It’s been really only two weeks since the semester started but I can’t help but feel like I’m not connecting. I’m a freshman, and I did know some people from my HS that came here too and I see them pretty much everyday, but they aren’t people that I go out and hang out with. My roommate was a close friend from HS but she quickly got a group of friends and it just wasn’t as easy for me to do the same. Her friends talk to me and we have conversations but it’s just like a talk so we don’t completely ignore each other. But now that my roommate is leaving, I’ll probably lose most of the contact I have with them and now I’ll rally be alone. I just don’t know why I’m not able to make a good enough friends that I can actually hang out with. It was never this hard for me. Everyone seems to have their friend groups all situated so I’m oretty sure I’m going to be in this situation for a while. It just stresses me that i spend most of my time in my dorm and but when I go out i just don’t know what to do.
Has anyone ever been like this or is like this? I know Im probably making this harder for myself but I really don’t know why it’s so hard!
I agree that you should read those old posts for advice. Also know that the majority of those “established” friend groups will change. People now are just desperately clinging to one another, and things will switch when they start to meet people with whom they have more in common.
Those first weeks of freshman year can always been hard. Is there something that you’re interested that you’ve never done before? I know a couple kids that joined clubs that they would have never joined in HS (acapella group and breakdancing club) and they love it! Do you live in the dorm? If so, does your dorm have any social type events? Also, don’t count out classmates. I found some great friends in labs:)
I know this is easy for me to say, but it does get better!