<p>Is your child still close to his/her hometown friends? My daughter arrived at bs, as a ninth grader, with a huge stack of pictures of her hometown friends and a photobook of 8th grade adventures. Little by little, those relationships have faded. To the point now (2 years later) that reconnecting with her friends at home during breaks is very secondary. And it seems to be her doing, not theirs. She makes almost no effort to keep things going. It is her choice, but I wonder if she will regret this down the road. She says they have very little in common now and that her best friends are the ones at her school.
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<p>I think there is a natural transition of friends that occurs between MS and HS, so I am not sure that my D would have kept her MS friends anyway. She is a day student, so the MS friends are around. There are a few she keeps in touch with and sees occasionally, but mostly hangs with BS friends and friends from her summer program.</p>
<p>I believe this can vary a lot depending on the person … some people naturally keep connections with people throughout their life … while others tend to focus on those with whom they currently are living their day-to-day life … neither is better or worse; just different.</p>
<p>I would agree with 3togo, varies from child to child. My S has stayed close to his best friends at home but many of them went away too so it was not like he was odd man out… When they all come home at break times, they all get together like old times.</p>
<p>I’ve got son home for the weekend right now and there is a new friend from bs and an old one from middle school having a blast in my living room at the moment. You wouldn’t think they just met.</p>
<p>i think its hard because on one hand the kids the child is friends with at home have basically moved on and at times the child talks to them, but it isnt the same anymore. on the other hand sometimes the child feels like they are making the effort but their “friends” arent</p>