<p>to Skywalker925: says u; try talking to someone who knows better!</p>
<p>If SHE is saying # 1, you have your answer, because if you try and push for # 2 (okay eww) but you can not make a relationship work if one party thinks it should stop, what would be the point? </p>
<p>Is going to be involved in your end of the year celebrations, the prom, etc/</p>
<p>If not, now is the time to decide what to do about that</p>
<p>Remember, if she says # 1 she most likely means it and doesn't want to hurt you, is even slightly pressuring someone to stay with you a good thing? I don't think so</p>
<p>She already has doubts about staying together, if she wanted to spend the summer with you, she would have said so, I don't mean to sound mean, but if she really wanted to make it work over the summer she would have said that</p>
<p>After living together for some time my partner and I have a long distance relationship right now: we live on different continents!!
The key is to keep in touch a lot. We talk at least 1 h a day on phone plus daily emails and chats and every 2-3 months 10 days visits.
Soon we will live closer but still not together because I will go to college and stay in a dorm and we will be able to see each other on the week-ends only. We are doing great and we expect to marrie in the future so we can bear anything on the way now. :D
Looks like your relationship hasn't gone that far otherwise u wouldnt have to ask on forum what to do.
I would say #1.</p>
<p>i'm saying 3... if you really like her don't throw it away.. use your brain... and dont message me saying i'm stupid! its a smart decision!</p>
<p>she wants to stay with me, but is afraid the breakoff will be more difficult in september than in may. she's pushing 1...but she wants 2...at this point the ball is in my court.</p>
<p>I'm in same boat. Go for 1. Take a break from eachother (like 2 weeks) before you regularly (or at all) talk again. Be friends, but nothing more, and by no means spend "as much time with her as possible" - it will either give you or her the wrong idea, and really be a pain when august rolls around.</p>
<p>I had to make this choice when my boyfriend graduated last year. I am now a senior and we decided to stay together despite being on opposite coasts. We are still together and just as close... however none of our friends who went down similar paths stayed together so I guess the moral is that it sometimes works but not always. It just seemed obvious to us at the time that it would probably work. We're a pretty low-maintenance couple...</p>
<p>How far away from each other will you be? Because it probably can't be more than 3,000 miles like it is for me and my boyfriend.</p>
<p>i'm in your shoes, and i'm leaning toward number two..</p>
<p>i'd go with number two. </p>
<p>this way both of you can stay together now and have a good time and enjoy the summer together. </p>
<p>I think that long distance relationships don't work. My two close friends tried to do this and their colleges are only an hour away from eachother and it still failed. Also, the trust factor becomes a big issue. It's better just to have fun in college and if you feel that you need to go back to dating, then do it. But you might as well test out not dating. </p>
<p>I've never personally had a long distance relationship, but I think that they create too many problems. As I said ealier, trust becomes a big issue. I know someone who is currently in a long distance relationship where he just treats the girl horribly and cheats on her, then acts like a good boyfriend when she visits. It's just not worth it.</p>
<p>Also, don't do number one because it will just make things weird between you too. You're planning too far ahead of yourselves. You might as well just have fun now.</p>
<p>I'm a parent of 3. All 3 were in relationships when they left for college. Here's how it worked for them:</p>
<h1>1 son-started dating girl when he was 16, went to 2 different colleges (she one year behind him), dated for those 5 years and are now married. Were able to see each other about once a month and during summer.</h1>
<h1>2 daughter-continued dating guy through first year and summer. Was miserable because he was jealous, questioning her constantly, and demanding phone calls daily, etc. Bad break up.</h1>
<h1>3 son--dated through summer before starting college, but ended up breaking up shortly into first semester, mostly due to trust issues.</h1>
<p>So you see, it's different for everyone, only the two of you can make the decision. If my oldest had dropped his relationship because everyone said it would never work, I wouldn't have the wonderful daughter in law I have now!</p>
<p>well if you did number 1, make sure you don't see eachother during the summer. that would be awkward.</p>
<p>Awk.......warrrrddd</p>
<p>choice #2 dude.</p>
<p>Okay, evertime I see "do # 1 or # 2", i think ,wouldn't it be better to say A B or C..cause....</p>
<p>i flash back to my children proudly saying while potty training, I did # 2 mommy!!!</p>
<p>I'd say kind of in between one and two. If you break it off now it could just get awkward and if you have any hope of being friends it will ruin that, but if you wait till the last minute the first few months of college will be horrible and you'll miss out on a lot. Just give yourself so self-recovery time. </p>
<p>ps- kinda get where you're coming from. My best friend and I live 2 hours apart now and we always debated long distance, but figured we'd wait till college and if we ended up near each other we'd give it a shot. Long story short he'll probably be in VA or NC and I'll be in Nashville so I guess we're just staying friends.</p>