<p>So, I think I might be in love with my best friend. She has every class with me and we study together. Next year, we will have the same classes too. If we went out, it would be disastrous if we broke up--I will still see her for at least 6 hours each day. We are great friends and I want to keep it that way, but another side of me loves her...How can I get rid of this love-sickness? of this love that I can't afford to have?</p>
<p>wow....i dunno wut to say man...but what ever u do...good luck...</p>
<p>Why would you break up if you actually love her and are best friends?</p>
<p>Same thing happened with me. We went out; we recently broke up. I learned something though, and if you do decide to date her (I recommend it; you'll be overwhelmed with happiness) don't take her for granted. I lost my best friend/first true love.</p>
<p>Yes, I imagine that it would be very fun...but doesn't it hurt that nothing is left now? That is what I am afraid of.</p>
<p>Ask her out if you mean it, and don't dwell on the past if it doesn't work out.</p>
<p>Because if it doesn't, then she is not the person you wanted or expected her to be.</p>
<p>Breaking up doesn't mean you can't see each other anymore, as long as it wasn't it a bad break up.</p>
<p>Yeah, there's nothing left. It sucks; if I could turn back time, I'd fix so many things. Don't assume the worst, or it will happen.</p>
<p>There's a reason "Better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all" is a cliche.</p>
<p>I'd say go for out and ask her out...and then, put your all into the relationship. If you try your hardest and it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be. But won't it kill you to know you never even tried?</p>
<p>I'd say to wait, but then again I'm very old fashioned and don't exactly believe in high school relationships.</p>
<p>If you do start a relationship, take it slowly. Don't rush anything.</p>
<p>And if you don't and can have fun just as friends, enjoy being friends first! Get to know each other, flirt, and live in the moment. Romantic relationships can be overrated -- they're definitely not the end-all, be-all.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>If you really are in love with her, I say go for it. You'll be INCREDIBLY happy.</p>
<p>Make sure that you would enjoy having that type of relationship, though. A friendly relationship is different than a romantic one- just because you two are very strong friends doesn't mean that you're made for each other. Maybe it does, though. That's just something to consider- I mean, that you might work better as friends than a couple.</p>
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So, I think I might be in love with my best friend. She has every class with me and we study together. Next year, we will have the same classes too. If we went out, it would be disastrous if we broke up--I will still see her for at least 6 hours each day. We are great friends and I want to keep it that way, but another side of me loves her...How can I get rid of this love-sickness? of this love that I can't afford to have?
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<p>Be very careful here. Consider what you have at stake. Are you in high school or college? If it goes wrong and you are the dreamy or distracted type, you could really mess up your school performance, big-time.</p>
<p>I know it's easy to say go for it for a lot of people. But I am an example of a person who decided not to do so, and ended up keeping a friend. The difference may be is that I am older and (more than likely, though not certainly) a better judge of what is likely to work and not work. I realized that as much as I was burning with lust and really intellectually stimulated that we would be a bad romantic match. One time I was so turned on when around her that I couldn't even speak, other times I loved her so much 'cause she is the coolest person in the world (I still think so). But oh man, am I glad that I didn't dive in. She admitted later that it would have been a really bad idea,though she too really wanted it.</p>
<p>Now if I had what would have happened is that she (who is much more focused than I am) would have just moved on and not let our relationship slow her down, and I would have been left wallowing and distracted and really sad. I agree that you have to risk for love, but some risks are better than others, and I am recommending caution.</p>
<p>watch the movie Just Friends</p>
<p>oh God. you sound like you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Well, I'll tell you from the perspective of the girl in that sitch (my guy friend worked up the courage to ask me to the last-day-of-school dance...). You should just broach it. Chances are, she knows, she's just waiting for it. If you really are best friends, it might be a little awkward, but if you ask her before summer, chances are you'll be okay for next year.</p>
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<p>Very true.</p>
<p>I would argue to broach it now if you are going to broach it -- that is good advice. As someone who spent a very painful semester sharing classes with a girl who I dumped, got back together with, and then who dumped me, I just do think that "love always wins out" is a bit naive as a position.</p>
<p>But, if you've considered this, I say go for it altering my earlier advice. You don't get so many chances in life to feel like you do for this person. If you don't go for it, you may inadvertently be consigning yourself lived to a life of cautiousness and compromise. Embrace it, man. Embrace her.</p>
<p>Go into the bathroom, pound your chest and get worked up to seize the day.</p>
<p>And let us know how it goes!</p>
<p>Hmm, I'm in a similar situation as the OP, have class with her basically ALL day and great friends and everything. But I can't tell if I really like her or just friends. Any advice in helping me find out without screwing anything up?</p>
<p>From personal experience, I fell in love with the guy who had been my best friend for my whole life. After about a week of going out we realized that we were only meant to be friends and that was really ok with us. It made our relationship stronger because we could truly say that we were only meant to be friends.</p>
<p>I am in the same boat my friend. I don't know what to do. But for now, we're just friends. :D</p>
<p>I say go for it! If you don't then you'll always wonder what-if or you could dive in and find "the one". Either way good luck! Follow your heart but listen to your stomach and never ever listen to your brain, it thinks things through too much!!</p>