This.
Many people here are giving genuinely brilliant advice, albeit in somewhat affrontive tones. The fact is, need to know that something in your lifestyle needs to change. Isn’t that why you posted this thread in the first place, because you wanted advice on what to change? There is no “easy solution”. You need to find that something that needs changing and do something about it, however difficult it may be to do so. </p>
<p>Try writing down some goal, and doing something small every day towards achieving that goal. Change doesn’t happen immediately.</p>
<p>Thank you, Joshtch. I know the things I personally have posted might seem harsh, but it’s very frustrating that you started a thread asking for help and then are unnecessarily dismissive of every single suggestion posters give you. Joshtsch is absolutely right in that something in your lifestyle needs to change. That’s why I said that it seemed like you expect someone else to makes things better instead of doing it yourself. From what you have posted, I feel that you assume your loneliness is the fault of others and that you have been doing everything right. If you feel that your life is lacking in some way, ONLY YOU can change that. The world isn’t out to make your life miserable. There is something you’re not doing that is causing your unhappiness and you need to put yourself outside your comfort zone to know what that is. (And I think that joining in an activity although it seems uninteresting to you is a very small, easy sacrifice to start with.)</p>
<p>I used to attend a college that was basically all commuters and I cant say I made a whole lotta friends there myself so I feel your pain. If at all possible you should consider transferring to a uni. Its almost impossible not to find a couple of people there that you could call friends. Keep in mind that college is a time to not only learn but to branch out and have fun. Try to do something you wouldnt normally do, you might be pleasantly surprised…As for the hating to volunteer business…there are many different kinds of volunteering you can do and a lot of them arent necessarily very demanding and they can be quite fun. Ive been in the same boat as you and I know how bad it can suck, just try n open up your mind a bit. good luck =)</p>
<p>If you don’t care about people in general, then how do you expect people to care about you? </p>
<p>“Work without pay work without pay”</p>
<p>What are you 5? Not everything in this world is about money dude. HOW THE **** do you THINK YOU GOT THAT SCHOLARSHIP? Because people volunteered for your sorry ass and paid for it with their work! ****ing ■■■■■. </p>
<p>No wonder you have no friends. You’re probably one of those people who think their better then everyone else. </p>
<p>If you want to make friends, you seriously need to change your attitude. Just join a club for whatever if you don’t like it LEAVE!</p>
<p>The Scholarship that I was rewarded is funded by money set aside by the state government from taxes to pay for tuition of students who remain in state to go to college. No volunteering. Therefore makes your post invalid. And I do not see the point in joining a club just to quit it.</p>
<p>You’re definitely a stereotypical community college student. No wonder you have no friends, because who wants to hang out with someone who just lives for money and doesn’t give a crap about other people? Either change your attitude or get used to having no friends.</p>
<p>When did I say I didn’t care for others. What stereotype? Just because I don’t have thousands of dollars or want to go into major debt to go to a university doesn’t mean anything engative. Money is everything, its how you get food, water, shelter, entertainment. Its the only reason anyone would go to college.</p>
<p>It is perfectly understandable that people at the Community Colleges don’t have very active social lives. Some of them work 30-40 hours per week unlike a lot of students who go to expensive Public Universities who have tuition 100% covered by mommy and daddy.</p>
<p>Some of them are poor and can barely afford to pay for gas to commute from home to the University.</p>
<p>Although, if you really have all the extra time and want to complain about then why don’t you get a job?</p>
<p>I’ve worked in an internship that was nearly unpaid and the benefit to me was the work experience and the people with which I networked and communicated with on a daily basis; not the small increase in income.</p>
<p>Rejecting all the student organizations and clubs for no apparent reason doesn’t help your situation.</p>
<p>It is either you become a more serious student and read more textbooks or you get a job. Either way, with your current attitude toward life you are going to be miserable for the next year straight unless you decide to change something.</p>
<p>I have a job, I work 3-9 on weekdays…
I reject the stupid clubs is because they are about things I have no intrest in. Why join something I have no intrest in. I have no intrest in student council, therefore will not join it, etc.
And what do you mean more serious student, I am going for an art degree there are no textbooks. How can you be an unserious student.</p>
<p>Once again a poster doesn’t have a clue as to what comes out of their brain.</p>
<p>And where exactly do you think that money comes from? People who pay taxes. So let me set it straight here is how it goes OK?</p>
<p>People volunteer –> Money is left unused –> Scholarships are formed and given to people.</p>
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<p>Immature, much? Kid, stop thinking everything in this world is about money. People survive on 2 dollars a day. Just drop the attitude and maybe then you’ll make some friends. I seriously hate people who go to college for the money and NOT a passion for learning. If that’s the case then just go find a job, not like you’ll land a good job with a degree with your people skills.</p>
<p>Dude you know very well I am right. Otherwise we wouldn’t have large corporations that make 100’s of billions of dollars every quarter. I am going to college to get a degree. Learning was in high school, they aren’t teaching me anything I don’t already know, I know how to draw, I know how to use photoshop, they are just sharpening my skills. Its pretty darn sad that you don’t understand thats what college is for, to get a degree and the jobs skills to get a better paying job. Haven’t you noticed those who don’t go to college end up with a less paying job then those who do, seriously. There is no passion for Graphic Design, I liked to draw and I want to use that skill I have to make myself money so that I can have my own house, car, nice stuff. Also, I have faked being a well rounded, open person to get a job before, I can do it again :D</p>