<p>So I live below these people who basically talk really loud and act douchy until 2 or 3 in the morning every day. My roommate and I haven't had a good night's sleep since we moved in almost 3 weeks ago. These people apparently don't know a thing about quiet hours (was never mentioned by our RA during the first building meeting). We talked to our RA about it and she wants us to try to resolve it first.</p>
<p>We're planning on talking with those people tonight, but it's to the point where I'm thinking of attempting to reassigning or just commute from home, since I've been either a) not being able to sleep at all due to the new environment or b) getting 2 or 3 hours MAX per night because these guys likes to talk so loud that we can hear them AND they throw or bang things around until 3 am or whenever they go to sleep.</p>
<p>What should I do at this point, besides talking to our RA which we already did and the actual people themselves which we are going to do tonight?</p>
<p>p.s. we're pretty sure these people are the ONLY ones that actually parties and talk loud as heck because there are more girls in our apartment complex than guys</p>
<p>Our RA actually wants us to try to confront them first, to make it seem less hostile…at least that’s what I think shes trying to do…my roommate wants to just call campus police instead…</p>
<p>but maybe the people in the apartment above you don’t realize they are being a problem for you?</p>
<p>especially for people who possibly were raised in single- family homes, they may not realize quite how their noise carries downstairs.</p>
<p>Perhaps you could knock nicely on their door around 10 o’clock, and say, hey , we don’t think you realize there is a problem…we have early classes and would really appreciate it if you could hold it down after midnight? Thanks!</p>
<p>If this doesn’t work after one or two friendly reminders, then you can go to the RA of the floor above you and let the RA know there is a problem.</p>
<p>One other thing…a lot of times this behaviour resolves itself in a few weeks (at least on week nights) when the work load gets heavier and the first grades on assignments/tests roll in.</p>
<p>Wow. People. Ever heard of personal responsibility?</p>
<p>Just don’t be a total *******. Go up there and say “Hey, we’re really trying to get some sleep, do you think you could be a tad quieter?”</p>
<p>They’ll either A) be like “Oh sorry. We’ll shut up” (and shut up), B) be like “Oh sorry. We’ll shut up” (and not shut up), or C) just be total ******s.</p>
<p>After you ask them to be quiet, if they’re not quiet, then get your RA involved. Simple as that.</p>
<p>In my experience, in my dorm at least, every time I’ve asked someone to be quieter or knew someone who asked someone to be quieter, they were. Half the time, they just don’t realize how loud they’re being.</p>
<p>^Has nothing to do with personal responsibility. Nobody’s saying that the OP can’t handle the problem alone. The point is that the OP asked the RA to take care of it and its the RA’s responsibility to take care of it.</p>
<p>As long as you’re not being rude there’s no problem in talking to your neighbor on your own, but there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to avoid a confrontation altogether and ask the RA to handle it.</p>
<p>I don’t understand why you would get your RA involved first? The way it works, at my college at least, is that you try to solve the problem on your own first. People make loud noises? Go say “Hey. Do you think you could be a bit quieter?”. If that doesn’t work, then you go get your RM.</p>
<p>And in my experience, OP, people have always quieted down whenever I nicely asked them to. Including at five in the morning when I heard one guy come cuss out my neighbors telling them to turn off their music. (And believe me, it was a string of explicatives).</p>
<p>I also would tend to think that it makes the situation a whole lot worse when an RM is the one who first does the talking rather than the person complaining.</p>
<p>^ totally agree. how socially awkward are you guys that you don’t confront the problem yourself with a sentence or two and instead resort to tattling on them to your RA? LOL…</p>
<p>Personally I would confront the person myself. I did exactly that this morning because the kids next to me had their tv on all night long. I guess its right next to the wall because I heard it the entire night. This morning i talked to them about it.</p>
<p>I’m simply saying that you can take either option. If you’re not comfortable with confrontation then there’s nothing wrong with asking your RA to handle it, because that’s what they’re spposed to do anyways. The RA really had no business telling the op to do something else.</p>
<p>There was someone directly across the hall from me last year who would frequently host loud parties. I don’t quite get how, but it seemed like he crammed 15 people into his tiny single. These parties would typically involve loud pulsating music and loud women well past quiet hours. </p>
<p>Fortunately for me, I’m able to fall asleep/work despite that sort of noise, but when it was a nuisance, he was totally cool about having his assembled masses turn it down a bit, and he would even occasionally make sure that his festivities weren’t causing too much of a disturbance.</p>
<p>Lesson is: loud =/= rectal orifice. go talk to them politely and see where that gets you.</p>
<p>Well, my roommate and I ended up talking to those fellows upstairs, and apparently they didn’t realize we could hear them talking from downstairs because of the crazily thin walls. They promised to tone it way down, which they did last night. </p>
<p>And we aren’t socially awkward, we were just hoping they’d calm down once school started…we were waiting until the last possible moment to tell them…</p>