<p>What do y'all think of serious dating/marriage as a pre-med or in med school?</p>
<p>i think as a pre-med serious dating is easier if your bf/gf is also a pre-med or is a serious student. I think it is difficult if one of you slacks off while the other has to study continuously as most pre-meds have to do.</p>
<p>It's no different than serious dating otherwise.</p>
<p>Actually, I've always had the philosophy that I really only wanted to date outside of medicine. A two-doctor family can be easier in some ways, but time-wise, it can be really hard.</p>
<p>Needless to say, I plan on studying in law school libraries...</p>
<p>Nice, that's a good idea.</p>
<p>I'm constantly split between going with a med student and wanting someone outside of medicine...I tend to have a lot of inside jokes, and it's great in med school, b/c I can make some really corny ones that ONLY a medical student would get...</p>
<p>At the same time that makes me feel incredibly nerdy...</p>
<p>I don't think it was that big of deal in undergrad having a girlfriend regardless of major. But then again, I think I've discussed my study habits as being atypical of most pre-meds (ie I didn't study as hard as most) several other times on this board. However med school has turned out to be a different beast and I know that I would need a particular type of independent girl to handle the fact that I would disappear for weeks at a time. This is a problem as I tend to draw needy girls...</p>
<p>Here is a nice article by a Harvard Medical School MS-III entitled "Love in the time of medical school."
<a href="http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m3225/is_5_66/ai_92233571%5B/url%5D">www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m3225/is_5_66/ai_92233571</a>
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Excerpt: Birds do it. Bees do it. And, occasionally, overeducated and sleep-deprived medical students manage to do it. At some point in nearly every medical student's career, love happens. Whether it is the concept of "forever" or a momentary lapse of sanity, relationships during medical training do happen. The outcome of these relationships seems, at best, unpredictable.
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<p>A 1997 Hopkins study (cited in the above article) examined physician divorce rates.
<a href="http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/press/1997/MARCH/199703.HTM%5B/url%5D">www.hopkinsmedicine.org/press/1997/MARCH/199703.HTM</a></p>
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Excerpt: The Hopkins team assessed the specialty choices, marriage histories, psychological characteristics, and other career and personal factors of 1,118 physicians who graduated from The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine from 1948 through 1964.</p>
<p>Over 30 years of follow-up, the divorce rate was 51 percent for psychiatrists, 33 percent for surgeons, 24 percent for internists, 22 percent for pediatricians and pathologists, and 31 percent for other specialties. The overall divorce rate was 29 percent after three decades of follow-up and 32 percent after nearly four decades of follow-up.</p>
<p>Physicians who married before medical school graduation had a higher divorce rate than those who waited until after graduation (33 percent versus 23 percent).
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<p>That's weird. Time-wise, psych is probably one of the least brutal on a marriage - but that gap is huge.</p>
<p>Any idea how that compares to social baselines?</p>
<p>O well, most women in med schools are ugly anyways... just kidding.</p>
<p>Well......I think it is different for women. I would like to hear another woman's opinion on this matter. After all, we are the ones who have to consider having kids amongst other things......I think it will be hard but it also takes dedication.</p>
<p>If you work in a hospital you will come to notice lots of the female doctors and nurses are very hot. Personally I couldnt imagine dating out of medicine, because I would imagine them complaining about hours and not enough attention, etc etc. Within medicine its just easier for both people to understand what they are going through. </p>
<p>On the topic of psychiatrists getting divorced, I know of one, and yeah she is divorced and remarried. I also know of a few surgeons who are divorced, and remarried. As far as the internal med docs none that I know of are divorced</p>
<p>I think I don't care what the guy's major is, but in the end, I'd want him to be a pre-med, too. Unless, one goes through the pain of becoming a dr, one can't understand the stress/time commitments.</p>
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Excerpt: The Hopkins team assessed the specialty choices, marriage histories, psychological characteristics, and other career and personal factors of 1,118 physicians who graduated from The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine from 1948 through 1964.</p>
<p>Over 30 years of follow-up, the divorce rate was 51 percent for psychiatrists, 33 percent for surgeons, 24 percent for internists, 22 percent for pediatricians and pathologists, and 31 percent for other specialties. The overall divorce rate was 29 percent after three decades of follow-up and 32 percent after nearly four decades of follow-up.</p>
<p>Physicians who married before medical school graduation had a higher divorce rate than those who waited until after graduation (33 percent versus 23 percent)."</p>
<p>Does anyone know the nation averages for divorce? Because this sounds right about on average for anyone of any career.... if not lower.</p>
<p>As to national divorce rate:
"Most recently, according to the New York Times, it has been revised downward to just over 40%."</p>
<p>for premeds...find love with someone smarter than you so u can study together (**** im already starting to think like premed :(!!!)</p>
<p>Lol is that actually love then?</p>
<p>quote :"Well......I think it is different for women. I would like to hear another woman's opinion on this matter. After all, we are the ones who have to consider having kids amongst other things......I think it will be hard but it also takes dedication."</p>
<p>I think the best situation I saw as far as kids and mom doc was a dentist who worked three days a week (that's all her office was open) and she had a room there that was the nursery and she had a nanny who took care of the child. </p>
<p>I've also see women ER docs - they work on salary and go home . That worked well for them. </p>
<p>But the honest truth is, everyone knows that being a doctor is demanding and whether people like it or not, to properly and lovingly raise a child it takes one on one time and effort and dedication. They shouldn't be thought of as an afterthought or get the left overs. </p>
<p>Women docs could marry men who want to stay home and raise children or maybe they should consider not having children at all. That goes for men, too, if they do not marry a spouse who is willing and able.</p>
<p>yes....why of course it is....i love to get good grades :)</p>
<p>Most of the women my husband was in med school with who wanted families ended up in HMO type practices (regular hours, no call), or dermatology, rheumatology, infectious disease, and other subspecialties that were more consulting based and no true call time. These practices worked well for them and they were able to do 2,3, 4 days a week or whatever worked for them.</p>
<p>Many of the ER docs at the hospital I work at are women.</p>
<p>I think gender shouldn't matter. I know a lot of couples where the female doctor works and the male stays home.....the male is often a doctor as well.</p>