I’m currently in my second semester of my freshman year of college. I have many people that I talk to in classes and I’m on a few clubs but other than that I’m pretty much on my own. I dread the weekends because most of the time I never have plans with anyone and the thought of sitting in my room alone freaks me out even though I was perfectly content with doing that at home. There are a few girls from my hall that I hang out with occasionally but I feel bad always asking them to hang out because I feel that they will eventually get annoyed. I’m not the type of person to reach out to someone because I fear rejection. I guess I’m just looking for advice on how to deal with being alone and how to reach out to people.
Take a look at this concurrent post.
http://talk.qa.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/2122251-college-is-lonely.html#latest
My daughter went through this, and the best thing she did was volunteer. She met like-minded people and met her “tribe” through those activities. There are things to do and places to go to, on the weekend, and when you volunteer for something.
The point is, you need to get out and start “doing”.
You have it in you.
Now: you need to be comfortable with yourself and learn to do things by yourself, on your own. Remember, that you are a good person and you have good qualities: this is evident from your post.
Unfortunately, this is just training for later, when you finish college and have to do things on your own. But it bites!
Please take care of yourself.
You were smart enough to get into college. You’re getting through your classes and dealing with laundry, chores, etc.
YOU CAN DO THIS! Good luck!
Thank you. My issue is that my university doesn’t hold any events on the weekends so campus is basically a ghost town. Another thing is that I don’t have a car which makes finding things to do difficult as well.
@violetx I’m going through the same situation. We can form a little support group and work through things together
Maybe try growing relationships with the people you talk to you in your classes. You could start small like asking if they want to have lunch together, or get together to work on an assignment, etc. If your college has a gym with exercise classes, this can be a good way to meet some new people, find a class you like and go regularly. When you pass by some of these people you chat with, smile. Are you in a single room? On weekends, maybe prop your door open, if people are gathering in your hall.
Start a “weekends club”. Put it up on fb, twitter, whatever your school uses most.
Go post on your snapchat or insta: “hmu”
@xxluvforeverxx i’m glad to know i’m not alone in this. a support group would be nice!