<p>Ok, so basically I could get into almost any school I apply for (not trying to sound snobby, I just have everything to do that). Anyway, my mom is GREATLY limiting my choices. I simply mentioned Southern Illinois University to her as an option and she was mad at me for a day. She told me the next day there is no way I am going there because it is a party school. Also, she cringes anytime I mention a college that I cannot commute to. I don't even mention colleges out of state because she will get really mad at me. My dad doesn't understand, but says not to mention anything to my mom about my other college thoughts. He tells me to just apply wherever and it will come down mostly to money... is it fair that my mom is limiting my college choices and will blow up just because her "little boy might be leaving"? I have three siblings all in college, but they are in-state (Illinois). What should I do?</p>
<p>Tell them about how there’s so many more opportunities available to you if you were to go out of state instead of staying in Illinois.</p>
<p>If that fails…
Northwestern or UChicago</p>
<p>And no, it’s not fair.</p>
<p>I want to do chemical engineering, and while there are very good opportunities in Illinois, there are just as many elsewhere.
If all else does fail then I will be going to somewhere like IIT or UIUC. Good schools, but I could have gotten a little better outside of state.</p>
<p>It’s so bogus, I shouldn’t have to worry about my parents not wanting me to go to a good college.</p>
<p>UIUC, U Chicago, and NU are all good schools</p>
<p>look around you
your clothes, books, and probably even the computer are give to you by your parents. If it wasnt for them, you could never have been here in the first place. Depending on others to live on is not considered as living. you are dead the moment you were born and you are still dead as of the moment you started this thread. Dead people have no right to complain. Besides, who told you the world is fair in the first place?</p>
<p>Anyways, I agree with your dad. and besides, unless you are being tied to the chair or something, she not COMPLETELY limiting your choices. Just apply secretly and umm, talk to her after you get accepted.</p>
<p>It’s probably the rebel in me, but
“Just apply secretly and umm, talk to her after you get accepted.”
I want to see you do this. Seriously.</p>
<p>Well, who’s paying?
No, it’s not fair but when money is involved–fair doesn’t usually come into play.</p>
<p>But what if the schools cost the same, but one is out of state so I can’t go…? It has nothing to do with money, it’s just my mom doesn’t like the idea of me going too far from home.</p>
<p>Try calmly talking to your parents. Telling them they’re not being fair probably won’t change their minds. Tell them why you think the school you want to go to will be a better fit and what you’ll get out of going there</p>
<p>^^that’s what I’m going to do, my dad is all fine with me going wherever I want, but I just have to convince my mom.</p>
<p>Apply to only OOS schools. When it comes time to tell your mother where you got accepted to, say “It’s either one of these or community college”</p>
<p>haha, nice. Except she might want me to go to community college 
. She did for accounting…</p>