<p>Currently three weeks into college, and I have absolutely no friends. My entire floor is all on the swim team, and they are all very close and I don't have much in common with them. Apparently at this school doing things as a dorm and as a hallway is a very big thing, so I feel left out a lot whenever we do activities. I've tried being friendly and approaching some of them, but it just doesn't work. I met some people at orientation and thought we got along well, but now none of those people talk to me because they have new friends. I met some people in my classes and have tried to talk to them, but as soon as class is over they immediately run out and join in with their friends. My roommate is pretty cool but she plays sports so she's gone all of the time. I went to the activities fair, signed up for some things but none of the clubs really interested me. Right now I basically eat every single meal alone and on the weekends I can go the entire day without saying anything because outside of class I have no one to talk to. When I go to the dining hall the only other people I see sitting alone are upperclassmen who are usually working or reading, so I don't want to bother them. I'm going to try joining Greek life but right now I'm feeling really nervous about rush because I feel like I'm just really awkward and have low self esteem so I probably won't get anything out of it. I wasn't the most popular person in high school, but I did have a group of good friends. I lost someone who I considered my best friend right after graduation so I felt pretty bad already. What can I do? Being alone and feeling like **** all of the time is getting kind of tiring.</p>
<p>You should “meet” Forensicwhiz94 who posted a very similar post to yours. Check it out. You aren’t alone. Please read my advice to Forensicwhiz94, and see if it helps. I’m sorry about losing your friend this summer. That’s tough. There are places on every campus where people just like to hang out, whether it’s a cafe, student lounge, library, fitness center, etc. Be there often enough, and you will meet other frequent visitors. Keep attending clubs, even if you don’t love the activities. Do it more for the chance to meet others. If you play guitar or something, do that while you leave your door open. If it sounds good, people will naturally want to stop by…be friendly, don’t be afraid to make eye contact and say hi first. It takes effort, but it will work out!</p>
<p>I just started too and have no friends. I feel the same way lonely and depressed. But we can make it through :)</p>
<p>You will have to learn to join groups at the dining hall. And you should join a club even it it isn’t your top interest because you are bound to meet people that way. Ask you roommate to have dinner with you once or twice. Tell her you haven’t found your people yet and you’d appreciate the company.</p>
<p>Yes, it is tough when most of your floor is in a sport together that you don’t participate in. Is there anyone on your floor not on the swim team? See if you can get to know them better specifically (might be someone else feeling the same way you are!). I second the suggestion to try some clubs or activities. And see if you can form or join a study group or two for your classes. Joining an intramural sports team is another idea.</p>
<p>Regarding those orientation people you met, do you still have their contact info? Reach out to them and ask what they are up to over the weekend. Go ahead and tell them pretty much your whole floor is on the swim team and busy, so you are just looking for something else to do. Not like a pity party thing, but just matter of fact – like they are all gone at a swim meet and you are bored, and wondered what they are up to. And if they want to go to a movie or get together to play cards or something. Assuming, of course, the swim team is busy, cuz it might backfire if they aren’t… :)</p>
<p>I feel the same way as you right now! It’s the fourth day of college for me. My roommate is on the swim team and my other roommate has a huge group of friends so I’m alone most of the time. I do talk with a few people occasionally but I’m not friends with them and sometimes I skip meals because I have no one to eat with. There’s also a huge group of people in my room constantly (who I’m not friends with) and they just all ignore me even though it’s also my room.</p>
<p>I’m going to try joining clubs. Maybe you try volunteering around town and meet people from different schools there? Or arrange study groups at the library? Classes haven’t started for me yet but I’m going to find someone who’s not immediately heading to another group of friends and talk about the class/ask questions about the assignment and then move the conversation to interests/personal stuff. Also, you can say “Hey, most of my friends have X class so I never see them, can I sit with you guys today?” </p>
<p>I’m in the same boat as you! Wishing us both luck! If only we could have a meetup of all the people who are having difficulty making friends at school.</p>
<p>lol, going without friends at college is doable; Heck I’ve been doing it for 2 years. It just gets kind of lonely once in a while…especially on Friday…</p>