<p>Okay, I just need a girlfriend who is extremely tolerant and permissive. Unfortunately most people (adults mostly) look down on me and my behavior. It hurts a lot of my relationships. Because my values are so antithetical to those of society's that whatever girlfriend I get, her parents will look down on such relationship, and her friends will look down on such relationship, and the girl is probably going to have to be quite antisocial to begin with. I can't let her suffer for it.</p>
<p>I'm sick of being ignored. I'm sick of being hated by everyone. I'm sick of society condemning the values I have. I'm sick of it all. My parents refuse to pay for counseling and I don't have any options. </p>
<p>But I just want a single girlfriend. One I can share my life with and everything. It's incredibly hard for me to trust people. </p>
<p>Yes I have severe cases of both Asperger's Syndrome and ADD. I have Adderall to keep the worst of my ADD under control. I'm going to try to do what I can to be stable. </p>
<p>Okay and if someone is incredibly incredibly tolerant, you can PM me.</p>
<p>Ummm…when did this site turn into e-harmony!!!</p>
<p>Seriously, it’s not that hard…just find a girl that you like or at least think you’re interested in…and ask her out to a movie or a dinner/ somewhere fun… or start off as friends then BAM!!! don’t overanalyze it :)</p>
<p>Hopefully you will find someone that will accept & appreciate you for the person you are :] (as cheesy as it sounds hahaha).</p>
<p>At least try to be social… it can be quite <em>gasp</em> fun. haha.</p>
<p>Good Luck! (:</p>
<p>^ LOL I have to agree eastrafrobeauty…eHarmony =/= CC…
Anyway, don’t use your ADD/Aspberger’s as an excuse for not having a girlfriend. Sure, they make things considerably more difficult, but as socially awkward as my boyfriend is (what with ADD - on Adderall too), he still is charming (to me, at least, and that’s what counts)…or tries to be.
I can appreciate a rant but please hold off on the personal ad vibe I get from this…</p>
<p>I swear on my life the most meaningful relationships are the ones that come to you, as opposed to the relationships that you go and look for.</p>
<p>You’ll find someone in the most unexpected way. Just don’t anticipate it or else you’ll drive yourself nuts.</p>
<p>What are your values that you believe are “antithetical to those of society’s?”</p>
<p>Unfortunately, if you want to get a girlfriend, you’re going to have to sell your soul. Get a haircut, move your bed to your local gym, and walk around in the sun with your shirt off all the time. You’ll also have to be a complete jerk to just about everyone. And buy a puppy. Chicks dig puppies.</p>
<p>Why do people these days want a girlfriend/boyfriend just for the sake of having one?</p>
<p>This is why like 90% (my estimate) of high school relationships don’t work out. People date for the hell of it and not to find a spouse.</p>
<p>^ Sarcasm, I hope.</p>
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HAHAHAHA <em>cough cough choke</em> SO SO true. It’s not funny, really – this really is the most veracious thing I’ve heard all week.</p>
<p>No, not sarcasm</p>
<p>Its true…</p>
<p>I understand if people like each other and they can’t control it. But it seems most people just care about getting a girlfriend just to have one and to raise their social status.Then they break up. Come on… think of how many facebook break up statuses you have seen. I know one girl who has gone through like 3 guys (older than her) in like a year.</p>
<p>Wow, why is CC so slow today?</p>
<p>^ i agree with porkperson.</p>
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<p>uhh…that would be the intention i’d have when dating a guy…(not to sound weird or anything).</p>
<p>dear inquisitiveone
if you feel the need for therapy, which every teenager can use at some time, look for schools in your city that offer psychology and ask them is they have free sessions from their graduate students. also, do not forget, girls (and boys) want to be romanced - a flower, a thoughtful gift, a compliment. you’ll get there. unfortunately, I can assure you that girlfriends are not the solution to all what ails in the world - neither are boyfriends for that matter. having good friends help a lot though.</p>
<p>You’ll find the right girl. It may be tomorrow, it may be a few years, but trust me, you will find a good girl that likes you for who you are. Don’t set your standards for a girlfriend and judge every girl based on what she’s NOT; instead, take note of what you DO like about girls that could be potential girlfriends.</p>
<p>And I know 2 people who have Aspergers and still date.</p>
<p>work on your attitude first. THEN work on the gf.</p>
<p>We’re almost in the same boat. I wish I had a boyfriend.</p>
<p>There seems to be a solution…</p>
<p>^I think I know what you mean - we should totally have a CC get-together party some time!! :D</p>
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<p>That potential idea has actually been used by quite a few CC’ers. As in translated in to real life relationships.</p>