<p>I'm a mom with a rising freshman in college. We've had a few issues the summer before college, so I can just imagine what it will be like next summer. I think some simple ground rules are important. Remember that your parents need to get to sleep at a certain time and don't want to wait up and/or get awakened. Also, they are paying your bills over the summer, right? Do you pitch in to help around the house? Do your own laundry? Pay for your own gas and entertainment expenses? It's a give and take deal...it's temporary and all a part of the long march toward independence. Good luck!</p>
<p>I hope it's not like that for me after my freshman year...</p>
<p>I know I'll be expected to do some chores and stuff, and I'll do those... grudgingly.</p>
<p>But a curfew... I won't have it. Haha. I don't care if I'm staying in their house, there is no way I will go from being able to go out whenever I wanted, to having my high school curfew again. I will drive my rear end back to school and rent a place for the summer. haha</p>
<p>Just be respectful. I don't have a "curfew" over summers home from college (I am a rising junior), but I still tell my parents when I will probably be home. My mom is strange though and actually WANTS me to wake her up when I get home, so I oblige. The time doesn't matter, so whatever. She doesn't even really remember me waking her up most times, but I figure if it makes her happy, then why not?</p>
<p>Doing things like that is how you keep your parents off your back. At first, I protested to having to do that, but then I realized, is it really such a big deal? It appeases her and takes no effort from me, even though I find it silly/stupid.</p>
<p>I have an interesting relationship with both of my parents and sometimes my mom can be really overbearing, but I do what I want when I want and she has learned to deal with it.</p>
<p>At college, she knows that I stay out really late (6, 7 am) and spend the night at my friend's place all the time. Like someone previously said, though, at college they don't follow your day-to-day activities and are thus less likely to worry about you. My parents know that I know how to take care of myself, and even though some parts of my college town can be rough (College Park), I can hold my own. I am 6'3" and there are plenty of other people more vulnerable to rob than me, let's just put it that way. I think that keeps my parents' mind at ease.</p>
<p>If I was a small female, I can't imagine how worried my mom would be about me if I were out late at night, by myself, stumbling home 2 miles. :)</p>
<p>We college students who return home for the summer should just be thankful that our parents allow us to return home. I co-oped away from home the summer after my freshman year and this summer I had planned on being at summer school but my plans had to change and I found myself back at home. Yeah, my mom and I got into a few big arguments but by the end of the day it was over. I am reaping the benefits of having a great intern at home without having to pay for rent. I only pay for half my car note. My mom is kind enough to only make me pay half so that I can save my money for when school starts back. My sister had friends that were not allowed to come home except for Thanksgiving or Christmas Break. I have friends whose parents do so little for them. My best friend work 40+ hours, paid for everything himself, even paid the cable bill, yet his mother always 'joked' about when he would find his own place. He finally found one after a very explosive argument although he really cannot afford it. So really just be thankful.</p>
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We college students who return home for the summer should just be thankful that our parents allow us to return home.
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I'm sorry my parents love me a lil bit more than that o_O?</p>
<p>urgh i love my parents and all and everything else but its just the curfew that bothers me. After 12 I'm dead... I dont drink, I do my chores, I worked, etc... and yet 12 it is.</p>
<p>That's insane what some people have to go through... anyone who works, pays bills and/or does chores should at least be able to have adult privileges. "With great power comes great responsibility"... and vice versa. :P</p>
<p>The summer before I left for college wasn't all that bad. My mom and I actually got along--lol. Now, I'm counting down the days before I return to the dorms. Next summer, I'm getting an apartment.</p>
<p>i think a lof of us are in the same boat. I know i was definaltey experiencing the same things. I fidn that its really hard to go from your own environment where you are independant and have your own routine and return to the old routine that was installed in your life before college. Family members dont often realize how much we have changed over the time we are away. I found it helpful to sit down wiht my parents and tell them what kind of things have changed in my routine. Establish boundaries and expectations for eachother. For example, before i went to college my curfew was 1am. Now that i have been at school where i am used to the night life and sleeping in the next morning, i worked with my parents and convinced them that I would be responsible and still get all my work done, but that i did not need a curfew and that i would be home at a responsible time.</p>
<p>everything in life is a transition this is just one that you go through at this stage.</p>
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That's insane what some people have to go through... anyone who works, pays bills and/or does chores should at least be able to have adult privileges. "With great power comes great responsibility"... and vice versa. :P
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LOL nopee. Long as I'm under their roof and eating my parent's food (even if I'm making money) I'm under their rules... sigh. 12 o clock curfew was THE worst since I'm 20 and is a jr in college! Asian parents.</p>
<p>My mom doesn't really seem to care about how i'm doing over here, I guess out of sight, out of mind, LOL. but when I'm there... she stays up and lectures me about how I'm out late blah blah.</p>