<p>and what effect is it having on your and their mental health? :eek:</p>
<p>2 years ago our son waited until April 30 to communicate his choice. :eek:
I was going crazy. He seemed pretty calm.</p>
<p>Eight years ago, my D also made the decision on April 30. Not to be a wet blanket, but she ended up transfering a year later.</p>
<p>OTOH, four years ago my S knew from the start and got into his ED school, which he has just withdrawn from as a senior.</p>
<p>Apparently, no one in my family can make a good decision, no matter what the time frame. I say this not to scare anyone, but to assure you that all your kids will prob'ly pick better'n mine did!</p>
<p>Garland, update us with what's going on? Your S have a plan for next year??? </p>
<p>Hugs to you.... this too shall pass. He WILL go back and you will all get past this-- is he ok physically???</p>
<p>Blossom--I don't want hijack this thread, but basically his plan is to work until he figures out what his plan is, with a deeper goal to make a go at poker for a living. has not decided when/if he'll go back to school and whether or not it will be his present school (which would be much simpler, in my eyes, but I'm not him.) His school gives him two years to return.</p>
<p>yes, he's okay physically, and mentally, too, I think. Thanks for your concern!</p>
<p>Most probably, my D will be choosing until April 30 (see the neighboring thread ;)), but that's unavoidable: the only date she could sign-up for the OHP in Cal was April 25-26 - and she can't decide before that. Also, they are going to phone-interview her (probably, tonight) for one more scholarship (leadership award, if not mistaken) - and give her the final answer about that by April 28.</p>
<p>I don't think such a prolonged choice will affect our mental health much ... because it's already affected.;) Unability to choose quickly is our family's mental health feature. :)</p>
<p>My child, my wonderful 18 year old son, is refusing to deal with anything and doesn't want to leave high school.</p>
<p>The only college he has gotten into is Champlain College up in Burlington, Vermont. He didn't get into University of Puget Sound, University of Oregon, Colorado State and he hasn't heard from University of Colorado, Boulder (which I don't really want him to go to as it would be like 13th grade for him, living in Boulder since 1995). He has stuck his head in the sand about this and is as changable as the weather these days. Some days its 82 and sunny and the next minute, it's snowing and he's yelling.</p>
<p>Undecided? He's decided not even to think about it.</p>
<p>kathismom, sounds like your son is dealing with the same feelings as a lot of kids-- depression over not having the choice they thought they would. My S ended up with a scenario he never imagined-- only his 3 safeties and he is learning slowly to find a couple of things to like about two of them so he will choose between those. Can you help you S retrace his steps as to why he applied at Champlain to begin with and remind him that those good qualities still exist at that school-- he must have been attracted to it for a good reason way back when!
Good luck to him and you, too!</p>
<p>Well, people really love Burlington, for what it's worth. I have a whole bunch of cousins who seem to have ended up there, and they adore it. And my sister is there a lot because she works for a company whose headquarters is in Montpelier.</p>
<p>Last year, our daughter chose the college of her heart as soon as they accepted her. She was on cloud 9 and sent the declines in for all schools except the one closest to home. She cried from April 25 until April 29 and finally decided she was not ready to go 6 hours from home. On April 30 we called the first college and rescinded her acceptance (they were kind enough to return our deposit) and drove the paperwork and money to the closer school.
She likes the academics but that is about all. She thought about transferring back to college of her heart for this fall but, while they would reinstate her scholarship, they declined to accept 9 credits. She has decided to stay where she is for next year.
Her mental health and ours had a wild ride.</p>
<p>Champlain is a really good college, Burlington is a great college town and Vermont is the best state anywhere!</p>
<p>I guess in a strange way it is comforting to know our two kids are not the only ones still on the fence. After revisit last Friday to one of their joint admissions I knew they would get in the car and say this is it! Instead they were trying to figure out why "everyone they saw seemed so happy?!?" Finally have realized they are looking for every potential problem in a school, because they do not feel truly comfortable about making the transition. We are visiting one final school this Monday to see if it feels right. Never in my life did I think we would even be at the school we will see on Monday-my former "I want a small LAC" now want a slightly larger school.</p>
<p>Anxiety and stress at our home is off the charts-this is a rollercoaster that I had never anticipated. Kids are fortunate to have excellent choices-but I wish their hearts pulled them some place in our realm of possibility ( had to eliminate Pepperdine due to no merit $ for either).</p>
<p>Champlain is a good school (I went there when it was a two year college and lived in Burlington for 9 years), Burlington ROCKS, and Vermont is a great state....however, I think he will not like the weather when it is cold and grey for months on end, but that's something he will have to decide/experience.</p>
<p>I think I will let him have my Chickenbone t-shirt...</p>
<p>Last year I started this thread:
<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/339272-how-do-you-minimize-indecision-08-parent.html?highlight=MINIMIZE+INDECISION%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/339272-how-do-you-minimize-indecision-08-parent.html?highlight=MINIMIZE+INDECISION</a>
At the time I had a HS junior and was hoping to avoid this situation. The responses were wonderful--probably too late for those of you whose kids haven't made up their minds, but maybe helpful for class of '09 parents.</p>
<p>Mailing and "clicking" declines (about 13) and SIR (Duke) today, and so we we on to the next "phase" but anxiety is still there.</p>
<p>My daughter told me the other day that she 'thinks' she has decided, but it wasn't a clear enough decision that I've sent in a deposit. </p>
<p>As for Burlington, I agree that it's a great place! I actually encouraged my kids to apply to schools in the area so I could visit Burlington more often!</p>
<p>D is almost decided between her final 2 schools. Hubby & I feel one would be perfect for her, but she is leaning towards the other. We are feeling some anxiety, as we both worry she may crash & burn at the one she wants to attend (notorious for cut-throat competition). She says she just likes the feel of the one over the other, even though it doesn't have her exact major. We want this to be her decision, and we've already discussed all the pros & cons, so I guess we just have to step back and hope she knows what she's doing!</p>
<p>Ahhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>"We are feeling some anxiety, as we both worry she may crash & burn at the one she wants to attend"</p>
<p>Same here, although I'd put it more mildly; worry it will be too stressful. blankmind I hope you don't mind, but I found another thread of yours suggesting your D might have considered Davis. Me and H thought Davis would be perfect but D declined. PM me if your willing to share...</p>