My roommate and I get along well but as I’m starting to get to know her better, I’m realizing that I’m starting to notice that she’s not all what she seemed to be like she was in the first two weeks. She’s very inconsiderate. To start, on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday’s I only have one class which is in the evening so I usually sleep in on those days. And she knows this because I’ve told her numerous times because we wanted to be clear of each other’s schedules. Unfortunately on those days I do not get to sleep any longer than 8:00 am. She gets up at 8:00 to go to a class at 9:00 which oddly only lasts 30 minutes which I don’t quite understand. But when she gets up, she cuts all of the lights on! I know this sounds ridiculous that I’m complaining about lights but please allow me to explain. We have exactly four sources of light in our room not counting natures light. Our beds are lofted so we can fit our desk underneath and my bed lines up with the light panel so it’s directly over me so when she cuts it on, it’s blindingly bright because it’s directly over me in my face. I have to wear a sleep mask over my eyes now and not even that helps completely. But what pisses me off even more is that she cuts her desk light on and then just sits there on her phone and then leaves. I’m a light sleeper so once I’m up, I’m up. I can’t go back to sleep. Once she comes back which is usually not long, she cuts them back on AGAIN! Along with her desk lamp which I still don’t understand.
Secondly she’s never considerate of my study times or even if I’m not studying. For example, last night I was watching a movie on my flatscreen underneath my bed. The tv is not big, and sits in the corner of my desk. Me being the considerate person I am, never have the volume up loud while she’s in the room. But last night she came in from work and called her boyfriend up, knowing that I’m watching this movie, put him on speaker turned her phone all the way up and then hops on her laptop to watch some YouTube live stream and turns that all the way up as well and started yelling and talking obnoxiously loud! I couldn’t even drown her out with earbuds. I had to plug in my beats headphones to drown her out so that I could hear the movie. On weekends sometimes without warning she’ll invite her boyfriend over which I usually wouldn’t have a problem with accept for the fact that I try to use my weekend afternoons for studies and I usually have to end up leaving for three plus hours trying to find a quiet area on campus to study. They usually cuddle up in bed together and laugh and giggle and watch YouTube videos and what not without headphones. I explained to my roommate that I have AD/HD so the slightest background noise is enough to permanently break my focus. This is frustrating because I shouldn’t have to leave and go wander around campus for three hours trying to find somewhere to go. And what makes it worse is that everything is closed on the weekends! She leaves her side of the room messy and leaves empty food containers, chip bags, and soda cans out on her desk and let’s her trash can overflow. I wouldn’t care since its on her side but Sunday I found maggots in my drawer. When I told her this she just shrugged it off like it was nothing and left for six hours while I had to clean the entire room to make sure they weren’t anywhere else. And now we have gnats. I’m not one who is very demanding but I want to address these things to her but at the same time I don’t want to come off as demanding.
Why come here and complain about your roommate or your RA? Just talk to them!