<p>Long story short: High school relationship, pretty damn serious. He's my best friend and more, but he's going to a UC and I'm going to an Ivy. </p>
<p>Suggestions? Comments? Experiences?</p>
<p>I was in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years (we were together for 5). We were engaged and had been together since freshmen year of high school. We recently broke up- but it would have happened long distance or not. I do not regret being long distance in the least. </p>
<p>I would say try it. Honestly. It might fail, but you will always have that question in the back of your mind of “what if?” and it will be hard to move on if you break up SOLELY because it MIGHT not work. </p>
<p>Everyone told me that I’d be miserable and yadda yadda because I’d let my relationship get in the way of having the “college experience” but really, it didn’t. And I would have been miserable if we had broken up before my freshmen year. We weren’t ready to break up yet. </p>
<p>Go for it. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work.</p>
<p>Best of luck. PM me if you want any more advice.</p>
<p>I have not been in that boat, but two close friends of mine were. One finished their senior year while the other finished her sophomore year (high school). He started college that July 4 hours away and didn’t prepare for the emotional toll of a long distance relationship at all. He thought it would be just fine and would go crazy when she was emotional or worried about him finding someone else. They had been dating over 2 years before all of this and after a few months the relationship came to a very unfortunate end.
He came up to visit with the intention of breaking up with her (after developing some feeling for another lass) but used her for sex beforehand. And lots of other unfortunate details.
Anyway, while relationships long distance are hard, they can also really help a couple grow closer. As long as both people prepare for the emotions and hard times, you can develop a really good sense of trust through communication.
While the experience my friends had was not pleasant, (and I don’t really talk to that guy anymore) it was mainly because one of them wasn’t mature (ironically, the older one) enough and was not great at communication.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you!</p>
<p>I just ended my second long distance relationship. If it is, like you said, very serious, then you should definitely go for it.</p>
<p>I entered college while in a relationship of almost two years. It ended after a month and a half, simply because she could not handle the distance.</p>
<p>It would be ridiculous to end a relationship due to the possibility that it might not work out; that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. However, just know that it will be difficult and the chances of it working out in the long run are slim.</p>
<p>One of my friends broke up with her boyfriend before he went off to college, because I guess they didn’t want to do the long distance thing. A few months later, they ended up getting back together and are doing the long-distance thing.</p>
<p>Long-distance relationships aren’t impossible. They happen successfully every day. Just look at the military.</p>
<p>If you can do it, then I would say at least try. It is not something that everyone is cut out for, and you have to think about whether both you and him are capable of it.</p>
<p>I personally can’t do long distance.</p>
<p>OP, I wouldn’t do it. The temptation is strong to see somebody else when you get to college. It doesn’t even have to be intentional, especially at parties. Are you willing to be patient? Are you willing to face the fact that he might see someone else while you are faithful? If not, then don’t do it.</p>
<p>If you are serious, then go for it. As others have said, it isn’t worth breaking off a serious relationship over distance. It can work; there’s no guarantee that it will work, but it can. Good luck.</p>
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This would not be true if the relationship was, in fact, serious.</p>
<p>Because you have been part of a long distance relationship right</p>
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Because I am currently in a long distance relationship, right.</p>
<p>Good luck on it</p>
<p>Not gonna lie, it REALLY sucks–we’re into our third year LD, and it is very painful, imo.</p>
<p>BUT…if he/she’s the one, I say go for it. If not, I say think about it…I’d at least try if it’s something serious, but forget it if neither of you are willing to make enough time, compromises, and effort to see each other and be together in other little ways!</p>
<p>A huge factor is how often you guys get to see each other–any ideas? If it’s every weekend, or at least several times per month, I’d say DEFINITELY go for it. If it’s a few times a year…or a few times per month/semester…hmmmmm…think about it.</p>
<p>If you don’t already have Skype, I would strongly suggest getting it and investing in a good webcam.</p>
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Thanks.</p>
<p>Hey BillyMC, how often do you visit your SO? I am wondering, because I find that after a certain point, webcam just doesn’t work anymore to keep the relationship working well.</p>
<p>Yeah OP, I’ll change my answer. Do whatever you want. As you and BillyMc said, you have a serious relationship and it can’t hurt to try. Just keep in mind the factors in my previous post.</p>
<p>I’ve been in a long distance (Maryland to Montana) relationship since July 2010. It’s working well so far. We’ve been dating since March 2010.</p>
<p>Thanks for all your advice!</p>
<p>I’m not totally sure if we’re going to go for it, but for certain we’ll keep in contact (of course, there’s still a 4 month summer!) and everything even if we’re not in an official relationship.</p>
<p>Our relationship is not one of those relationship where the people only text and stuff, there’s still something personal and humane in it (if that even makes sense?). Like, I miss his actual presence when he is not around. (I don’t know if this is needy, or just pathetic 
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<p>Also, as great as skype is, there’s still the 3 hour time span between, and we’re pretty much constantly together. However! I can’t imagine living without him, or not laughing every day with him, or telling him something I noticed throughout the day. I know people always use the “you’re just in high school,” but I believe it’s pretty serious, and for that, it’s going to be worth a try.</p>
<p>Thanks again for all your comments, please keep the coming if you can or want!</p>
<p>Three hours isn’t very long at all (:
I say try, worse comes to worse… it won’t work out.</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 1/2 years. We’re best friends and madly in love. ATM, we both live outside of Munich, Germany. This summer I’ll be going to Boston for college, and we’re going to give it a shot. It’s been my dream for years to go to college in Boston and while he didn’t want to accept it at first, he now supports me 100%. Yes, we’re both scared. We’re terrified. But we’ve both come to see it as an exciting challenge that’s coming up. If we can do long distance, we can do anything.</p>
<p>Like others have said, it’s definitely worth giving it a shot. You’ll never know if it will work out if you never try. Get skype!</p>
<p>And have a look at this forum, it helped me a lot when I was trying to find a way to show him that it could work out. </p>
<p>lovingfromadistance.com</p>