Im freshman and recently just started classes. I said bye to my parents yesterday, and they have been calling me 2-3 times a day since. I guess its normal since Im their only and first child to go to college (my sibling hasnt gone to college yet). My sister texted me telling me that my mom cried when she got home after saying bye, so I guess she just misses me. I just want to know how often is considered “normal” contact with parents.
Way overboard, imo.
If it persists after a week have a sincere talk with them. Perhaps talk to you dad first.
It doesn’t matter what others do, so don’t worry if five times a day is normal or once a week is too much. Let them call or suggest they text because you are in class and can’t always get back to them. After a few days, tell them when YOU will call them, but then do it. Be gentle, they are grieving.
I took a different path with my kids, and let them call me unless I specifically needed something - an address, info about their financial aid or books. They did call often, when it was convenient for them. One got into the habit of calling me when she was walking between classes on a certain day, the other called when she finished a game, when she needed something, when she wanted to complain about something. Second one’s registration and financial aid need a lot more intervention from me, so at the beginning and end of semesters I get a lot more calls.
normal.
It’s been what, 36 hours? Be happy that there’s someone out there who cares for you 
If you want them to call less often, tell them that you have decided to put away your phone to minimize distractions and that they can call you between such and such a time each day. Maybe they would like to develop a routine.
Normal for the first week or so maybe, but if it continues that’s more than most parents call.
My parents requested I call them at least once a week. They wouldn’t call additional times unless it was something urgent that couldn’t wait until our next call. I thought it was a fair expectation. Sometimes I called them more often other busy times less often. 2-3 times per day, if it continues, is more than anyone I know.
Right…tell them your phone is off during classes and when you study. You will retain their call when you turn it back on.
And I do not think its “normal” for oarents to call their kids 2-3 times a day.
We care a lot about our kids…we talk once a week…and that has been the case since they started college.
I got fussed at for texting my son at 8:45 am this morning (first day of classes) because it might disturb his roommate. I didn’t take it personally. 
Seriously, do you think you could explain to your parents that no news is good news, and they can expect to hear from you every few days for the next few weeks, and then at least once a week after that? Maybe you could have a standing time that you text or call them, and then they don’t have to be anxious wondering when it will be.
I really think parents have to let go some, but you could probably help them by establishing parameters. If they had been the ones to post on CC I would suggest they back off a bit and let you adjust to everything new in your life (and it’s substantial when you start college).
That being said, be kind.
I went to a school 10 hours and several States away and my parents and I talked on Sunday evenings unless there was something up.
I would give them a little time to adjust to you being away but if it persist then I would sit them down and talk to them about it. If you tell them there are set day’s or times that it is best to call then they will most likely fall into that pattern. Parents can be trained just like Pavlov’s dogs.
I went to school on the opposite coast, 3,000 miles away, and talked to my parents once or twice a semester. There is no “normal,” but if their calls and texts are too much for you, have a talk about it. And as others have suggested above, be kind.
You might want to cut your parents a little slack since it’s just been 2 days. It can be tough for some of us parents to transition to our kids leaving the nest. That said, the next time your parents call, rather than picking up the phone you might want to respond with a text saying something to the effect of, “I can’t talk now, I’m (heading into class / in line at the bookstore / in the library / at the gym / etc). Can I give you a call later?” Be sure you call them later at which time you might suggest setting up a time for a weekly call unless there is something in particular that you or they need.
Call your mom when you have a free minute and tell her when you will be able to talk to her, say, after dinner twice a week. Give her some good news (you like your classes, your roommate, etc.) Or better yet, email her with some amusing story about your day. We middle-aged people love email. All you need is a line or two about how well you’re doing.
They just miss you! I would give it a few days and if it doesn’t slow down, and you’re uncomfortable with it, then I would say something. I’ve been at college for a week and I’ve called every night so far because I’m homesick, but none of my roommates have called yet. Everyone has their own ‘normal’ its up to you to set boundaries.
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I dont mind them calling me, I think its cause its the first week. My mom even said that I dont have to talk on the phone and can text her whenever, So as the semester goes on I think thats whats going to happen.
Voice call 2-3x/day is over the top.
Many parents find getting a dog helps.
As many have said, give them a little time to adjust. My D1 is not a talker, but we did set up a Skype session every Sunday evening, with the very occasional text in between if we needed something. Twice or even three times a week would not be out of line, though.
You can suggest texting as the preferred way of communicating beyond perhaps once or twice a week (or whatever frequency you are comfortable with) phone calls/skype sessions.
Just answer their texts with a one or two word responses (even an emoji will do) so they know you’re alive and text them semi-regularly just to let them know everything is going well and that you are busy.
I appreciate my parent’s and I think there is boundaries, but to suggest they’re overboard is disrespect. Having a conversation and coming to an agreement is the way you handle it. To ignore their love and money is not ok. There is more then 1 feeling in this interaction. Selfish won nothing, except a pity pot
As a parent, I think that’s excessive. Beyond that, it depends on the child. I knew my kids’ schedules so that I didn’t call them during class. I spoke or texted with my daughter at least 3 or 4 times a week, sometimes more if she needed it. With my son, it was maybe once a week until a couple of weeks ago. He was working up at school and told me he was feeling lonely and wanted us to talk more. I am now speaking with or texting him every other day and we will see what happens when school begins again. My H is also calling him more often and we have asked his siblings to try and check in with at least once a week as well.