Interracial Dating at Southern Schools

<p>What is it, exactly, that those who don't like this topic are bothered by? Is it that it seemed as if the OP, while bringing up a valid topic, singled out the south when racism can be found throughout the country or is it that the topic itself is invalid?</p>

<p>And please do better than "let the ignorance foster."</p>

<p>I said blacks are more racist than whites...I said blacks are more racist than whites</p>

<p>I would simply love to know what you mean by this. Do you mean that in raw numbers, there are more black racists than white racists, percentage-wise, there are more black racists than white racists or that, through intense exploration, you determined that those blacks who are racist are more ummm vigorously racist than those whites who are. Finally, I'd love to know how a person--like all of us--with limited world experience is qualified to make such a statement.</p>

<p>pofreshnyc your assuming your arguing with someone rational. As it has been shown, this is not the case.</p>

<p>^agreed {10 char}</p>

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priceless: A well known black political commentator, Larry Elder, agrees.</p>

<p>I do too. I live in a 95% black area with projects to the north, south, and east of me.

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<p>you're kidding right? i really hope that you're really young, because if you aren't, you're pretty much a walking advertisement for the social failures of our society.</p>

<p>This might or might not add much to the discussion but I sometimes feel very lucky of where I live. Here in NYC there is so much diversity. I'm a minority myself and sometimes the idea of being discriminated against does come up in some situations but it isn't really on some extreme level like I'm hearing here.</p>

<p>um, everybody's racist. obvy. it's america.</p>

<p>but, even tho we're racist, we're still open to change. that means that you can change ppl's ideas of the stereotypes of your race by acting different from those stereotypes, by showing that you're unique and successful and kind. the ppl you meet will be influenced by you and start to look at human beings for their personality and the internal stuff. however, if you continue to act as stereotypes define you, such as you're a naturally hyper person at home with friends, but when you go to school, you become a "quiet asian" or you like to read books but when you're with your homies, you become the "ghetto speaking black gangsta"...then guess what, ppl aren't even seeing the real you, so you shouldn't be complaining about being discriminated against anyways. only when you stop viewing yourself thru other's eyes and act confident to live will ppl stop discriminating against you. b/c there's no one you can change but yourself, and that's the only power you have to change others. so the only end to racism is self-improvement.</p>

<p>but i digress. 8)</p>

<p>oh yah, i dont go to college, so i shouldnt be posting here...</p>

<p>but i do do interracial dating! out of the limited amount of dates i've had at all....rofl. and yea it was fun and whatever. but tv's so much funner!</p>

<p>I think the comment about Asians not speaking out when they were harrassed has more to do with our culture. We've generally got a more conservative, 'fit in don't mess things up' culture. And we're taught to be respectful to our elders and obey them in evey way (well at least Chinese are) from a very young age, so maybe this rubs over to calling people out on racism.</p>

<p>But back to the question, which I personally think is very valid. Can someone comment on the racism, if any, in UVa? I didn't have the luxury to conduct a campus tour before making my decision, so this has got me a bit worried. How about Charlottesville in general?</p>

<p>And I also remember reading a while back how a comment was defined as racist, which kind of surprised me since I felt there was nothing wrong with it. Racism seems to be a much huger issue in the States than here, would you guys like to offer your opinions on what is commonly percieved as racism other than obvious actions such as slurs, throwing rocks, etcetc so I don't offend my roommate unintentionally on day one? Thanks. =)</p>

<p>Does anyone else notice that every African American based thread always erupts into a flame war?</p>

<p>About UVA: There are small issues with racism but most of the student body is pretty cool. I have a lot of friends going their (all white) and they love it. Good frat parties and sports. If you don't like those two things then you might not fit in as much and be more likely to be isolated. If you also hang out with all asians then you might get made fun of a bit.</p>

<p>"Racism seems to be a much huger issue in the States than here, would you guys like to offer your opinions on what is commonly percieved as racism other than obvious actions such as slurs, throwing rocks, etcetc so I don't offend my roommate unintentionally on day one?"</p>

<p>Generally most people in the states break racism into two types, overt and covert. Overt is by far the most recognizable and (hopefully) in today's society, the most rare. Slurs, epithets, everything from that to racially motivated fighting goes into this category.</p>

<p>Covert racism on the whole varies from person to person. Sometimes it stems from people who have lived there lives in a relatively racially homogeneous area. Usually, these people are not hostile or malicious to racial differences, however they can offend others (most often unintentionally) by using an ethno/racial-centric thinking. This can include locking doors only when different looking people walk by, asking to feel someone's skin or hair, asking questions based on stereotypes (Do all Asians drive poorly?), telling someone they are white washed or they act too black, wiping your hands after touching or shaking someone's hand (assuming the persons hands or whatever were clean) ect..
As I said before, it can extend all the way to people who maliciously dislike someone solely on a race basis (or stereotypes generalized to a race or ethnicity) but choose to "hide" their feelings to avoid social condemnation.</p>

<p>I think it's inaccurate to say that all people carry racial bias. Its a defeatists attitude that only serves to point out (invalidly) the futility of basic respect, reservation of judgment, and critical thinking every college student should understand. All stereotypes are not intrinsically race based or wrong. In fact there's an entire field of philosophy and psychology that advocates we must generalize and categorize to think rationally....but thats for another time. Reasonableness is the standard, if it's 3AM and there is a man walking down the street with alcohol in a plastic bag and this person look fairly disheveled then white, black, asian, or otherwise it's probably prudent to take necessary precautions.</p>

<p>Haha, thank you for your comprehensive and helpful reply Matt30.</p>

<p>Wow, I just read what I wrote. Sorry for the lapse in grammar.</p>