<p>Alright, so I've never learned to dance. Basically I avoid most parties like the plague and just convince my friends to do different things when i feel like socializing. But I figure dancing is kind of a social skill, and if I learned to do it it might be pretty fun...I might as well learn before I go to college so I can actually go to parties/clubs and not feel like a loser.</p>
<p>Is it just imitation and practice? Did I screw myself over by not going to dances in middle school and learning with everyone else? Did you get one of your girl friends to teach you? Hole yourself up in a room with a Shakira DVD? haha...</p>
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<p>That's certainly one way to do it. :) It's really just a matter of experience. I mean, as long as you aren't throwing on a performance in a club, you won't need to learn choreography. There are, however, exceptions to this (when everyone does the same moves).</p>
<p>Well you should probably go to parties and observe what everyone else is doing. Most people aren't exactly skilled either, but they just go with the beat and move their bodies. It's not really that tough, and most of the time, people won't be critiquing you. Although i do like to watch ska(nk)y girls grind and look ridiculous when they think they're being sexy, but that's a whole different story altogether.</p>
<p>haha why is your username groovinhard if you uh, can't groove?</p>
<p>Most girls are just happy a guy will dance...you don't have to go crazy, and sometimes just moving your feet a little and stuff is good enough, just kind of turn a bit side to side,not too much with the music....</p>
<p>My H was a "strange" dancer when I met him, and the more he danced the better he got</p>
<p>PS- i can bet you guys practice in their room, they just don't tell anyone</p>
<p>PPS- grinding isnt' dancing...its grinding to the beat...so don't think you have to do that to dance...</p>
<p>Don't be self conscious, I have more respect for a person that dances and makes a fool out of himself/herself than the one who just sits in the corner because he/she is worried about what others will think.</p>
<p>No one who has replied has acknowledged the fac that there is a HUGE array of social dancing situations. There is urban club dancing, rave/crazy party dancing, salsa/ballroom dancing, slow dancing. All require much different steps and level of ability, and different classes or lessons. Buying a hip hop dance dvd from the store and copying those moves at the club is going to make you look stupid. </p>
<p>Also recognize that some songs have their own special moves. Like here, during some rock songs, we throw our hands up and make that little signal thing, and during a reggaton song, we...well, it's hard to explain. It's all relative to where you are and who you're with.</p>
<p>I agree with the person who said to imitate. Better yet, before you go, get a friend and his/her girlfriend/boyfriend/other to show you how. In my opinion, boys have it much easier than girls.</p>
<p>i love going to rock clubs, but that is a totallllly different scene. i have a few friends that are into clubbing, and i think i could really have a blast with them if i wasn't so freaking dance-impaired.</p>
<p>one of my friends invited me and some other people over thanksgiving weekend, though...maybe if i get inebriated enough i'll let her teach me...</p>
<p>i didn't realize there really was any other type of dancing besides the slutty kind, though. i'm pretty sure her kind of dancing is the "ridiculous-grinding-i-think-i'm-being-sexy" kind.</p>
<p>since youre a girl, just watch mtv music videos, put on some good music real loud in your room, and practice in front of the mirror. it works :)</p>
<p>Observation is what you need. I never went to any middle school dances myself. Or really any high school ones--just a few banquets. Always found something better to do those nights. I even played hooky from prom to go to a baseball game. (And saved a few hundred bucks)</p>
<p>Anyway, I just watched one of my best buddies and pretty much tried to imitate him the first time I went to a dance. It worked--picked up on it within a few minutes. It's NOT HARD so don't panic about learning how to dance or anything. Just watch some other guy and you'll be fine.</p>
<p>If you're talking slow dance, just don't step on someone's foot. 'Nuff said.</p>
<p>I don't see how alcohol would increase the ability to dance. IMO, it would impair coordination and cause poor movement?</p>
<p>nah, i think b/c you said "get one of your girl friends to teach"</p>
<p>from my experience the best dancers are the ones who make it look hott without giving anybody any action, which just gives ppl a bad rep and is not actually all that cool</p>
<p>me, i've done ballet all my life, but from going to like 2 or 3 high school dances and observing, by the 4th dance i was dancing to the hiphop stuff and won the dance-off. as a freshman, ha.</p>