<p>What’s wrong with talking about flowers? This is much better than arguments about economics and healthcare.</p>
<p>An answer to above^^The Evolution of Man is the reason.^^</p>
<p>“Cboss-You’re right, flowers are too showy. Since the OP is in the friends zone he should try to move into the special subsection- the friends with benefits zone.”</p>
<p>If it were me, this would damage the friendship worse than a failed relationship would. And in my experience, friends with benefits when you really want more is a very uncomfortable situation.</p>
<p>Yo, this chick hasn’t been a friend of his for years, she’s not gonna give him the “oh I don’t want to hurt our friendship” spiel. And the friend zone is so exaggerated. Ask her to go do something, like get dinner or whatever, and get to know her. If she still seems worth it and it seemed like she had a good time, ask if she’d like to go for a walk or something, just try and spend time just the two of you, and FLIRT. </p>
<p>Also, even if a girl doesn’t expressly tell you she likes you, there are ways to see. When you do things together, does she seem to look nicer, wear makeup or nice earrings or anything like that? That is typically a big hint.</p>
<p>I’m going to defend blu_g8orade…he isn’t saying that the guy has to be a “ladies man” and have 15 chicks after him, he’s saying not to concentrate solely on this one girl and give her all the power…give yourself options, it presents nothing but benefits.</p>
<p>Thanks gents, but still need more female opinions.</p>
<p>“Girls/Ladies/Women- What is your opinion about getting flowers as an indicator a friend wants to be “more than your friend?” We know what the guys think.”</p>
<p>Dude, to buy her flowers just to indicate that you want to be more than friends is just raunchy and totally unnecessary, you don’t need opinions, it shouldnt be an option…there are so many easier ways to do that.</p>
<p>Why do the bare minimum if you have a chance to impress the lady?</p>
<p>Twistedxkiss-Thank you for your comment.</p>
<p>“just raunchy and totally unnecessary”</p>
<p>Lol the guys on this forum make me laugh.
Raunchy? REALLY? A daisy screams cute to me.
You don’t HAVE to give her a flower. Talking is just as fine. But it’s so CUTE!</p>
<p>jeeesus because its just stupid…so he buys flowers for his friend…and apparently from that she will know that he likes her…so now she knows he likes her but that doesn’t change whether she likes him or not…buying her flowers will not make her feel attracted to him so *** is the point…it would just be ■■■■■■■■ to do that…just flirt with her…assume she likes you, its not that difficult…you can impress her till your blue in the face after there is some mutual attraction developed.</p>
<p>I’m not saying it isn’t “cute” or “nice” to buy flowers for a girl…I’m saying buying her flowers simply to let her know that you want to be more than friends is just stupid.</p>
<p>On the contrary, the cute gesture would suggest to me that he is the type to be thoughtful and do cute things for the person he is in a relationship with, which is very attractive. Most men, particularly college age men, are not very thoughtful and would never do that kind of thing whether they are dating the girl yet or not. One that will stands out.</p>
<p>You’re seriously going to argue about what’s attractive to women with two women?</p>
<p>As a girl, I also would think the gesture of flowers would be thoughtful. The average guy offers to buy you a beer and slap you on the ass…or stare and stutter… Flowers are a decent change.</p>
<p>“is just stupid.”</p>
<p>You are a guy, obviously. I am a girl. If one of my guy friends gave me a flower and I liked him I’d die of happiness. Even if I didn’t it would still be sweet. You don’t even have to buy a damn flower. Steal one from someone’s yard.</p>
<p>Also, I think raunchy was the wrong word to use. xD</p>
<p>You don’t seem romantic at all that kind of depresses me. =(</p>
<p>you<em>of</em>eh- Think you misconstrued the intention of the suggestion of flowers. It was to be a gesture of friendship, first of all, but to also to indicate in a delicate fashion more affection on his part than before.<br>
Not as a bribe with expectations of reciprocation.
OP did not suggest it, I did. I’m lame.</p>
<p>Yes I am…“attraction” isn’t a choice. Sometime you don’t know why you’re attracted to someone, you just are. I don’t think attraction can be developed through simply giving out gifts.</p>
<p>If one of your guy friends, out of nowhere, blows up to you and gives you a flower, sure it’s nice, do you want to date him now?</p>
<p>I’m not saying not to be thoughtful or not to do cute things…or that you shouldn’t buy her gifts…I’m saying there is no point in doing that to SIMPLY LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED.</p>
<p>comiclover- This thread is more pleasant than “chance me for HYPMS threads”
Have a good summer evening one and all.</p>
<p>“You are a guy, obviously. I am a girl. If one of my guy friends gave me a flower and I liked him I’d die of happiness. Even if I didn’t it would still be sweet. You don’t even have to buy a damn flower. Steal one from someone’s yard.”</p>
<p>YES…IF YOU LIKED HIM…read my posts please…the original question was whether he should buy her flowers in order to let her know that he liked her…I am not saying not to buy her flowers…I’m saying for the purpose stated above it is unnecessary.</p>
<p>and raunchy was just a random word that came to my head aha</p>