I have a similar question to a recent post, but it is different enough that I thought that I would start a new discussion.
We have two kids (K1 and K2) that are 6 years apart. K1 is a sophomore in HS and K2 is in fourth grade. K1 has always been a stellar student. Straight A’s at a private college prep HS, 1 AP fresh year (World His, 5 AP, 710 SAT II), 1480 PSAT soph year. K1 has been in the 98-99 percentile in every test ever taken. K2 is more of your “average” smart kid, but still young.
We have started to have conversations about college including going to a few info sessions put on by the top schools. With K1’s current stats, trying to reach for the top schools isn’t unreasonable. We understand that they are a reach for all, but the question is should I let K1 try to reach? The reason for this is financial.
I have run the NPCs on a few top schools and our results are normally right around full pay. Sometimes it comes back with a little fin aid and sometimes zero. Could I afford to send K1 full pay to top school? Yes. However, I worry about my ability to reload for K2. I think I could get back to the in-state level for the state flagship (good school), but not likely full pay at a private. Especially if K2 also goes to a private HS.
So, my question revolves around fairness and not having 1 kid begrudge the other (or me/spouse) for different educational opportunities. I am not trying to keep them dime for dime equal, however, the difference could be > $200k. I realize that a lot could change in the future. But I am just trying to understand if I should let K1 even consider schools that don’t give merit or it is highly unlikely. I would rather have this conversation early in the process. Comments/suggestions greatly appreciated.