right, things will work out.