<p>howdy everyone.
i just had a quick question for the ladies out there.
now, i know everyone is different, but everyone has common sense.
ok, what should a guy do, to give a girl the hint that he wants to be more than friends?
should he text her a lot?
facebook her a lot?, as in writing on wall, commenting on photos etc.
try calling her now and then.
buy her things.
i mean , i wanna give the hint, but not be weird about it. and yess I am friends with the girl.</p>
<p>All of the above would have me running for the door. Why not just tell her that you want to be more than friends as opposed to cyberstalking her.</p>
<p>ok, i know thats a good idea, but, i kinda want to know how she feels, before i tell her.
and i figure i can know how she feels about me, by the way she responds with everything.
and also, if i do eventually tell her, how should i do it?</p>
<p>Well I’m a guy but I’m replying anyway</p>
<p>txt her a lot…no
facebook her a lot…no
call her a lot…no
buy her things…hell no</p>
<p>I wouldn’t do those things at all. Just talk to her, possibly even tease and flirt with her (now thats a odd idea)</p>
<p>But the fact that you guys are already friends kind of leaves you with an uphill battle. You can do it though, I’m rootin for ya.</p>
<p>I’m also a guy but:</p>
<p>What happened to good old fashioned flirting? Invite her out somewhere and just hint that you’d like to be more than friends. The friendzone is deadly though. It might be hard to get out of it.</p>
<p>rofl. This is heading for a train wreck.</p>
<p>Guys aren’t supposed to drop hints. You’re a ****ing man, act like it.</p>
<p>Sorry to say it but you might already be in the friend zone. Either way the facebook idea seems bad, you might come off as clingy or overly nice. </p>
<p>I suppose you could go out with her once or twice as friends and see how it goes. Just have some fun or do something together. If she seems to enjoy your company i’d just tell her.
There’s a possibility that it could make your friendship a bit awkward if she doesn’t like you back the same way.</p>
<p>Best of luck.</p>
<p>I thought I was on Yahoo Answers for a second. ROFL.</p>
<p>Judging from your reply I’m going to say that your putting too much emphasis on this one girl. Your putting her on a pedestal. If she knows that shes the only girl that you want and that she is the only one that will determine whether you guys take it to the next level. Then your ****ed</p>
<p>I love reading Yahoo Answers lol. </p>
<p>And sometimes I click on a youtube video and just read the comments.</p>
<p>OP all that stuff would probably freak her out and make you look weird/clingy. you don’t want her to see you as an obsessive puppy dog… you want her to see you as a man.</p>
<p>telling her is an option… but if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll make things weird between the two of you and your chances will be ruined for good. </p>
<p>getting out of the friendzone is tough, but its possible. the best thing you can do at this point is to back off a little bit… dont write on her FB, dont text as much (and if she texts you first, dont like hurry to respond 5 min later), and definitely dont buy her anything. just put this girl on the backburner for a little bit and work on improving other aspects of your life… also, talk to other girls. whether they admit it or not… being seen with multiple girls, or having other girls texting you/writing on your FB will boost your value in front of a female. it makes it look like you have other options</p>
<p>in my experience dude, when ive done this the girl starts to miss my affection a little bit and she wonders if she likes me as more than just a friend. if she likes you, she will be the one to make the first move and try to initiate with you again. if she doesn’t make a move, then just forget her because you have those other chicks, amirite!?!?!</p>
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<p>Which U of A you go to? I’m guessing alberta because of the eh. Although when I was in arizona they called it u of a.</p>
<p>Yea Alberta</p>
<p>definately do NOT facebook her a lot…my friend and a guy from my school starting hanging out a lot, and both of them began liking the other…but the guy suddenly facebooked her all the time and it really kinda freaked out my friend. it took a while to get things back to the friendship stage, but its never gonna be more than that</p>
<p>tell her…?</p>
<p>Is this the same girl as your other thread? If so, then seriously, you need to stop.</p>
<p>This guy and the girl looking for Daniel
( <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/766700-extremely-worried-shy-college-freshman.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/766700-extremely-worried-shy-college-freshman.html</a> ) should pair up.</p>
<p>Okay, this may seem crazy, but follow me here. I’m going to suggest a technique the guy who is now my boyfriend tried with me. Now, keep in mind, we were friends and he had never dated a girl ever. So, we were chatting online one day. He told me something like “you’re totally awesome and I’d like to be with you.” And that lead to us dating. </p>
<p>I know, just coming out and telling a girl you like her is radical, but it is effective. If she doesn’t return your affections, just take awhile off seeing each other so you can get over her. And then, you can be friends again! If she’s not a ***** about it, anyway. It’s better than creepy stalker behavior and it’s better than swooning over her for months and never doing anything about it. </p>
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<p>That’s terrible advice. Out of sight, out of mind. If my boyfriend had been paying attention to other girls instead of me before we started dating, I’d have no interest in him. </p>
<p>Don’t play games, just come out and say it.</p>
<p>^call it terrible, but i have personal examples from my life of where it has worked. i think you just misunderstood my advice. </p>
<p>i didn’t say he should completely cut off all contact with her. i said he should stop texting all the time/bombarding her FB/buying her stuff. that type of behavior would turn you off more than drawing you in, would it not?</p>
<p>right now this girl sees him as a friend. if he just comes out and admits his feelings, she may want to pursue a relationship (like in the case of you and your bf), but there is also a chance that she will turn him down because she doesn’t want to ruin the friendship. trust me… its a pretty crappy feeling for any guy when you confess your feelings for a girl and you get the “lets just be friends” talk. </p>
<p>if he follows my advice, then even if she turns down his advances he will have other options and his world won’t be crashing down because a girl rejected him. on top of that, if the OP has other girls who are drawn to his company, the first girl is more likely to start seeing him as bf material as well. a girl wouldn’t want something that no other girl would want.</p>
<p>it’s not ‘playing games’… it’s called making yourself attractive, having other options, and not being obsessed with one girl.</p>
<p>"All of the above would have me running for the door. Why not just tell her that you want to be more than friends as opposed to cyberstalking her. "</p>
<p>Ditto. Just tell me. If you are not brave enough to ask me out, you couldn’t handle me anyway. I have to be able to believe that you are my equal in order for a relationship to work, and dancing around instead of just being direct does not give me that impression. </p>
<p>“being seen with multiple girls, or having other girls texting you/writing on your FB will boost your value in front of a female. it makes it look like you have other options”</p>
<p>I personally flatly refuse to indulge in the ladies man type, so this can go either way and must be done tactfully. I’m not saying it’s not okay to have lady friends, but if a man has hoards of ladies all over him then I am not going to bother. Creating false competition is not in your favor, there are better ways to avoid appearing desperate that do not risk making the women of interest feel insecure. And personally, I know that I do not HAVE to compete unless I want to. So unless I am VERY interested in the man in question, I would not be interested in competing when I can just go find someone better who is more available. So if the idea is to create interest, that would surely backfire so far as I am concerned.</p>
<p>ETA</p>
<p>“on top of that, if the OP has other girls who are drawn to his company, the first girl is more likely to start seeing him as bf material as well. a girl wouldn’t want something that no other girl would want.”</p>
<p>No, I see him as potential man-whore material. No thank you. What makes me see potential boyfriend material is kindness, consideration, and maturity. Perhaps if I were in high school and just looking for a confidence boost I’d give a crap about what other ladies think, but that’s pretty childish and shallow.</p>
<p>A sidenote, no other girls seem to want my boyfriend and I love it that way. They judged a book by his cover and missed out on a fantastic man. Sucks to be them. I couldn’t be happier with their mistake. </p>
<p>"it’s not ‘playing games’… it’s called making yourself attractive, having other options, and not being obsessed with one girl. "</p>
<p>There is a difference between making a girl feel desired and stalking her. You are going too far to one extreme to avoid the other. It may have worked for you, but I must admit from your posts I must wonder about your age and the maturity of your relationships.</p>