<p>I just read that Wesleyan allows males and females to room together in dorms.</p>
<p>Being a gay male who is a bit aprehensive to room with another guy, seeing as I associate with females more, I thought this was a great idea!</p>
<p>Does anyone know if it's available for freshmen? Or is it only for non-freshmen?</p>
<p>This is actually a matter of some resentment between the general student body and the administration.</p>
<p>The short answer is that no, it's not really available for freshmen. If you have extenuating circumstances and mention them on your application, then they might consider it, but the policy has changed a little from year to year and they haven't been great about telling the student body what those changes are. It's not even Reslife's fault - they are very supportive of gender-neutral housing - it's just a general lack of communication, and lack of support from the higher-up administration.</p>
<p>However, if rooming with another guy does make you feel pretty uncomfortable, and you mention that on your application, they will definitely at least try to give you a single (yes, freshmen can get singles!)</p>
<p>That's unfortunate.</p>
<p>For a male-female roommate thing, do you have to be friends with a female and then mutually arrange to room together?</p>
<p>In theory, no. At one point ResLife interpreted the policy to be such that you could check either "I want a standard (same legal sex) roommate assignment" or "I do not want my legal sex to be considered when assigning me a roommate." A lot of people were confused/disturbed by this and several upper-level (ie, higher than ResLife) administrators and even the trustees stepped in to discontinue this practice.</p>
<p>Its status is currently still in the air. The incoming frosh housing application apparently has space to explain why you would not feel comfortable with a roommate of the same legal sex, although I don't think there has ever to this day been an official, University-sanctioned M/F freshman roommate pair.</p>
<p>Note that as sophomores, juniors and seniors your housing group can consist of anyone regardless of sex or gender.</p>
<p>So, technically, I COULD possibly get a female roommate freshman, year, although there's no way for me to DEFINATELY make sure of this?</p>
<p>lol... I thought this was nice and simple. :-(</p>
<p>There is no chance in H. that a freshman girl's parents would let her room with a boy she's never met, even if he swears he's gay.</p>
<p>kev07wan- As madjoy says, although it's unlikely that you could actually get assigned to room with a biological female, you can definitely get a single room. Who knows, maybe with the new president next year, gender neutral housing will be available to frosh. I hope so.</p>
<p>greennblue- nobody would ever be put in a rooming situation other than same-legal-sex unless they specifically requested it.</p>
<p>Legally speaking, if the student is 18 then the parents have no official agency to control their decisions on things like who to room with (short of refusing to pay tuition, I suppose).</p>
<p>Besides, the gender-neutral housing option was, for the most part, meant to help people who didn't see themselves as fitting into one of the two existing socially sanctioned categories of "man who is attracted to women" and "woman who is attracted to men." I don't see why a parent wouldn't want their child to feel comfortable in their own housing situation.</p>
<p>"Legally speaking, if the student is 18 then the parents have no official agency to control their decisions on things like who to room with (short of refusing to pay tuition, I suppose)."</p>
<p>LOL. Speaking for the parents, we hope to have <em>some</em> say after we fork over the 40 grand!</p>
<p>Sorry froshdad, that's not how it goes. Either you pay up or you don't. The student should be free to make any decisions he/she wants. If you don't like said decisions, then pull the plug.</p>
<p>I'm pretty certain "some say" and the mention of the cost of attending implied pulling the plug if parental wishes weren't complied with. But that's a family issue. I agree; no way in Hell the school's going to initiate such an arrangement. My other D goes to SLC and had a male/female couple as suite-mates. It didn't seem that unusual.</p>