Is it normal or acceptable to be 27 and never had a girlfriend or kissed

I’ve been diagnosed with Asperger’s and never had any luck with dating. I was considering paying for my first time since I don’t have faith that I’ll ever find someone.

I recently left my church community and don’t know if God exists because autism never goes away. I was a math major and know data analysis but can’t find a position in the data science field because it’s extremely competitive.

Who can help here?

What have you tried to find a dating partner? Church? Online? School ?

I do know some young people your age who have not found anyone. I truly understand. Many people are lonely, COVID has also affected options for meeting. Asperger’s can feel like an obstacle. Would you consider working with a coach?

The job issue is separate but also difficult. Have you worked with career services at your school? How do you go about a job search? Again, a coach might help with applications and interview prep.

I wish you luck! And don’t forget that COVID is a factor. Many young people have basically lost two years. I know my kids have.

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Fully agree that the last 2 years have made social life exceedingly difficult for many young adults. You are not alone and I hope you can give yourself a break. There are just fewer opportunities to meet people during a pandemic. Have you used dating sites? Some are specifically for folks on the spectrum and those could be a good place to start. If you don’t find someone right away, it’s okay, just give it some time.

Re jobs–also agree that a job coach could be a good thing. Once again the pandemic has closed us off and everything is harder–interviews included. Or ask a family friend to help you practice for interviews. I have helped young people prep for interviews… but you have to be open to hearing suggestions, make those changes, and keep practicing. In the meantime, I also know a few recent grads that have taken positions far outside their intended fields, maybe not even using their degrees, until the right opportunity presents itself.

You’ll get there!!

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You asked the same question almost exactly a year ago. I will repeat what I wrote back then:

I will reiterate - look for dating sites that are geared towards ASD people.

I’ll also second what @NYMom122 wrote - get a job coach, and, like with dating, get one who who works with people who are ASD. Otherwise, it’s like trying to run a gasoline car on diesel. You’re wired differently, and therefore need different strategies than somebody who is neurotypical.

Again, good luck!

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