Made pretty much no friends freshman year

Since the year is pretty much over I have been thinking a lot about how much of a failure my freshman year of college was. I made friends with like 3 people sorta. But two were seniors so they’re leaving and I’m not even particularly close with the other guy. Everyone in my hall was always just super unfriendly and there wasn’t any sort of common area in my building. Also it was apartment style dorms and I was roomed with a kid I went to high school with. We live 12 hours away from where we go to school and thought we would be paired with 2 other people but we weren’t. I applied to some other schools but It just really sucks because I enjoy my major classes a lot just everything else isn’t great.

I thought maybe joining a fraternity would help but I rushed one mainly with a lot of other kids in my building and it didn’t really work out. I guess I could rush more fraternities in the fall and do a better job of going to more stuff that they have during rush but I would feel horrible if I couldn’t get a bid anywhere because it seems like the only thing you can do if you’re not in a fraternity at my school is go to the bars which isn’t even fun when it’s just me and my roommate.

I feel absolutely miserable because I have a great group of friends at home and I have absolutely nothing in college. I feel like I’ve been seriously depressed in college and I feel like such a loser. I honestly can’t stand myself sometimes.

I keep hearing that you make a lot of your college friends freshman year in your building and stuff. But I didn’t have that and if the next 2 or 3 years or like this I feel like I’m not going to make it because I feel so miserable. Even since we got sent home for the coronavirus all I can think about was how I made no friends this year and how nobody at all from school will miss me or anything. I’ll have no one to look forward to seeing again, I’ll just have being sad that I’m leaving all my high school friends again.

I’m worried that if I transfer it will be the same thing and that all my credits won’t transfer or something. I don’t know what to do because I like my classes but I don’t want to be absolutely miserable for 3 more years

Also I’m in a club but it’s political and those kids aren’t exactly my regular crowd of people and the two seniors I was friends with lead it but I don’t think it’ll even be worth going to next year when they’re gone.

Has anyone ever gone through anything similar? I don’t want next year to be the same thing and I’m sick of feeling so depressed

So this year was very unusual in that you didn’t get to finish the semester. You just got started second semester and everyone was sent home. Keep that in mind and don’t be so hard on yourself. Look at next year as a fresh start. Try not to look back.

Focus on getting your online work done, a summer job, and living in the moment. As you return to campus next fall think about what you can do differently to meet people and find your niche. Can you interview to be a leader for freshman orientation (maybe that didn’t even get set up yet for next year)? That is a great way to be part of a group and meet a lot of new people looking to meet others. View your school with a fresh eye and stay positive.

This year you had about 5+ months of a freshman year. That’s not a lot of time to have things how you would like. I bet you aren’t the only person who feels that way. You’re ok - you like your classes and got your feet wet as a college student. Return in the fall with a new attitude and a fresh approach.

Have you tried the things in this post?
http://talk.qa.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1808143-having-trouble-adjusting-to-college-making-friends-top-10-things-to-do.html

Don’t worry, sophomore year will be a fresh start! Greek life can be a great way to make friends! One mistake many people make is rushing the same fraternity as other “acquaintances”. Most chapters attract a certain type of personality so rushing one others are rushing and it may not necessarily be the best fit. I’m a former recruitment chair and IFV Exec member and there’s been so many people I’ve seen rush a particular chapter that his roomates are rushing yet be bidless in the end because he didn’t fit in well. Even if you don’t rush, try and make friends wherever you live. Participating in IM sports or even introducing yourself to classmates can help. I met one of my closest friends in office hours.