<p>I am tired of reading "OMG I don't have ANY friends I am going to die alone" threads. Friends take time to make, period. Stop whining about it, there are already 213789 threads about making friends. Read them. Your case or situation really isn't that different, and the idea that you are more special than the person with a same problem is not a friend making quality.</p>
<p>That is all.</p>
<p>Going to college where you know absolutely no one and are miles away from your closest family and friends is freaking SCARY. I didn’t know until I experienced it very recently just how scary it was. I can understand why all these threads exist. Hell, I won’t even lie… I have basically the same fears. Why can’t we express how we feel? This is an (almost) open forum.</p>
<p>Well I guess there are threads existing for people to express these fears. Beyond that, the answers to any question in this area have already been answered hundreds of times and would be best found by searching the forums / internet.</p>
<p>I understand where you’re coming from but I don’t get why it bothers you so much. Like I’ve stated before; if it bothers you don’t open the thread/ignore it. However, I do agree with you about archiving. I archived a thread about making friends and I found a helpful tip, so to a certain degree, tiff90 does have a point about archiving the forums. But like leila stated, this is an open forum so if we have the right to make 9328342 threads about not making friends if we wanted to…</p>
<p>Point is: tiff90 is right. Making friends is going to take time. When I archived this forum, I found an interesting post dating back to 2007. The poster said </p>
<p>**"i had a similar situation take place with me.</p>
<p>my freshman year housing situation just well, kinda sucked and it made meeting new people hella difficult. i came in soph year and tons of people already had tight knit circle of friends and i can’t say that i did or do. </p>
<p>i’ve learned to accept it and stop fretting over it - so i haven’t made cloose friends yet or don’t have that many friends at college period. it might happen and it might not. i’ll put myself out there and watch the universe unfold, but i’m not going to expect to make friends overnight/ it’s in no way going to happen [it hits a lot of us hard at college time when we’ve had close friends since we were fairly young lads and then we discover that we can actually be friendless in college].</p>
<p>i now try to focus on the experiences than worrying about making friends all the time. i want to experience a great variety of things so i try to get in as many different events and things as possible rather than making friends. if i make a friend than so be it if i don’t than so be" (posted by macinici).**</p>
<p>What I think hits freshman hard, is what Manicini touched on. Growing up, it was fairly easy making friends, especially in High School but in college once people find that person, they could be BFF with that one person for all 4 years and couldn’t give a damn about anyone else. Like Manicini said, in college you could actually be friendless and people wouldn’t give two cents.</p>
<p>Macinici is absolutely correct and his post inspired me. Stop worrying about making friends in college; focus more about getting the full experience. I’m going to join activities/clubs that interest me and like Mancinici said, if I make friends in the process: great. If I don’t: than so be it. IMO, making friends in college is more luck than anything. In college, everyone is up their roommate’s ass, and if you don’t click with your roommates/floormates you’re pretty much screwed for the rest of your college career. I say this because after freshman year, people pick their roommates based off who they hanged out with the most. Its very easy to get lost in the sauce; and like I said, if you were dealt a bad card it sucks.</p>
<p>Personally, I give up. I know it takes time to make friends but it’s aggrevating when you try to put yourself out there and people act shaddy/funny/like they don’t want you around (oh how I love established cliques!). I’ve taken many people’s advice of eating with people at lunch/talking to people but guess what? Everyone so far has given me the cold shoulder, like “I have friends already…stop talking to me.”</p>
<p>lol freshmen</p>
<p>The thread titles are all “I’m soooooo desperate OMG I neeeeeeeeeeed help” and “NEED ADVICE” or “Ahhh nobody likes me,” as in you need to open it to see what it’s about. I’m nice and the first time or two give helpful advice, but after that I just think “pathetic, insecure, whiny freshmen with no self esteem.” The answers are the same for every thread, too (counseling seems like a big one). It gets annoying. This is why I find it hard to befriend underclassmen. I live off campus on the sophomore side of campus (where all the parties are), and I’m already sick of seeing the drunken freshmen walking back talking about how drunk they are, and talking about flippin high school and facebook. Or how they invite their HS friends to campus. Sorry, I don’t want an irresponsible freshmen brining a minor to a party. I don’t want to get sued. </p>
<p>“rant about freshmen…”</p>