<p>I’m speaking as a woman, here. Finding out that someone has made an internet webboard post about you is incredibly hot.</p>
<p>I don’t know, blu, my boyfriend had previously had a crush on another girl before me. When he told her he liked her, she flat out rejected him and he said it was the most relieving thing to not have to wonder how she would react. Heartbreaking, but you get over it and move on. </p>
<p>I don’t understand why people think of someone has an attraction to their friend, and said friend does not return feelings, the relationship is ruined! If two people who were married and got a divorce can be good friends, why the hell can’t two people get over a crush? That’s just immature.</p>
<p>By the way, what’s up with some guys talking about the psychology of women? “If you talk to other girls she’ll see you’re not desperate and begin thinking ‘ohmaigawd he’s so hot’ blah blah blah” whatever crap guys insist on saying. Not all females are the same, and unless a girl told you that’s exactly what she thought about your technique to attract her, I’m not sure why you’re claiming what her thought process was. There’s no overarching female psychology. Just say something instead of wasting your time trying to figure out what roundabout courting ritual will attract her. If the girl is a good friend, even if she rejects you, it will be fine as long as no one’s petty about it.</p>
<p>Drunkenly singing Neutral Milk Hotel to her.</p>
<p>Be upfront with her. Tell her how you feel, but only after flirting. If she doesn’t return it, it’s more than likely a no. But if it seems like she does, wait for the relationship to develop and then ask her out.</p>
<p>It really depends, from what I can tell. Definitely don’t buy a girl stuff. Definitely don’t call/text/facebook a girl a lot. A facebook chat/instant message chat once in a while is fine, if its just friendly chatting stuff (but no heavy duty conversations here). The best way to show a girl that you like her (in my opinion) is to invite her out to do stuff once in a while, whether with friends or not. i.e. “hey me and a group of friends are going out to eat and watch a movie. Want to come? you can bring a few of your friends.” or “hey my friend is having a party at his house on friday. Do you want to come?” all nonchalantly. If she’s a friend she’ll either get the hint that you like her and maybe confront you about it, accept your invitations or decline. The best way to find out if she might like you or not is just to hang out with her more, and flirt. And then if all else fails just suck it up and tell her that you like her.</p>
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“on top of that, if the OP has other girls who are drawn to his company, the first girl is more likely to start seeing him as bf material as well. a girl wouldn’t want something that no other girl would want.”</p>
<p>No, I see him as potential man-whore material. No thank you. What makes me see potential boyfriend material is kindness, consideration, and maturity. Perhaps if I were in high school and just looking for a confidence boost I’d give a crap about what other ladies think, but that’s pretty childish and shallow.
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<p>I agree with blu_g8orade in principal, but I am agreement with you here. I know that as a guy, it is a turn off for me to see a hundred guys after the same girl. For instance, every guy on Facebook saying “hey baby what’s up, where have you been?”. There’s a point where it makes the girl look like a female player, or whore, and I don’t want a whore for a girlfriend. So I imagine girls would also see guys in that way and be turned off/uninterested in guys like that.</p>
<p>You should sneak into her room and watch her sleep while breathing heavily out of your mouth and sniffing her hair. She’d really appreciate that.</p>
<p>“I don’t understand why people think of someone has an attraction to their friend, and said friend does not return feelings, the relationship is ruined! If two people who were married and got a divorce can be good friends, why the hell can’t two people get over a crush? That’s just immature.”</p>
<p>It is immature, but that is often how it works. I have two friends who for some reason waited years until I was no longer single to confess they had feelings for me. Since I have expressed that I am not interested, they really either needed to GET OVER IT or let me think they got over it. Because it has weighed down our relationship so much that it is hard to have fun anymore, and I have to constantly remind them to keep their bitterness in check. STUPID, but some people are stupid when it comes to their feelings.</p>
<p>Bring her a bouquet of mixed flowers- don’t be cheap, man. If she’s not interested she’ll give you the " I don’t want to lose you as a friend speech"</p>
<p>^^NO thats so chump status. Please do not.</p>
<p>hahaaha…im so confusedd
i plan on kinda flirting when the semester starts, and asking her to hang out and stuff.
but you guys are right i should just tell her, but like, is there any way to know shes into you as you guys are hanging out?</p>
<p>If you’re already in the friends zone, its too late.
There has to be sexual tension from the very beginning.</p>
<p>Cboss-You’re right, flowers are too showy. Since the OP is in the friends zone he should try to move into the special subsection- the friends with benefits zone.</p>
<p>oh, christ. whatever you do, do not get her flowers. seriously. that’s just weird (and this is coming from a female’s point of view)</p>
<p>also, dating is a waste of time. focus on school >.></p>
<p>Girls/Ladies/Women- What is your opinion about getting flowers as an indicator a friend wants to be “more than your friend?” We know what the guys think.</p>
<p>I think it’s cute. But more like one flower, not a dozen. Maybe I am weird? XD</p>
<p>Thank you!</p>
<p>lol… I can imagine what’s going to happen. OP gives her a flower and spills his guts out. Female friend gives a reluctant “thank you,” followed by an “I don’t want to ruin our friendship” and starts avoiding him.</p>
<p>I don’t know how people get in the friend zone to begin with. I could never be legitimate friends with a chick… and I grew up with 5 sisters.</p>
<p>Yes. I was going to add it’s only cute if she likes you back.
Otherwise you’d look like a dumbass. :D</p>
<p>I think it’s cute, too. I would agree to get either a single flower or a very small bouquet, or I like getting the tiny daisies that are prepotted in the little decorative pots. Just something small. When she sees it you want the focus to still be on what you’re saying, with the thoughtful gift as an afterthought. </p>
<p>Not very many men would do something like that, so I’d think it very endearing. As long as it’s not over the top, I would certainly be flattered.</p>
<p>How did college confidential turn into this…</p>