<p>Hey everyone... I'm new to CC and would really appreciate some advice from you all. I attend this university and my degree is in Civil & Enviro Engineering. Now for my first semester (1st year) at the place I failed 2 courses, and passed 4 with mostly A's and B's - however, at the college I attend, a year spans 2 semesters (sept - dec, and jan - april/may) and summer is an optional semester 3 for those who failed courses and want to re-do and whatnot.
The thing is 1 of the 2 courses I failed, according to the rules set by my college for my degree, would keep me back a whole extra year. I was supposed to finish my degree in 3 years but that turned to 4 with that course. It's a matter of I can't advance until I complete that course and all it's pre-reqs, hence by failing it I couldn't do the other pre-reqs. The course isn't even available in summer... Now unto sem 2 (1st year) I just lost all hope and went into a depression and failed 3 out of 5 courses...
So now unto the present in which it's my "2nd year" 1st semester, I went with renewed hope that I would do well, and I started to seriously focus and began studying within the first few weeks. However, I had to deal with so much stuff this semester that it greatly affected my studies.... By the time exams had come I grew so annoyed of studying and just got fed up... to add to that I had a girl, who seemed relatively normal, begin to stalk me and spread rumors about me and her being together, and being involved sexually and whatnot... I had to deal with stress from my parents everyday complaining about everything I do (their very strict when it comes to college). I can't really explain how tough it was, but I just got so annoyed. Either my parents would complain about my money-spending and restrict me severely money-wise, or that stalker would start up crap, or something goes wrong. To add to ALL of that, I was repeating that ONE course that would keep me back the year... and it clashed with every other course I had... and it couldn't be solved so I missed like 75% of the classes.
The end result now is that I have failed ALL courses this semester INCLUDING that ONE course that would keep me back a year, which now extends my stay from 3 years to 5 years, meaning I have to stay 3 more years and have no chance of getting honors anymore (once you pass 4 years, there's no more honors at my college). So right now I am at a severe loss as to what to do... my parents want to know my grades but I've been holding it off and was gunna lie to them... I can't let them know I failed all my courses, they would FREAK OUT... I however have no problem with the 5 years because I began to get motivated... I was planning to start back fitness and join an active club again as well as get a part-time job (with 5 years on my hand I have plenty free time). I need advice form you all... It's seriously reaching a point where I'd only sleep 3 hours a day... my mind just feels so stressed :(</p>
<p>okay so first of all you need to breathe. I know whats its like to have parents who expect all As I’m also a premed so I know what it means to work hard. I don’t mean to be rude or insensitive but this will help you in the end.
- You have no business getting a part-time job if you can not pass all your classes
- You need to tell your parents where you stand academically. They will yell and be very upset and they have that right.
- Now as far as the stalker goes 3 options go to the head of student affairs (or who ever is the head of student conflict at your school) and put in writing a complaint. File a restraining order against them (probably not necessary) or you ignore them. Eventually people will get tired of their antics.
4)Now as far as school goes you need to get your act together college is not for everyone and there is no shame in that. However if you decide that college is for you its time to buckle down. You need to start study groups early on in the semester because by the time the finals come you will only have to do a brief review. I could not imagine working hard all semester just to give up at the end what the point of working hard at the beginning?
-I think it might be best if you transfer either to a community college or another 4-year university. A change in environment can be a blessing.
I do wish you the best and if you ever need anyone to talk to I’m here :)</p>
<p>I agree, transferring may possibly be a good option for you. Look into the details of your program at other schools to see how long it would take you to complete. See if they would transfer the courses you have taken that you did pass. However, with your failing grades, taking a semester or two off and taking general education requirements at a community college will probably be necessary to bring up your GPA a bit before transfer admissions. New environments can make all of the difference - sometimes. If you feel it is not a need of change that you need, then you need to sit down and decide how you study best, and how to reward/punish yourself when you do not study or do your work on time. Make a bet with yourself, challenge yourself to do something and keep motivated. </p>
<p>Even small colleges are usually big enough to avoid people. If the girl is really stalking you, alert security or student affairs. Although I think just staying away from her group of friends could cure it, unless she’s actively memorizing your schedule. </p>
<p>I think being active at your gym will be beneficial since it helps to relieve stress and keep you feeling good. I agree with Charlie though, a job is probably not the best idea right now unless you find your course load lighter due to the pre-req set-up. I think you need to take control of what you’ve got going on before adding more responsibility to it.</p>