<p>Do it. Seriously, do it.</p>
<p>Don't rush it too much now! Go on a group date type of setting, just you two might be a tad awkward.</p>
<p>^^^^^ No, they are best friends. Why should they back up now and do something impersonal like that?</p>
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<p>I fell in love with my best friend a few weeks ago. Its an impossibility for anything to happen because we really are just very very close friends, nothing more. </p>
<p>In my case, it is just one of those cases that wasn't meant to be. I'm over it now.</p>
<p>Think about it.
Is it a close attraction, or a real love?
And remember, you are going to have to lose one eventually. It's just up to you to make that decision. Friend? or Love?
In my case, I initially thought it was love. But apparently it turned out, that it was just that I really cared for her because she was such a close, and important friend to me.</p>
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In my case, I initially thought it was love. But apparently it turned out, that it was just that I really cared for her because she was such a close, and important friend to me.
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<p>Another good point. </p>
<p>I think this is further argument for going for this now, rather than waiting until next year. If it turns out to be friendship and not love, you'll have summer to get back on an even keel.</p>
<p>Move quickly!</p>
<p>My D met a boy when they were both 15 and starting in the HS as new kids in sophomore year. They stayed best friends for 6 years. For much of that time, friends and family teased them about getting together. It was so obvious to us all that he was in love with her. She resisted for 6 years until this past October when she decided to give it a shot. Well, after an initial period of start/stop when she felt totally weirded out, they are going strong. So strong, in fact, that they will be engaged in several months. I'm glad that they didn't get together in high school. They probably wouldn't have lasted so long. Now they're 22 and building a life on a 6-year friendship, and couldn't be happier.</p>
<p>I don't think I could ever fall in love with one of my friend >__<</p>
<p>Wow, this topic hits hard to home. I never had a "girlfriend" in high school but had a few very close girl friends. One of them was almost like my little sister in a sense.</p>
<p>Rumors started to fly that I was going to ask one of them out during my freshman year. The girl in question then accused me of it. She stopped hanging out with me and also my best buddy (who coincidentally had broken up with her right when these rumors were starting--she thought he was dumping her so I could ask her out, I guess). These rumors cooled off after she sent some threatening letters to my friends and I about "this kid named Mike who could beat us all up". Oh well, she was a typical sophomore girl in that respect I guess.</p>
<p>The others who I became very close with never seemed to think that I was going to ask them out. One of them had at one time had a mad crush on me (before I met her--the fact was revealed by a mutual friend). Some had boyfriends yet still spent a lot of time with me anyways.</p>
<p>Rumors got started during my senior year. I was frequently spotted with one girl in particular instead of hanging out with my friends. A LOT of my friends thought we were going out. However, we were actually single together, if that makes sense. Neither of us wanted a committed relationship with anyone at the time so we just chilled as two good buddies a lot. There was another girl who would often join us and rumors also circulated that I was actually going out with her. She too had the same "no date" philosophy as me and my friend.</p>
<p>In college I know one girl who obviously wants more than friendship from me although I've tried to make it known to her that I don't want a relationship, mostly by talking about my other girl friends.</p>
<p>One thing that has been discussed amongst two of my HS friends is that they predicted I would have likely asked one of the two girls I hung out with all the time out eventually had we stayed in HS another few years. Another guy predicted I would have a summer love with one of them. Both are younger than me so they are still there and I still see them every now and then but no relationships have come to ruin good friendships.</p>
<p>Stay away from relationships. They ruin great boy-girl friendships. At least, that's the philosophy of my two friends and I.</p>
<p>Be a man. Life only happens once. Or as my cousin would say, "grow a sack".</p>
<p>This sounds an awful like Brad Bernard...</p>
<p>dude- spank the bootay thats the way to go- well if youre together forever like murry and dick or wendy and karim (great couple) then who cares if shes ur bffffaeaaeaeddutoptuiasds</p>
<p>Why is Karim so gentle and kind? He wouldn't even harm a fly.</p>
<p>Kernz- I still don't understand that Karim uppy reference.</p>
<p>*puppy. I apologize dearly for the spelling mistake.</p>
<p>Sooo, I only read part of the original post but...
don't do it please.
I just finished dating my best friend (he broke up with me a few weeks ago) and we've talked maybe twice since then. We used to talk every day.
It's probably not worth losing a friend over, because (As pessimistic as this sounds) it likely won't last.</p>
<p>That's not slightly odd or somewhat disturbing at all.</p>
<p>I would go for it. Even if it fails, I would at least know I did go for it, I did seek the opportunity. Don't be afraid of the possibilities. You will eventually end up with the love of your life, but you don't know who it is yet, so she might be it, and you'll never know if you don't take the risk. You don't want to be dating another girl, and then dreaming about this one, thinking of what could have been, which happens to too many folks. If you break up, then of course it will be tough, but at least you'll know that she wasn't the right one, and that you still have to continue your search, and eventually, if you keep enduring and seeking the opportunities, you will find her, you will find your soulmate. Sometimes, to seek the sweetest berries of love, one must risk losing the bittersweet grapes of friendship. Remember, you're only risking, not just all out losing, and this kind of thing doesn't happen all the time.</p>
<p>I mean, at least that's my opinion, but many people have called me an idiot when it comes to these matters, so I would consider it but at the same time be cautious. I personally have never felt love, I've just had a few crushes, and have only experienced some really short relationships, primarily due to my hormones, not at all because of love. So I don't have much experience in this field, in the field of love, but then again not many of us really do, even though some may mistakenly think they do. Always differentiate between true love, and your hormones' love, because sometimes they appear to look very, very similar.</p>
<p>"Sometimes, to seek the sweetest berries of love, one must risk losing the bittersweet grapes of friendship."</p>
<p>Ha. Ha. Ha. Sorry, nyjunior, but you have to admit that that's pretty darn cheesy.</p>
<p>I'm always cheesy, ask sunshineyday (inside joke), but I'm workin on it, I'm workin on it. I just came back from school when I wrote that, so I was just fatigued, you know...yeah, that's right...SO THERE! :p</p>